In recent years, psychology and education around the one-child population advantage and personalities shaped a number of investigation and research work on such issues, despite the use of the theory, methods vary, but following the conclusions of wayward and how dependencies, and other weaknesses. Selfish behavior has become more prominent in the only child of moral defect.
Children growing up--the factors having the greatest effect of parents Education Act. Modifying development of young children have been affected have two prominent education behavior factors. First, parents deal with moral viewpoint, and method, specifically on children\'s wayward behaviour, decorum behavior appropriate or not, significantly affecting the child\'s personality development level. Second, more parents are not encouraged, and spoil the child, child grows the more favourable, conversely, too unrestrained doting to kids, and even often rebuked swear, on the child\'s personality development will produce side effects.
Selfish behavior as a child growing up in a bad psychological and behavior, its development and on children\'s mental and moral development, will have a great impact. At the beginning of early childhood development, most of the awareness of all acts from instinct. When self-awareness in the minds of young children begin germination, and further strengthened, tended to encroach on exclusive own preference items are not allowed to others. All this psychological basis of selfish behavior.
Facing increasingly expansive desires of the child, parents if timely guidance, children generally acceptable persuaded parents to give up and make a positive response. Instead, if indulged doting, let things run their course, no doubt exacerbated the one-child development of selfish behavior.
In China, only children from their families \' children for the following reasons:
In the first, in families with several children, parents in General especially love first born child. As the child of quack fall on the ground, parents pride arises spontaneously, and strongly aware of their child\'s safety, the responsibility of happiness. They are willing to sacrifice your comfort and benefits to meet all the demands of the children. In the one-child families, parents are to focus all his love and high hopes to the it\'s only a child\'s body.
Second, modern family, only one child, parents fear prevails child xuehuai, fear of illness, fear of children do not become nervousness, caress so have shown people the protection and rearing attitudes of high expectations.
Third, the only child of parents now, most people eat, and after a number of patient days, their childhood and adolescence, material no no and now children, then relatively poor conditions of education. But now they as parents, had an idea: not willing to let their children have tough times, willing to create a superior living environment and conditions for their children. So they would rather hurt myself, to meet the needs of children, what is more, is to meet the child beyond the actual tolerance of various requirements of the family.
If you want to correct the child\'s selfish behavior, let your child become a physical and mental health, of high moral character, and should, starting from the following areas.
First, the children\'s cooperation consciousness
With the development of human society, \"cooperation\" as a way of life, has been more and more people pay attention to. That sense of cooperation is not only modern humans must have one of the modern quality, but also as a human being should have at least moral quality. So parents should enhance the cultivation of consciousness of children a spirit of cooperation and altruism, to let the child know how for the sake of others, to experience labor happiness for others.
Second, the prestige of the foster parents
On the premise of understanding, communication, and to educating children to respect their parents. Can\'t let child childhood develop freely on their elders to command, bad habit of vexatious. A child from childhood, if they defied the authority of parents do not know how to respect hard upbringing their parents, then his adult will not know how to respect others. Of course, to do this, need to parents forced willpower and mental endurance.
Third, to kick the shield a shortcoming or fault
Comparison of today\'s one-child-controlled autonomy of poor parents criticized the advice is good at listening to people on their children, and to observe the child bit by bit, to seize the opportunity to correct the error of the child in a timely manner to avoid children small mistakes do not change, lead to disaster.
Education-only child, is a continuous process of learning and discussion. Parents occasionally errors do not cause serious harm to the child, except for those continuous and consistent error will leave permanent traces in the child up. To avoid such injuries children approach was: to learn how to detect danger signals and should arouse attention flags; grasp the characteristics of children\'s physical, mental, know anything what happens ages and take the appropriate discipline of the attitude.
Although the children are unable to select the parent culture, occupational and family conditions, but our parents are able to give them good education environment, make children physically and mentally healthy growth, it is the bounden duty of parents.
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