You may have heard this a true story: a few years ago, we educators in China and Japan educators summer camp held in China, one of the project is a five kilometer walk, behind a bus of children, who go down, to unconditionally on the back of the bus. Start smoothly, go to weather catastrophe in the middle there is wind and rain. Some children can\'t hold on, one after another on the back of the bus. Finally to the end, when parents open the doors of the bus, down from the car are all our children, no one is Japan\'s children. Each Japan children is hard against the wind the rain again, finished. After hearing this I do not know how you feel? I was feeling: are we Chinese child has a problem? Wrong! Is the responsibility of our parents did not do due diligence in China! Afterwards, Japan educator comments: \"Chinese, your generation too is not our opponents.\" Chinese educators is not without worries, said: \"Japan-style education was in developing the Wolf, and family education in China, was in developing the character of Wen Shan sheep. ”
The fittest in today\'s society, and the jungle, backward and beaten, as parents, we all hope that their children will be able to do something, can by its own quality and create a world, people can become a contribution to the community. However, the parents give their children, tutor, while various schools on the children, also to monopolize children all living things. Many parents are spoiling for a loving, when Cheng Baoyu child, \"with fear has dissolved in the mouth, placed in the hand are afraid of falling. Is don\'t want children to eat any hardship, this be our children how can withstand wind and rain?
Our famous educationist of Chen heqin\'s once said, where the children themselves can do, you should let him do it yourself where children able to think of, he should be allowed to think about. This is the concept of parents having to change:
First, the children themselves do things themselves.
Such as one year old child accidentally fell and can\'t afford to lie on the ground, other people take him up, he lies to where it was in tears, mouth shouting: \"mother hold holding, mother. \"Mother hurried past picked up the child, child stopped crying. Children can not get up? The answer is Yes, every child needs adult encouragement, if original MOM cordial voice: baby grows up, will get up. Children place their own pick him up and he had no reason to cry more than.
Such as: children for admission into a child crying more than when, asked its cause: mother forgot to bring his small handkerchief; hurry to working mothers had to return home to his handkerchief. MOM why don\'t you tell the children: this is your own business, you should think of yourself.
Such as: children move slowly in the morning do not dresses, parents hurried to put on, maybe kids secretly: \"win you over and over again. \"Child of four or five bad eating delicious, parents when children play sneak in to feed him, and you also need to reason, open say the only child.
As parents, children need parents \' help to complete things, parents do not help, it\'s parents don\'t due diligence. However, when children have the ability to finish the matter, parents should ask the children finish the thing. As a man, he did not fall to the courage and perseverance can get back up, how does he go to survival; if a man leave his father\'s care, he will live poorly. How does he go to the competition.
Second, the things that children themselves wanted.
Such as: just bought back the building blocks, children may not take much. Parents can give guidance, wise parents will not be for children to see diagram. Parents to give children opportunities to think.
Train kids thinking habits. Parents can give children a complete answer, let him go by himself hands moving brain, this can make the child unknowingly, naturally developed \"independent thinking\" ability.
Three children, exercise of an independent personality.
Some things need an adult to accompany children no matter what, is and play with children, even adults to leave. Young children to play together, will inevitably dispute, wept the brain. Such as: grab the toy, as a parent should not accuse reprimanded, should not kid each other to the cry of the children to give in. Children should be given the right guidance, let the children learn to use language to communicate, has reached a settlement.
As parents we do not want the no child left behind, as citizens of our country, do not want the country backward, young parents to shoulder their glorious and arduous duties, making all of our children of relatively independent talent, this is not an empty word.
Efforts! We will be better tomorrow!
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