United States children\'s independence
In the United States, from the date the child baby born, he was viewed as an independent people. Parents never forced their children do, but according to the child\'s age characteristic and guide them to do what we should do. One child under the age of, when they can hold bottle milk himself, parents encouraged their own holding the drink. Finished, parent to the child thanks and praise.
In General, children completed high school, whether they are into University, is also on the jobs that they had left the family when independent living. The vast majority of young people leaving home on the road to self struggle.
I en route from New York to Philadelphia, encounters a young girl. She was holding the luggage out of the car, passengers were covered, I and others to meet, and left her and on me at the station. I asked her if she is waiting to be answered, she shook her head and said no, she did not know where to go. I then asked her where it came from, she said she was 18 years old, has just finished high school, MOM and dad living difficulties, her four brother and sister are still in school. Her time to the independent living, therefore left home to go out looking for work, to reduce the burden on families. With sympathy I want to give her to help. At this point, my car, I get on with her but she refused politely. She picked up the heavy baggage, go slowly.
Does not say \"no\"
United States 7 killed girl Jessica jiaji tragedy caused widespread controversy in the world. But apart from Jessica Simpson\'s mother is incredibly sad still said that: \"children want to fly, let her fly! ”
This is to adhere to their own education. Latin spirit is that of education. They focus on encouraging, supporting, accompanying children through the long process of learning, training, final results without too much.
Westerners don\'t usually when a child is what do you want to rush to say \"no\". Such as the children want to dismantle a toy and even television, parents do not get angry. Because you can buy some junk to satisfy requirements of the children. Even when children watch people driving speed on yourself when you want to try, parents do not agree, will ask a professional racing driver to teach. Let the children come to understand speed not only drive faster, there is physical fitness, endurance and hard training. Meet the child\'s wishes, and let the children know what to do in practice, can be done or vice versa. Say \"no\" can only undermine the parent-child relationship, to suppress children\'s activity, forcing them into \"underground\"--then regret! Thus, first of all, is to respect and encourage the child\'s wish, before considering how to respect and encourage. Here the most important is the ability to really understand children. Because of varying levels of each child to physical and mental development, grasp this difficult, but we must try to understand. Sometimes children just a whim, think is beautiful, in fact, capacity does not meet the, it is even more need parents \' help. This situation continues to maintain the child\'s interest to allow them to try suspects and make a mistake. Of course, like small and clean as possible at the cost of life, yashica, would not let them decide.
Children want to do something that parents can use their experience to tell them what will happen. If they don\'t listen, or go to the test, and the result as the adults have notice never teased them: \"early tell you sth Deserved! \"So that he would not talk to you about something in the future. Because when he proved that \"being cheated\", no longer believe what adults since.
Frightened not deceive children
I came to United States when studying, constant-contact United States family, before you with past habits of Chinese: Suppression of children doing something even cheated with a deterrent effect. Such as \"disobedient, the Devil came\", \"disobedient, MOM and dad don\'t you. \"I found that most United States parent is sensitive to this, some people immediately intervene. Now I understand what American children with our Chinese people have a significant difference: absolutely not frighten children, cannot lie to lie to children. They consider that the child\'s ability to take the pressure is very low, adult casual a word tends to make them sleep well, eat.
I have eaten a hardship. In my own after having a baby, in order not to let her eat chewing gum, said chewing gum eating fish are dead. Nazhi she remembered, one day after eating chewing gum mood suddenly lowering, my dilemma, unable to overcome her troubles. Later had to say to eat a piece of order or not very serious, but still could not eliminate child\'s tension. It seems that in this point Americans are right, kids, intimidation and deceit is also not in good faith.
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