Fear or fear is a human instinct, but when it is first of it? In recent years, foreign experts in medicine, psychology research has shown that fear or fear from the birth began. As a parent, is important to understand child\'s feeling, because it can teach parents how to treat the children of this feeling is important, of promoting the child\'s growth and development of physical and mental health.
Positive meaning of fear for survival
What is the meaning of fear or fear? Fear is real or can be a normal physiological response to perceived threats. When dangerous after the lift, the fear will disappear. Fear can prepare people to avoid danger, hurt or in danger when the inevitable resistance or pressure. Therefore fear on a person\'s existence is positive.
Fear of environment is closely linked with the outside world, a person on it on the feeling and understanding of differences, directly affect the fear and the fear of strength. For example, to stir up fear of infants to stimulate, may not make the school-age children are afraid.
Features of fear or fear of children
Fear or fear in children, in general are relatively minor, and age characteristics, is temporary. Some fear, will disappear as the child\'s normal development process. Children of different ages have different objects of fear, a fear of age-specific content as well as fear strength, depending on the course of each child\'s learning and experience. As they recognize the level of increase, the accumulation of experience, children will have more experience to judge whether the new environment with new Office or threatening, reactions to these environments will also change with age.
Fear of children of different ages
1-6 months
Infants in the early days, hearing is more sensitive. Therefore, larger noise frightened the baby. But occasionally one or two stimulus, and will not have an adverse effect on them. The baby\'s cries, given enough to appease you. Avoid continuous baby to accept their fear of noise continued to intensify.
6-9 months
In infancy, for a novel stimulus, especially strangers, the resulting response depends on a variety of situational factors. For example, babies the familiar presence is not present, close with familiar people, where the environment is familiar with the experience of previous contact with strangers, what are the alternative response (baby can climb to the mother or there) and baby personality characteristics, characteristics of a stranger, stranger close to babies, and so on.
Babies to strangers and generally have a sense of fear, but are different in different cases. In one environment, see strangers cry baby or evaded, and in another case, it may interest to strangers, and willing to contact attitude. Therefore, in this period, parents need to remain vigilant on infant contact with strangers, providing a safer environment for them as possible. When unrest occurs in infants, parents should keep up to date with comfort.
The same period, the infant will provide the high degree of fear. Because babies have high perceived at this time. To nine months, physical development has enabled them to stand up and crawling, but these sports ability to master, not enough to enable them to cope with the fear of height, the fear of height is almost born. However, to grow as baby age, body control enhancements, this fear will gradually disappear.
12-24 months
Resulting from the child and caregiver separation anxiety, peaks appear in the 18-24 months, and is a very common response. Children\'s reactions to separation, depends on many factors, including age, isolation of the past experience, the controls on the environment, level of cognitive, personality characteristics, good or bad, and the relationship between mother and child at the time of separation behavior of the mother. When when the child enters preschool, and separation of guardians also under the influence of other factors, such as whether the person familiar with the present environment is familiar with how children\'s social competence. Typically establish a secure attachment relationship between child and mother, maternal separation anxiety is much more visible light when you leave. They know that mother will be back, while his mother away will stay in a more appropriate environment.
This shows that establish a secure attachment between mother and son relationship is extremely important. At the same time, should also pay attention to mother-child separation to be carried out gradually. For example, to start a short separation time and gradually lengthen the time. Need to be reminded of is that caregivers came back within a certain time to assure the child that, let the child psychology with bottom.
After the age of 2
After entering the second year, fear of children becomes more personal. For more specific stimulation of fear reactions, giving way to imagine something out of fear and the fear of intended learning situation, such as solitude, darkness, death, kidnapping and robbery, and so on. In General, these fears peaked in at the age of four, and in this age of 4-6 to maintain peak after peak began to fall.
6-12
During the 6-12 period, most fear and school, related to physical damage and natural disasters. More abstract social anxiety and anxiety appear in scores, injury, nature of time and social fear can sustain life. During this period, children begin to die. Sometimes their hands were bleeding, ran to tell his mother: \"my hands were bleeding. \"Are likely to say these words is the subtext of\" I will die? \"Mother guarantees on this bleeding does not have any problems, will be the assurance of the child.
In addition to their concern for children, parents will be concerned about. They are afraid of death, so that would have no one to take care of them. So, let children feel protected, is very beneficial to their development. This feeling, verbal guarantees can come from parents, or from a parent action.
Observe the child\'s abnormal fear
During the classification and diagnosis in the fear of children, must test the child\'s developmental stages and the seriousness of the acts. Some fear at a specific age or developmental stage is considered to be normal, but the same fear appears in a different age, may be determined to be not working properly. For example, separation anxiety occurs in young children who are expected, but if they occur in school-age children who are not normal. Therefore, parents need to closely watch their children, if the expected fear was too serious, and even affect the adaptation or development of children, the fear is an exception.
Fear or fear are limited, when external, no dangerous objects or environments produce extreme, persistent and maladjustment of fear, becomes a phobia, for example, the stranger, alone, dark, animal, and so on. Children generally have extremely unpleasant experience or after creation, will have the fear of specific objects or environment, such as in hospitals an injection of pain experience, bitten by a dog and accidents, etc. Unless extremely serious or traumatic continue to be strengthened, otherwise the fear will go away, not turn phobia.
When the children when you fear and fear
At this point, parents the correct response is extremely important, otherwise the fear will affect the growth and mental development of children. When the child is too small to express, parents of their touch and cuddle is the best body language. In addition, whisper words of comfort can also reduce the side effects of children when after the expression of a child, parents in addition to appease foreign to the body, also to listen carefully to the statement of fear, and in the child\'s perspective to understand their feelings, not just explain the fear is not necessary. In addition, parents should also learn to listen to children of asides to learn what fear of children. If you fear to belong to the scope of normal development of children, parents do not have to worry too much. Otherwise, the parents \' fear showed excessive anxiety, is likely to make their fears are strengthened, not easily disappear in the future. If a child\'s fears are exceptions, parents to appease cannot reduce, it would be better as soon as possible to find experts to diagnosis and treatment.
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