Children 3 aged around, psychological development is self-Center period, is began clear to realized that \"I\" is a with others phase independent of people, \"I\" of wishes and requirements can after own of adhere to and reached, and in this zhiqian he also can to own and around of environment and others full separate, so performance out requirements independent of wishes, this is children independence began development of a flag. At this point there is little children the skills of, but often to show their independence, this to myself, that not to do, appears to be very obedient.
Since about 3 years old children lack rich life experience and excellent language skills, communication between parents and the initiative on the parent side. If a child did not obey, the main reason is that parents do not understand the child, not willing to take the initiative into child\'s inner world, errors and parents understand and handle the method affects the child\'s development.
This age child exchanges and communication with parents and children, to see more of how to find the children\'s nature books, how to understand the needs of children, if necessary, recourse to child counseling agencies.
Definitely do not admit of qiqi
Qiqi special hard mouth of less than 3 years old, in his dictionary does not appear to be \"I was wrong\" those 3 words. Each do has wrong, such as Shang Saturday because father does not carefully will shoes placed to has he of small pictures Shang, he suddenly to father of shoes and shoes frame all down in ground, any father and mother how told reason, how frighten he, he are does not recognized errors, and must no a drops tears, until whole pieces things are passed, he are indifferent, seems with he doesn\'t matter if. Sometimes anger father said: \"don\'t want you\", or \"you are not my child, you go\", or outside to push him, clearly have fear in his eyes, but always adhere to the \"silence is golden\" principle, will not admit actions carried through to the end.
Qiqi says does not admit rational
Like qiqi such does not admit of children actually does not less, 3 aged around of children also cannot objective to awareness and evaluation things of on wrong, he only will is self-Center to from own of feel start, even Dang he think own committed has errors Shi, also does not easily recognized, because he of self-accepted sexual also poor, if he recognition has wrong, he will difficult to imagine admit zhihou of results, such as parents is on will not he has, he is on no longer is good children has. While MOM and dad will soothe him, as long as the recognition of errors is a good boy, but he still did not believe what they say is true. About 3 years old while began to develop the child\'s self-consciousness, but has not reached after accepting your weaknesses introspection: level. In addition, in this age of child language ability is limited, there\'s something difficult to explain in a short time, sometimes parents obviously wrong is hardly clear.
Children make error, the parents as long as the words and expressions that do not agree, and told the children went wrong, after experiencing the same issue should be resolved on it, don\'t have to let the children recognize errors on the mouth. If a child is for fear of losing the love of parents, or to avoid penalties and to recognize errors, children still do not know what went wrong, the next time you also intend to. Especially do not punish way of forcing children to recognize errors, this is extremely detrimental to children\'s physical and mental health.
Like anti-say, anti-Tao Tao
Tao Tao of little more than 3 years now, always with my mom at the last few months. Got up this morning, my mother says, put on his trousers, otherwise it was freezing cold. Tao Tao a listen to, is refused to wear underwear, light with small ass and small feet excited to in floor Shang go to go to, father with he said, he fundamental does not listen to, also in there hee hee to laugh, gas was father to he hold up hard to playing has he of ass, he \"wow\" to crying up, seems is grievances of looks, like he fundamental no committed wrong, instead is adults cuodai has he.
Tao Tao says converse may attract more attention
Baby life experience is not rich enough for this age, physical ability started to strengthen when he really wanted to let everyone know how great, but MOM and dad there are others always at home on his ability and not enough, how to attract the attention of others? Baby by repeatedly testing found that when when they fight, and when MOM and Dad on a dry, parents eyes will gather for a long time and attention on himself, so he finally summed up, Oh, the original revolt can let MOM and dad thought he was terrific! He is very fond of this revolt and was concerned about scenes, even get a hit worth Ah! Therefore let everyone pay attention to your baby by becoming a problem children, acknowledged the power of their own.
Therefore, parents can\'t always ignore the baby growing demand, how to communicate with baby naturally to reduce his converse behavior.
In fact, when not obedient children, do not admit, back to when often when parents are faced with a major educational challenges, is by no means child in reverse. If this time only by force or simple and crude ways to deal with children, on children\'s development would be extremely negative, is very unfair to children. Hands-on beating, or the children staring eyes would make him lose sense, children will lack of sense of lack of self esteem, do not believe that adults can manage themselves well, is not willing to accept the management, not willing to learn and to comply with social norms, not getting along with people friendly, they will treat people with accepted by their treatment of sth If you use the reverse method to reverse the children, I am afraid that converse really will follow the children grew up, hard not to go. Baby when the converse, we should deal with:
1. the careful observation of the child, finding points of interest of the child, when kids converse, with its interesting things to divert attention.
2. regular touch children, usual and kids games, how to communicate with the children can reduce the occurrence of converse.
3. specific requirements
, Prevention first. Parents usually on children\'s behavior to have specific requirements, such as the development of simple, clear rules. These rules to make children understand their behavior doesn\'t have, and should be subject to certain constraints.4. parent education requirements of the child, should be consistent. Particularly when a child is unruly, parents should be uniform requirements. If a strict, a pet, then the child\'s wayward gets evolved more strongly, are less likely to be correct.
5. the other way round. When children want to throw something, broken soft will not let him throw the baby, the child naturally no longer want to throw.
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