New century grandparents

Grandparents participate in grandchildren upbringing is a unique emphasis on family education of the Chinese nation tradition, is a manifestation of respect for the child-friendly. Indeed, Chinese grandparents also particularly like to attend to the education of young children. However, now many young parents to grandparents grandson questioned: grandparents will not let the children were hungry, and touch, but as to the possibility of children training materials, inevitably undermined.
Indeed, lead to the idea parents, because our intergenerational education did exist some misunderstanding.
Error: spoiling
With the implementation of family planning, child reduction. Ancestors were on children more is loves has plus, they on third generation too doting, usually on third generation dull, caring, therefore, some by elderly with large of children life self-care ability poor; some elderly on Sun generation were of requirements is responsive, regardless of reasonable does not reasonable, are given meet; also some elderly easy on children of shortcomings \"shield a shortcoming or fault\", and children of parents education method, and attitude does not consistent. Appears that several things, or \"generational\" \"parent\" Word spread, grandparents to grandchildren handle all error understanding shortcomings inclusive, so inevitably obstruct the child independent consciousness of formation and development of independent behavior.
Myth two: create barriers between parents
Psychological studies show that affection training is an important stage in early childhood, this stage if you do not live together with my parents, they shift with family, and their transfer emotions to people who live together. Some parents for their work, study, full authority over to their parents to take care of children, such children or transfer all his feelings to the ancestors who, had a great affection and ancestors, and there was a certain degree of estrangement from their parents. This State is not conducive to the healthy development of child care and family life of lumber.
Myth three: parents and ancestors education idea is inconsistent
Due to the grandparents in the age, education level, and strictness behavior different from the modern, they conflict with the young parents education concept, which will make some children feel empty may drill, formation and education of \"bomb shelter\", \"safe harbor\", in this case, is not conducive to the healthy growth of young children on the one hand, on the other hand the influence of family harmony.
Myth four: range closed, heavy static light
China of elderly usually think, children small, closed in home is most security of; while and by old \"good children\" mode of thought bound; and plus elderly own of energy limited, on sports activities, and outdoor exercise less interest, so they of eyes does not away from Sun generation, no children climbing, and mountain, no run, and jump, more no company travel, only allows they in home playing some quiet of toys, and game. This led to a new generation of physical, operational abilities are weakened, competition, reduced self-esteem, poor peer interaction capabilities.
Myth five: easy weight light spirit
In training when the third generation, grandparents in long proceeding from the compensation of mental, as far as possible try to give the grandchildren higher treatment of material life, the grandchildren of eat, wear, play, no not more than their children to make up for their lack of children. They had not thought so the material desire of indulgence to grandchildren, back with the psychological effects of age and society where rivalries, it is difficult to meet the grandchildren of \"vanity\", and for their spirit of the world, such as boot grandchildren learn, curiosity, reading, caring, and love for nature has very little attention. Such a life, make some ancestors living in the material conditions and care spend too much time and effort on, affecting communication with the grandchildren, also affected and grandchildren the same observation with the opportunity of the game, so it is lose, not pay off.
In fact, several adults co-culture of a child is the child\'s happiness. This happiness depends on people carefully built in subtlety see spirit of mutual understanding, coordinate closely, looking for the best aggregate points.
So, how to get out of these mistakes, assured when a father and mother, the grandparents of grandchildren to please?
A consistent concept, education
Grandparents should be on education and young parents reach a consensus, look at the need for talent in today\'s society, clear understanding of the direction of social development, establish a correct Outlook on education, talent. Importance to children\'s comprehensive long and cultivation of innovative spirit and creativity. Only in this way, the strength of the family to form a joint force, do love moderately, when a child is making mistakes, we can take a consistent approach, a child to correct errors, so as to further development.
Second, the grandparents to continuously updating education idea
Today social, education of core is man; today social is a cooperation of social, does not cooperation of people does not adaptation modern social; children life down is right main, has survival right, and development right, and by protection right and participation family, and culture and social life of participation right; playing is children of right one; training children has health of personality than results more important; to to children learning, three generations people common growth. New educational perspectives can help good third-generation ancestors of better education, young children keep pace with the times; in addition, life-long learning is also passes in the new century, when \"good Grandpa and Grandma\" of basic conditions.
Third, the ancestors to recognize themselves in the education of secondary status
There is a United Kingdom\'s grandfather once said: \"we can be sensible not to Rob children of maternal and paternal. We could not do nannies, can only be a childcare staff. We do, is to more healthy growth. \"Chinese grandparents should also be aware of this, parents of children who assisted doing supporting work, or in the position of consultant, guide, at the critical moment, then stepped in to education. This son of parents of children finishing ability and maintain child ancestors and parents in front of the children\'s dignity and authority.
At present, there are many older universities, also has opened for many great grandchildren grandparents education curriculum, enabling them in the new century, new conditions for learning.
We believe that some of the weaknesses of the elderly is a product of history, he is bound with the development trend of the times, constantly refreshing and gradually disappear, new educational ideasMore older people who reflect, so that they can become qualified in the new century of grandparents, making the new generation of more flourish.