How to deal with violent-tempered child

This is a 30 year old woman, handsome, but unfortunately face dishes, premature wrinkles up the forehead. Obviously, their hearts are experiencing some pain of suffering.
Pour a cup of water to her assistant, she politely took only sipped a, opening her complaint case saying: \"my son as a child, very cute and funny like. Later, don\'t know when to start, he learned to temper, temper, nine head of cattle also does not turn. As long as he wants to do or what you want, we must meet him immediately. Otherwise, he would cry, roll, throw things or destroy things, self-destruction-with bang one\'s head or even beat their heads with their hands. His father character popular, he would get his dad to play. The more you play, the more he Jiang, it\'s not of weakness. Was about to churenming, I had to plead with his dad calm one\'s anger, his dad opened. Then, they try to meet the requirements of children. I\'m the sandwich cake. get marked on both sides. His father complain I\'m nursing the child, and son don\'t show me love. ”
The Lady, the told the sad, finally speaking up.
\"How old is your son?\"
\"Only 4 years old, was less than 5 years old. ”
Psychiatrists with bottom, he began to give the Lady patience detailed explanation.
General about 3 years old children begin a desire for independence and self-consciousness of initiation. They did not want to take things a parent control, mercy to parents package or objectionable. When adults when their demands are not met, they would break out inner dissatisfaction without reservation. In addition, children only just simple life with some preliminary knowledge and life experience, to take all kinds of things of the world does not understand, they are independent, but done well, in this case, they will not achieve the purpose of temper.
Children are not good at words, some things they say, so the adults insisted that he did not want to do things, or adults adhering cannot promise when their demands, they would have lost his temper to give vent to their repressed emotions.
Human children temper, apart from stubborn temper, there was \"little smart\". They can grasp the adults \' psychological also mastered a set of rules: as long as the spoiled, and wind, the last one adult to temper, what purpose can be achieved.
Children lost his temper and act shamelessly, originally as a means of coercion against the adults, but you don\'t want too far. However, temper, excessive flood of excitement like burst its banks, Pentium ROAR, sensible loss, gave emotional about, just to run, little room for without leaving. Later, though has come up, but I kind of like bang one\'s head when angry, broken behavior of favorite toys but also feel regret and even guilt. At the same time, taste of taste have no alternative but to their own behavior, and experience that they can do, then they will feel inferior and suffering.
Therefore, to fit children, parents should adhere to two principles:
A is never scolded or corporal punishment of children.
Second, firmly dragging children, do not let your child run of destruction and ruin.
The first principle is important because rebuke is equal to the flames, the opposite. Especially the way parents furious, furious, is a child lost his temper \"examples\". Notes, softness can overcome the hardest, and can\'t just g soft.
Focus of the second principle, is sister of love and good wishes, help children control difficult emotions to self-made, so he stood motionless for 5 minutes, will calm down the mood of the outbreak.
After the children have temper, should talk with the child, educating the children about harm of temper, learned to control the feelings by reason. Normally, to give reasonable requirements for the child should take the initiative to meet, unreasonable demands firm does not meet, not can not run too, to let children understand: must speak truth in all things, anywhere.
Finally, psychiatrists also got counseling: on human spleen in children, the aperture must be consistent for parent education, not poles apart; education must persist, persist for some time, things will get better.