Parents sometimes losing patience or dissatisfaction are inevitable for the kids to kids, so we have been discussing this issue. However, at the same time we also have to consider a related and equally important problem: parents can take their frankly irritated mood? to less strict with their parents often to admire oneself when angry. If a child has always given people peace, resistance of a natural, candid mother to her friend half-jokingly said, \"in the House to stay with him one minute I can\'t take it anymore. \"Or\" I really wanted to beat him a good meal. \"She may not resort to these ideas, but she dares to compassionate friends or himself admitted that he was really angry. In this way, she find out their anger problem and in talking to say it later, her heart was also comfortable. It would also make her understand what they have been tolerated, after her more determined to prevent a child\'s bad behavior.
Some parents set themselves high standards, excellent parents don\'t often feel angry should be like them. Therefore, parents really have a hard time is. When they realized the mood when they either feel very guilty, or try to deny this. However, if a person is trying to suppress their own mood, you can only make this emotional burst forth in other ways--such as, tension, fatigue, or headaches.
Was angry about the children is another indirect expression is excessive for child protection. If a mother is unwilling to admit children have grievances, she would have imagined some terrible thing, and think that these terrible things may happen in other places on the child\'s head. Therefore, she will worry about bacteria or excessive traffic. She tried to use her wings to protect their own children to avoid these risks, and doing so is very easy to develop a child too much dependence on parents.
This problem is caused because the parents do not consider themselves angry. I noted that the problem is not only to relieve parents uncomfortable feeling. In General, make parents feel painful thing will make kids feel the same pain. When parents are afraid of confrontations between children and their own feeling and dare not admit when children will also have the same worries and fear. In the child guidance clinic, we saw some illusion of fear for their children. They are afraid of insects, afraid of going to school, afraid of and separately from their parents. Investigations proved that this kind of psychological fear is those who seek to perfect the children usually dare not recognize parents \' anger, so take this means of disguise.
Another view is that, if the parents have the courage to admit children angry, children will feel more happy, because in this case, if they have this feeling, it will be very frank. Therefore, parents justified anger vented out help to clarify the facts, so everyone was happy. I mean not saying that your child can be rough, but that you should admit your grievances. In addition, I would not say if the air can vent to children. You can see everywhere rude, no love of the father. They all day without any reason to child abuse or corporal punishment in words, and does not feel guilty at all. And we\'ve been talking about are those with obvious love and dedication of parents to their children.
If a father or a mother in most of the time are children of the gas, then, whether he is also holding back in anger vented out the heart, he will be in the spirit of constantly tortured. In this case, I advise him to mental health specialists to consult, because his anger may come from an entirely different area.
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