Discussion on the one-child family education

After the founding of new China, China began to implement a family planning policy, decreasing the number of children of the family, and there have been some only children. Today, the absolute number of only-child in China has greatly increased, in the one-child families in China\'s family has also greatly in the proportion of very high. According to the relevant Department statistics show that about to bear one child around 10 million a year in China. Only child of a large number of birth, is the proportion of China\'s children, only children in the juvenile increase year by year, children, juvenile component change year by year. Only child as a special social group, not only today, and had a pivotal role in the social life of the future, one-child problem was the concern of the community.

The so-called one-child problem is essentially education issues, particularly family education issues. Only child physical and mental development status, first by the effectiveness of family education Foundation role, therefore, each of the parents of a child is deemed to be a child\'s education events to catch. Therefore, the one-child family of functions is very important, the only child of family education has become an important topic.

First, the advantages of one-child family education

(A) one-child families the economic conditions of relative superiority

Material basis of economic conditions is the family, is a prerequisite for family education to maintain a normal life, family education is up and running, is essential for normal physical and mental development of children.

General situation Xia, family in the only a children, parents will willing investment, as possible to for children provides more superior of material conditions; second, parents also will as far as possible of meet children psychological of development need, guarantee has single children of intelligence supplies, promote they physical and mental health development; in addition, family conditions good, family relationship harmonious, parents does not for life of rushing toil, also on has training education children of taste, and enthusiasm and energy, this all are on only child of physical and mental development has actively of role.

(B) the only child of parents full love

A psychological expert has made \"love important than vitamins\", we can see that the importance of love for the children of parents. In the one-child families, children grow up in parents love full sun, this love will make the child\'s mind at ease, full of spirits, being active, personality development. Therefore, most children easy to form a lively, cheerful, generous, dare to speak, dare to do character, conducive to the development of children\'s intelligence and talent.
(C) the parents of the importance of only-child education

Only one child, parents have all the time and energy to care for their children\'s education. 21st century is the century of talent, look every parent is ambitious for one\'s children, woman was rife. As the study of early education, parents come to realize the importance of early education for early childhood development. Therefore, always make time for parents with children to visit, travel, play games, various toys that teach children to learn, supplying intelligence, so now the only child of acceleration, interests, knowledge is relatively wide.

From the above analysis we can see, the one-child families advantage is obvious, but this kind of family education on the one-child, there is no negative side? There are two possibilities, here is no exception, the only child there are also quite a lot of problems in family.

Problems in the second, the one-child family education

Problem is not in the one-child family education from \"only\" arising out of, but the result of incorrect family education.

(A) rearing attitude causes the child\'s bad character and behavior of the error form

Too many parents love, excessive protection and care of young children lived a life of yilaishenshou, eat a ready cooked meal, gradually developed a \"all me-centric\" humanity, arbitrary, difficult of bad temper and bad habits, can easily make the children form a solitary, timid, not gregarious character, courage and wisdom of the lack of tact, poor social adaptability.

Many parents \"ambitious for one\'s children\" and mistakenly believed that children access to knowledge more wise and do not know the method of early education, to the child into many \"suffer from indigestion\" knowledge that when children wouldn\'t recognize a few words, back when some poetry, renqianrenhou blind again praise the child, if this situation persists, habit of children proud, domineering, opinionated personalities.

(Ii) erroneous ideas led to only child physical and mental development disorders

Many parents think the children healthy nutrition more, so he added various nutrition to children, let the children improve their health, few parent is trying to persuade the child to participate in physical activity. So, some children although the long baipang, poor physical quality, prone to colds, or even a lot due to nutrition \"obese children\" appears a lot of inconvenience to the normal life of the child.

Some parents just children\'s learning, academic performance is good or bad and associated with all aspects of the children, causing children run out of ways to improve academic achievement, including many unfair methods, such as cheating, but parents never tube. Only credible standard of academic achievement as a measure of the child. In this way, you ignored the development of a child character, easily develop this love the advantage, through improper means to an end of bad habits.
(C) as \"kid\" lead children\'s communication barriers

Only children have no brothers or sisters living together easier formation of emotional \"egocentric\", habit not good at unity, than good with sympathy, not very good at competition, poor understanding, lack of collaboration, disrespectful, lack of quality and helpfulness.

In addition, the lack of peers with adversity during exercise, while lack of interaction of imitation by children in the family, and only adults, easily formed and they said

Adults, bigger early inclination of personnel. In fact, their adult behavior, both in and children and adults in its dealings, will have difficulty had to be under a lot of psychological pressure.

Educational problems of three, on the one-child families several suggestions

(A) change of mindset, it is necessary to put the relationship between parent and child

Correct attitude towards the only child of parents should be loved but not spoiled, keep but without pride. Love not only on children should be reflected in the lives of their children, should be reflected in the children\'s education and culture, children in physical, intellectual, moral, aesthetic, Dr all aspects of healthy growth, for that purpose, to strict discipline on children, careful cultivation is love.

In the home, do not put children at the family\'s special status, do not let children formed in thought \"egocentric\" awareness. Usually children and deeds, every move, try not to make children feel special, to make the child feel that he and other members have equal status, do this, from the small things in everyday life is the key.

(B) enhancing friendly exchanges between the only-child

Encourage the children to go to the children\'s society, children\'s social development is to be through their mutual exchanges and development. Children\'s good behavior is from \"copying begins, object is a child of and imitate the best partners,\" the effect is no substitute for adult.

Most children are good communal life, in particular games, through collective teach them to respect others, not pressing wayward, and child friendly, mutual consultation, and humility. Therefore, parents should rest assured that children have access to smaller partners in the exercise, cultivating a strong sense of ownership, this capability will be migrated as they grow to their future life and learning.

(C) exercise a strong will and cultivating healthy personality

Only children who are mostly there were effeminate:, to overcome this \"effeminate:\" approach, is to let the children eat in real life. Therefore, in terms of substance, parents do not provide very good conditions should also urge the child to do more housework, especially children themselves things, allow the child to do it by yourself as possible, sometimes the parents can also be conscious of some obstacles and difficulties for children to exercise. In this way, children easily formed independence, self-reliance, with firm faith and indomitable perseverance and good psychological quality, so children would dare to face the pressures of life, will not be difficult down. Once the children form their own subjective consciousness, with critical thinking skills, he will shoulder the responsibility, to express themselves, form understanding, sure, beyond their own virtuous circle. Perfect free personality, outstanding personality, is to meet the challenges in the future is all about.

(D) on education persistence and consistency of only-child

Adult education to their children so that they are reasonable, in order to get good results. Parents to the child\'s request to have persistence. From small to large for child care to form a habit, in addition, between members of the family before and after the requirement for children to be consistent, principled, as a good model for children. In this way, high prestige that parents will, effect of education will be good.

To sum up, my only child is in special growing up in a family environment, this special effect of environment on children, young people are not absolute, that is, may also be positive or negative. To play a positive role as much as possible, inhibit and overcome its negative effects, disadvantages, to better promote the harmonious development of China\'s only child physical and mental health.