Facing children lie

Case story

Lingling ran over 2 years and 11 months to carry bottles of water. Dad said, \"you almost 3 years old, don\'t bottle it, or with a cup of water! \"To Lingling non-bottle of water. When she saw her mother came, they complain, saying: \"MOM, Dad won\'t let me drink water. \"Mama said,\" Dad not you drink water just makes you a cup of water. ”

Expert analysis

Children confused imagination and reality

This phase children sometimes can\'t help but imagine things as true, in fact, not deliberately lying. For example, after listening to the Monkey King\'s story, tells mother him to play with the Monkey King, and fight monsters together. For example, cizily to tell the teacher: \"we have cars, is the color red. \"In fact, children are not intended to lie, but in which he integrated into his imagination.

Parents in tantalize unintentionally strengthening

For example, the grandmother asked 3 Green: \"you like Grandma, still like my mother? \"Ching Ching said:\" like his mother. \"At this time, Grandma face lessons she:\" well no conscience of things, from small I with you, buy you eat, buy worn, you like MOM! \"Ching Ching the momentum changed at once said:\" I like Grandma, Grandma good! \"So Grandma grin laughing mouth open, is holding is the parent. Since then, green learned to see who said what, in the presence of good Mama say Mama, in front of Grandma said Grandma good!

Parents sometimes do not let your children tell the truth

For example, a 4 pot ailun accidentally broke the neighbor of the age. Mother tells ailun: \"If someone asks you, you said it was not broken by you, or neighbors to fight you, MOM had to lost pot. \"Ailun follow mother did, mother compliment:\" ailun is clever! \"From this incident, ailun can come to a conclusion, mother sub point lie the person you like.

Sometimes, parents at home about the weaknesses of others, were heard by children, asking a child to leave that out.

Children in order to avoid penalty

When a child is telling the truth to be punished, he would lie to self-defence. For example, father found himself had less money, asked the children, admitted that he took the children, fathers make no more ADO, a full blow, madao loudly: \"you are so small, it will steal money, today, I will teach you! \"Children on this lesson is still fresh in every when you make a mistake or not father, speak will use their brains, or be subject to punishment.

Expert recommendations

Parents set an example

Should always be careful not to give their children opportunities to lie, not tantalize the child tells a lie, and do not let the child lying in self-defence, not to teach children to lie.

Facing children lie

Child told a lie, no need to teach him a meal, and should face the reality and ideas let children understand that lying is not necessary, lies cannot really solve the problem, you can use other methods to solve problems, no one likes to lie people.

Story guide

Parents give their children more than telling honest stories about, such as \"Washington tree felling\", \"holding an empty pot of children\", so that he recognized that the benefits of honest.

Strengthening children tell the truth

Children do something wrong, parents should encourage children to speak the truth. When the child is after the truth, to matter, first of all to commend his honesty, and properly handling his error. Parents must not because they say severely punished with an error committed by him, in order to escape punishment after he no longer report the truth. Mr Tao XING-Zhi\'s four sugar story is worthwhile. Once a child another child. Mr Tao criticized beating the child, at the same time because he dares to admit, honest credible and rewarding his four lumps of sugar.

Help your child distinguish between reality and imagination

When inseparable when children imagination and reality, as in the preceding example 玲玲 to drink milk, parents need only expressions with the correct language to children again, let your child know how this situation should be expressed in words. For children of fantasy \"lies\", mother there is no need to fuss, but pay attention to guiding children out from the world of fantasy to care about reality.