From l977 years restored the college entrance examination system, my three sons two admitted to a university degree, on a secondary school. We were in the country is also a instilled with imported refuigerant news. Most people can\'t believe is the oldest son of Yang d, he wasn\'t high school, was admitted to the University; no read master \'s, doctoral student at the University of Yangzhou and went. He graduated in 1996, obtaining his doctorate, Hebei Normal University now serves as Associate Professor, heard that his graduation thesis was elected to the State of the University doctor of philosophy and social sciences outstanding base. Folks say I bring up one\'s children properly, even praise my children is \"genius\", was also guessing my home like there must be some secret elixir of life. In fact, these are not so mysterious, this is by no means I pretended to be modest, or rare secrets vary. If they say it also is known for unusual reasons, just generally hard to do it.
Yang d getting into University, PhD, is he a personal matter, nor his personal affairs. If there is no examination system of turn by Comrade DENG Xiaoping, recovery, you though I have great talent, is also no good. In addition, our family heirloom famous honest and upright, the Confucian \"benevolence, justice, courtesy, wisdom, faith\" as a motto for life a man, always depending on the personal efforts as no honor, and solicit gifts, nothing or pray for others speculative villains such as camp takes as a spectacle of great shame. I accept is the progenitor of the father of this lesson, and practice, no matter what hardships, even go hungry in a great situation of grain, and will not change the life and beliefs. So when I progenitor\'s teachings through a parent teaches the children when they are generally willing to listen, not by default. Only Yang d and the second, old three different, unlike the two honest keep etiquette, as long as the said will be the first time in mind. The child life, lively, since childhood like the \"Monster moths\" (new weird ideas), often do unusual things and stubborn temper, refused to listen to the adults. With words is now very strong personality. In order to discipline him, but spend less effort, even ruthless beat him. To be honest, we never thought of didn\'t expect him to become a college student, doctor in the future, was more concerned by court disaster he grows, go awry, was called ancestors three generations by villagers. To this personality, disobedient children, said tube much playing absolutely no, often reverse psychology, the effect is counterproductive. This is in our discipline Yang d touched the nail slowly several times to work out a rule. But not many said tube much play, is by no means did not say whether not to play. One of my oldest son effective, is to firmly grasp the relationship between those critical first step in his life, strict discipline, must not be vague or softness. These \"first steps\", may not all be great things, but often are in a life of fork in the road. First step well, others may not care about, forgiving him, by him to the freedom of wayward play, the result even if you are no better there, but not bad there. Remember that I often warning him of a spoken phrase is \"gentleman is so difficult, not just you, but never can become a villain. \"My policy is that the poor not afraid, no money is not afraid, others hit you success if you are not afraid, the worst is not clear, was a joke, let people down. I don\'t have much say Yang d can hear, these sentences for you it seems that he is listening, remember, so he can achieve something today.
Yang d childhood, as with other children in rural areas, wind play run wild everywhere. 8 years old to school age, I carried a stool sent him into the village primary school. But in a week, he also carried back stools. He used to wind runs wild was just around, suddenly stand deceive teacher said: \"my father and I went to Shepherd, not to go to school. \"Child is such a thing so prevalent in rural areas,\" anyway, smaller children, what was urgent, go again next year. \"It has become almost a traditional habit. My grandmother is still alive at that time, redouble their loving grandchildren, say so, of course. I was very clear that this \"first\" If a break, the next time and want to recover to, I\'m afraid is out of the question. I be soft, Granny sent to his relatives in the daytime, night settled accounts with him. Ask a clear plot and spanking punishment knees, stayed up half the night, until he completely understanding errors and ensure his way to school tomorrow, ask the teacher reviews, again in the future after playing truant, I let him. Yang d from small to large, fine only this once kneeling, corporal punishment this time is also the most powerful, most deeply impression he also, of course, he didn\'t escape after learning. He later went to College, also remember about it, people joked, this is my father that played for college students. Of course, this is for assaulting a parent ancestors of the old education mode, very backward today. However Yang d such a naughty boy, I still do think of no better approach to education. Now the fashion to do ideological work, persuasion and education, not that I do not know. These pertain to like my three sons honest obedient children, but for naughty like son, intentional, lawless children is invalid. Summary of ancestors thousands of years passed down \"not not adult\" old lessons of law I am afraid it is not all negative.
Yang d second dropout, I have no corporal punishment he, because it is not his reasons. When his five-year catch up with the cultural revolution, unwillingly reading a two-year school \"strength of junior middle school\", not on. So help me work, their reading. After a year, recovery County high school, he wanted to go to high school, poor family at that time was almost difficult to open the pot, but I gritted, supported him. Anyway, do not charge tuition fees for school at that time, only adds a piece to eat bran pharynx food mouth shot. I am not afraid. But only limited admission index in County, only ten down to the Brigade Group, children of poor and middle peasant natural priority, this son of a farm that he can add edges. Seeing their old students to school, Yang d sorry, heads down on the Heatable Adobe sleeping platform does not eat. Looking at children on the school cannot, I more uncomfortable at first. Later, Yang d want me to go to the party Branch Secretaries would summon, I fire, pulled up over his Kang, sternly and said to him: \"you give I Stand Tall
！ Don\'t say I can\'t go, you go with your mother who is not. With an official of humble, hand down of some remains of a meal to eat, we are not the family principle. Not to mention high school cannot, is the execution ground beheaded also mustn\'t drop-head on blink. What has happened to land? All trades and professions, line the very best. Good land, is also a great ability. If you are heroes, future opportunities have; if you bear ruandan, even on to the University also is a loser. What can\'t be on a high school, whether to walk there, until when, as long as it is with a personal flair to dinner, not a shame. You only have to listen to my words, to go with my ground cover. \"Stimulating to him too deeply about it, I also deeply into him just in the adult heart. He withstand the shock, road to start his personal struggles. The tread of hoeing, digging embankment of the River, playing basketball is too small, the army too he was farm, when a few years primary school teachers working at a school run by the local people, went to the commune (now) do half a part-time Secretary. Those years he can eat a lot of bitter, quality may also exercise his will, at the same time improving the ability of his thought and culture waters1977 he applied for the University, many people say that he is stupid. Also have a friend in his shoes that you even without a high school, the University entrance exam must have no way. Rather than a secondary school, went well. College or technical secondary school, he had hesitated. Because of this major event is to decide his future, I can\'t make up my mind. But we know that he is willing to College, so we had a serious parent-child family conversation. I asked him: \"at the same time there are two things to you, an interest, but also at greater risk, and the other insurance, but interest is small. Which one do you pick? \"He is afraid of Miss this turning point in life, or it may be too heavy blow to his many failures, he could not answer. I thought of him showing me: \"dry to dry, is not afraid to take risks. This is the teachings of the fathers. Want to clean up and refused to take risks, there is such a good thing in the world? Events do nothing, hero who was a failure, why not? Mention University nothing in science, you just play Arts long, short of avoiding science, why University of not reporting it? \"He understood this principle, have firm faith. After he received a university admission notice, the whole family and all the folks were very pleased, have praised his ambition, has great promise. Career and academic success, only one aspect of life. If you leave the cultivation of moral quality of education, its achievements are limited. Modern school stresses entwickeln, I read old-style private school teacher asked the students first, after school, will close this as a character and learning. I think some differences on the surface, truth is roughly consistent. This is from time to time I do not forget to warn the children. I think in terms of life of \"the first\" not to relax, particularly important. Poor school conditions on Yang d, spend some money to buy an exercise book, both sides are going to use, usually practice writing slate and shibi (writing utensils of rural pupils in the past, made with stone, you can erase write, repeated use and low price). Once he sneak a section of my account, I found him a good, tell him that this is something the production team, not us, cannot take a piece of paper. Purpose was to put an end to child gain petty advantages, not taking mental habits.
Yang d commune to do half a full-time Secretary, successively have seen back home a few days curd drink sorghum, do not know where to find a bag of corn. At that time it is lean times, village and everyone hungry. His mother was pleased, this can be done under some steamed bread of corn, improve life for children. I suspected that he was the village Brigade leaders and asked for here, just freeze this bag of food, he said: we would rather starve to death, something he refuses to eat this not a clear white. He is said to be from the commune farm borrowed, returned to the Director a due Bill. I know what they call a \"borrow\" is actually white, forcing him to send back the bag of food. In such case, Yang d and I view not consistent, after all, is a parent-child of two generations. I he is often too little rules, he is too me too seriously. But he later on the road to academic pursuits, into, whether from his mentors and peers for his \"strict solid\" comments, also is from his own pursuit of the \"positive and thorough,\" the academic purport, are inherited Yan Zhengqing white and meticulous attitude in my family. Otherwise, he can\'t walk on the academic to the stage. Say, I am somewhat pleased, for he has the quality of education, is the basis for his life after all, or played a decisive role on the key link.
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