I think that, after each child makes a mistake they will detect, preaching at an appropriate time, of course, be a severe warning for parents, but if it is recognized by his own errors, results are the best-of children make mistakes, parents \' silence.
When children make errors, each parent will take since he considered proven methods to help, education: some stories let him know the method of error; some corporal punishment let him remember the lessons of sth Either way, its only one objective, let the children know the error, and thereafter no longer made. I differ from the other parent, when the children make errors, the most common method is \"silent\".
Son and I live together, dependence on my strong, attaches great importance to my views. On this point, when he makes mistakes, I take a way to silence to punish him.
Because I believe that, after each child makes a mistake they will detect, preaching at an appropriate time, of course, be a severe warning for parents, but if it is recognized by his own errors, the effect is the best. Assuming, of course, is that he has to understand, what should be done, which should not be done.
Once, his son made a serious mistake. I was very angry, but gas on fire has been suppressed, not him immediately. When they got home, he continuously to please me, tease me, or my side climb to climbing, I do his thing as usual, talk as usual, is not to say that he committed an error. I can see, he has realized his mistake, but he did not admit its mistake and think could fool I can cross the border. I always insist on, not to mention he committed a mistake, the consumption of the whole night he break, given the standing given to me, says in a low voice: \"Mama I\'m wrong, sorry. \"I\'ll ask him:\" How do you wrong? \"He sincerely said his mistake out.
I\'ll forgive him, and told him: do wrong to correct is good boy, but if done wrong also admit, does not correct the error, that no one is willing to, and he had good friends. When you say these things, looking at his expression of regret, my mood is also very complex, but only really wanted to hold him in her arms, telling him, no matter what time, of the mother is in love with him, but I just smiled and patted his shoulders like a treat adults.
Son grows quickly, his language skills are constantly improving, but I didn\'t expect this, as learned more and more, he says a swear word.
Once I asked him to put the toy on the floor packed, ready to wash hands to eat. He clean up, smiled and said to me the sentence: \"mother silly x.\" Speak very fluent style of handwriting. I hid in the kitchen, pretending nothing was heard, while preparing dinner, pondering where he learned of the swear word. When we were at home, has always been attention to the teaching by precept, whenever you would use words, would never say such things, so only one possible, he\'s learned from the outside.
According to the son of Grandpa said he heard children outside such a curse, find it very interesting, has had a lot of effort to this sound. After knew why he said swear word, although I was very angry, but does not show it. I know that children at this age there is no discrimination, he does not understand the bad language meaning of the sentence, but heard for the first time, feeling fresh and fun of efforts to study, to talk dirty to me, but it was to come to my attention, show his ability.
How to correct him? I once again took the silent way. When he say these words, I do not have to correct him, but to pretend nothing was heard, said turns to him, or simply transfer topics. After a long time, he discovered that when he said this time, family reactions are very cold, I feel nothing, so, will not say these words, then seem to have forgot this swear word.
In my experience, when the child is guilty of errors not intended parents don\'t have to raise a big Rumpus, so sometimes it will enable children to learn more about the wrong impression, it is difficult to truly correct, the best way is to keep silent, let thought he recognized the error, and reflection this error at the same time, willing to correct. Of course, not children make any errors, this method is effective, if a child for the same error repeatedly negligent, so parents should try combining the actual situation, using a different method of education.
Despite the perception that I do so would cause psychological damage to children, but I do not regret it. Now his son has grown up, but still maintains a constant habit of introspection. And have started using this method of education of his children sth
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