Grandparents love also has worries

Grandparents love also worries as the primary and secondary schools around the school one after another, lively again early morning and evening in the city. A familiar landscape of which is that every shuttle time, each gate of the school is always dense forest of elderly people, whether winter heat, they, like clocks, time flows between school and home, TRANSFERS his grandchildren out of school. In fact, not only in the cities, not only between schools and families, in our country, the grandparents with grandchildren has become a common way of life, educators call by grandparents.
More and more busy young parents give their children to the elderly, specifically reports, one on grandparents nationwide survey, about half the nation children to grandparents, in Beijing, Shanghai and other major cities, this proportion higher. This phenomenon has aroused wide concern, all sectors of society on the pros and cons of the grandparents some, this reporter conducted an in-depth interview.
Grandparents as a phenomenon unique to China, in many people\'s eyes is the natural choice, is also a kind of helpless choice. This reporter recently interviewed two families in Chongqing and Beijing respectively, is not difficult to see from their experience, grandparents may last for a lifetime impact on childhood.
Generational difficult section of parents regret
Ton ton Chongqing children 8 years old, living with grandparents before 3 years, and the elderly are more intimate
Ton ton now Chongqing children 8 years of elementary school second grade. Every winter and summer comes, ton ton yells to grandparents home, has been to stay to the last day of the holiday, father pick her to return home, also cried when leaving, and played two old men along with the tears.
Ton ton is a typical grandparents brought up children, she was born less than two months has been sent to the grandparents House until the kindergarten only home by MOM and dad live. \"At home, the child special, special stubborn rebellion, like the adults to do something. More like adults to criticize her, she actually more proud, even very bad habit of exaggeration to continue her on purpose; if the recognition of her, she is very quiet, no happy faces. \"Blame grandparents for ton ton ton ton mother spolied Chile, children develop a lot of bad habits, lazy, wayward, playing petty tricks sth
But my grandparents did not think so. Ton ton the eldest grandson of the family, grandparents do not know how to love the granddaughter to answer, as a child, all carrying holding, which could spoil, to what to what, almost never say \"no\". Grandchildren in all children, grandparents and most prefer ton ton, good things will secretly left her, does not make her any grievances, she sometimes parents education, two old men will take ton ton, doing her backing. As long as the grandparents home, ton ton fear, care by grandparents, all bad temper can be their inclusion. When people ask when ton ton like it most, she said young sound childlike \"grandparents\".
The parents also feel ton ton ton ton with deeper feelings of the elderly, \"in front of us, she\'s always hiding some facial expressions and emotions only in front of the elderly, to think she was just a kid. \"Ton ton mum and dad today around for 5 years, also learn a lot, but she said she wanted to stay with grandparents a, not willing to separate them.
Grandparents causing lack of love
Peas Beijing Youth, aged 23, was young, I lived with my grandmother for 15 years, and now live with your parents
Bean independent, but she was not able to disguise inferior mentality, in her own words, from childhood, she was the \"lack of praise\" children.
Peas also after by grandparents, and most of these children spoil, surly is different, she did not enjoy the ancestors of doting and accommodation. Peas was born and grew up around in Grandma, until the third year of junior high school with MOM and dad live on together, missed the best of their childhood with parents. Peas Grandma legs not handy, could hardly take care of others, a life without a way to take care of peas, peas from childhood as strong as a boy, is anything but weak. When many children also enjoy the yilaishenshou, eat a ready cooked meal treatment when elementary school first grade she had themselves begun to wash clothes, learn to cook when countless parents keep waiting time for the school children at the school gate, one school home has become a commonplace of peas.
\"When I was young, men and children can do what I do, climb trees, bird cave, Siu Ant sth People think I am naughty, it\'s not like a girl. \"Peas undisguised was left by the elders of those words to their deeply rooted shadows\" at that time I lived with my grandmother a, no one ever praised me. MOM and Dad would occasionally come to see me, but I still think that the lack of care and elder care, lack of praise and recognition. Although I\'m independent now, details of life in particular, but kind of inferiority complex but how bones are not. ”
Peas admitted, on his or her feelings are not so independent people, like a child is hungry, need to eat a lot of food to fill that hunger. Writers of Su Tong\'s words, \"I want love, lots and lots of love\", brought by grandparents to peas is a lack of love.