The view was expressed that \"generational\" has three major advantages: first, good for grandchildren grow. A lot of \"child prodigy\" is to be the ancestors of the knowledge of experienced advanced boot only come to the fore. Second filial generation interests. Children work, child by grandparents, specifically to lift worries, dedication to the cause. Third, it is beneficial to the ancestors. Not only may dissolve the lonely, get the vitality from the growth of children, also belonging to, active ageing. This family relationships with the grandchildren play games to help maintain a healthy state of mind benefit for the elderly. \"Generational\" superiority while many, at the same time it also brings a lot of detrimental to children\'s health to become \"hidden\".
Extension of \"child psychology\" period. Some ancestors the frustrations of life experiences, doomed their grandchildren, and this preference to a great extent belong to spoil. Too much in love, it will impede the normal psychological development of the children. Favourite result so that children cannot always get rid of \"child psychology\" constraints. Relevant agencies to nurseries and youzu of parents with children psychological comparison, found that they are completely different. Out from nursery children group consciousness strong, adaptability, social circle, many are able to do it yourself do, guts, and able to endure hardship, as General wrestling and scratches like nothing, very little will be able to cross the road. By a grandparent or grandparent of the child is not, some grader also transfers to the elderly, not hands-on, like bags, don\'t want to do. Encounter problems, slightly unhappy, crying, the spoiled, lack of ability, not gregarious.
Lead educational \"off\". Grandparents in the world formed in the decades before, even today, many of them on the level of awareness of objective things still in the decades before. In close contact with grandchildren, their Outlook on the world inadvertently generational transmission, as well as increased knowledge of children to the new, new thing difficult to accept. Furthermore, the ideology of the elderly relative of old, stubborn, grandchildren under marked imprint, accept new knowledge and experience for the kids will have a negative effect. The other hand, some elderly physiological decline, cripple, static and lazy, with children often only rings in the context of the family, taken out of the children easily old enough lively enough, hinder children intellectual development.
Estranged relationship between parents and children, leading to parent-child \"gap\". Grandparents love Sun son with their parents, have similarities, there are different points. Similar is all love children, is the progenitor of the different love Sun \"Tsu\" \"width\" and \"volume\", and parents whom they are partial to \"strict\". This education point of difference, very easily lead to family estrangement. Family here consists of two layers: one is the ancestors and parents, the doting grandparents to grandchildren and older generational transfer of consciousness, or corrections from parents wise; parents \' control, ancestors unwarrantable shield and stand, which is bound to lead to contradictions between grandparents and parents. Second, parents and children, children suffering psychological avoidance, so that their parents control or end ancestors as a shield, or taking ancestors as the shelter, Haven had a conflict with or leave on parents \' control. Overly doting parents strict discipline for ancestors, and may even make them in the formation of emotional illusion: only Grandpa, Grandma, Grandpa, Grandma loves me, MOM and dad do not hurt me. This is not conducive to children\'s healthy growth and success not only, but also hinder the family.
\"Generational\" both advantages and disadvantages, dealing with inappropriate, it will do more harm than good. Hope young parents weaknesses, discuss education problems of children and grandparents communicate more, received the ancestors of the endorsement and support, we can let the children (outside) grandparents grew up under the care of health!
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