Baby Be bashful period begins

Have you noticed: when neighbors aunt to touch the baby when he burst out crying; when you came home guest, he would have been hiding in your bosom, and seems to be very afraid. Baby of the perverse move is telling you-Be bashful period begins.

\"I almost don\'t know their eight-month-old daughter, she seemed like a changed man. When we go out, she\'s always hiding in my arms, afraid of other people\'s eyes, very shy, and even some panic. Even those who she was often seen to greet her, she would \"scare\" was crying. \"The worried mother for baby anomaly, and seek methods to solve the problem to us, in fact, the answer is clear: her children began to be shy with strangers.

Almost every baby in about one year experience of the so-called \"be shy with strangers period.\" Most MOM and dad when you experience this problem will be very surprised, why children suddenly change disposition, and often have drastic reaction? From Germany University of Mannheim pedagogy expert Dr Christiane, by observed: \"baby Be bashful as she\'s grown and naturally occurring in the period, probably overnight, Be bashful period will come.\"

Baby Be bashful caused mainly due to his mental development

Most of the children Be bashful in eight months of the commencement of the time, so people have called this period \"in August of fear\". Time to 12-month-old, this phenomenon will disappear, but also some children it will be continued until the age of three. Children in this period be shy with strangers, in fact, is the performance of their mental development.

0-8 months, things for the baby, just do not exist, including parents and strangers. That is not familiar or unfamiliar concepts, nor be shy with strangers reactions. Although sometimes the baby can be identified by the sound and smell MOM, but the more it was time for someone to take care of him, as to who this person is, the baby does not matter, he just didn\'t want to stay alone.

8-12 months, babies begin to enter \"contact\", he started and some were impressed by his men established contact, usually these are MOM and dad, or when the baby is hungry, sleepy, or afraid, who can help. Experts explained that says: \"be shy with strangers is a flag that shows children started to establish links with certain specific people. \"So when the baby is realized when the mother is not in the room, she cried, because he needs her mother\'s company. And the children to look, sound, others from their \"contact\" out, and a wary, keeping a certain distance of attitude towards them.

Why be shy with strangers appear during this period, up to now still don\'t know. Scientists have speculated that early fear can have on child survival is important. They explained that \"Be bashful General produced children 8-12 months, this is when learning to walk. Children at this time to figure out how to make the trust of his people to stay in the side, to help him deal with the dangers encountered when learning to walk, so strangers will have a backlash. ”

After December, can be, Be bashful disappear as the child grows slowly. Began to shy child will learn in the next few months how to trust his \"contacts\", because they always have to be by his side. Gradually children experience helped him form the feeling in his time of need, my mother really appears immediately, so he is not so afraid of strange things, have shy reactions slowly disappear.

Shy reactions and is determined by the child\'s temperament

Different degree Be bashful of children is not the same, some children suddenly became a little shy, hiding in his mother\'s behind, but do not forget to secretly look; greet some children when he and others, or when he is crying ran up to her mother. Be bashful methods and intensity of the reaction was born to a large extent, determined by the child\'s temperament.

If a child the more cry more, there is no way to coax, but as long as strangers approached, there is such a reaction, may be a developmental disorder, should take him to see a pediatrician. Similarly, if the children do not be shy with strangers, is not normal, and this means that any child and to establish a deeper connection. In other words he may even your MOM and dad didn\'t recognize it. So children have to be shy with strangers, one of these is a sign of his growing.

Slowly closer to shy child

All in all. For those shy child, and when they contact should try to create a \"you are the trusted\" atmosphere. If the tactic failed, you can give children a toy, seek his favor to you, and then began to talk to him.

Slowly closer to shy child. In addition, treatment of shy child, should be slowly towards him, with a gentle voice and talk to him, as when children send access signal, close to him again. This is better than \"unexpectedly\" and stroked him better.

To talk to strangers. Experience has shown that if a child from an early age often dealing with strangers, or live in a family, shy reaction is not so strong. It also reminds the father and mother do not hold and never give up her child, preferably from among the crowd let him live in the neonatal period, such as often was home care by relatives or friends to your baby for a few hours.

Don\'t think that was their own lack of education. Another point is, boy was tall, a loud voice, a bearded face men fear showed in particular. One of the reasons is such a visual impression of the mother and child was too much difference. In addition, if not the bearded man, but a parent on the child\'s aunt in the child\'s face, will also lead to cry loudly as the \"Kiss\" and \"receipt\". You don\'t have to be rude and blame their lack of education for their children. Be bashful is actually a \"reversion\", from the evolutionary biology point of view because our ancestors--

Erectus, did not have so much courtesy and also cannot keep his feelings.

Mothers are shy of doubt

Q: Be bashful phenomenon always when children eight months start?

A some babies five-month-old has already begun, others began only ten months old. However Be bashful in fetal period as shown: taste of fetal awareness by amniotic fluid has a mother. Newborn baby by taste of understanding mother. After a few weeks, he has learned to distinguish mother\'s voice from other people. At four months, baby just walk of posture and locomotion rhythms and movements can recognize the mother. Some point in the half-year old, children – all these impressions are combined make up a person\'s image. The man always freed him from the unpleasant state and make him regain peace of mind and satisfaction. In other words Be bashful appears as babies grow naturally.

Q: if I often hold him in the children be shy with strangers, will spoil him?

A better not at the request of children had not been made to you or he shows no such desire, initiative to hold him. On the contrary, children feel afraid because be shy with strangers, when you wanted your embrace, you should be timely to comfort him. Some people think that putting children into the arms of a stranger, you can so that he no longer be shy with strangers, this idea is wrong. Because in a tense state, baby brain can\'t tell who is friendly to him, reluctantly let strangers embracing him, will only make him afraid.

Q: Be bashful stage, whether it is best to let the children stay at home?

A baby can deal and people normally, but never forced children, for example, against his will, let him stranger contact, even put him in a stranger there. Is the correct way, shy and others familiar with the baby, then arranged for them alone. These \"strangers\" you should wait until the baby invite you – baby showed him staring at him or something. In any case don\'t immediately and the baby have been in contact. Shy child does not like to be other people staring.