Keep his promise

\"James, hurry up and do your homework. When you have finished, you can go outside for a while, you\'ll be able to decide what to play. ”

\"Well, MOM, I\'ll be done. \"7-year old James answered, and then continued to do his job. Soon, he completes the. \"MOM, I finished my homework. I want to go roller skating. \"Saying this is going to change shoes.

\"Roller skating plate easily broken, and now has just finished the rain, you had better play basketball later. ”

\"Not broken, others are not in the slide. ”

\"Do you really want to slide? Not afraid of falling? “

\"Yes, I want to slide. ”

\"Forget it, you will be broken, you might as well go and play basketball. \"Mother wants to say.

\"No, MOM, I\'m going to roller skating. ”

\"The line, listening to mothers, to be a good boy, go and play basketball. ”

Children no way, he could not freely to determine their preferences but to listen to mother, had to play other games. Mother told James at the start, he can decide what to play, and finally she made a decision. And James even dispute until such time he agreed not to roller skating. In this case, MOM does not keep his promise was done by James select. If we want to teach kids to make smart choices, to give them a chance, if needed, also to give them the opportunity to make a mistake, let them learn from the experience, rather than from the understanding in our preaching. Boss James as a mother, she does not let your child choose his hobby, not allowing him to practice, learn how to protect against any harm, not to let him know how to suffer, and how to exercise your willpower. This mother is to let the boss appears, appears rather than educators. In addition, mother pre-announced, allowing James optional play project, and then break the promise, undermine the confidence of his mother.

Course, if wanted to makes children mood comfortable to to implementation, must to spent points time and they on about why to such do, does not such will has what consequences; if children has questions, welcomes they made, and they discussion, until both reached consensus, such then implement up on not simple to cast authority, but makes children also participation developed of plan, also will reduced children of against psychological.