After the baby was born without parents \' care, care. Especially mothers--children early in life, all behavior is guided by the mother, maternal feelings will form the basis of the parent-child relationship between. This survival instinct to breed out emotional Foundation, the children grow up in the future social feelings in the process of formation had a great impact. Education, both sides had begun when the unconscious or unaware.
Psychologists study found that children from birth to adolescence through 5 key turning point. Parents should target these 5 characteristics of the respective appropriate education for children in the period:
Newborn (0-1 months): newborn\'s brain function and development of this period is normal, will have a significant impact on future mental health. On the main problem is to Physiology, suddenly on the psychological adaptation to the great changes in the external environment.
Around 1: this should not wait for the child during the feature development, and should take the initiative of training children for attention, words and actions, coordination of training, particularly creep, slides, bounce the ball, rope skipping, etc. This process shall continue until the age of 3;
About 3 years old: 3 children of the most obvious change was to demonstrate a strong sense of independence aspirations, hope everything myself. Although everywhere may make when they eat the dinner is a grain of rice, when playing with toys made full bed, Montreal lousy, but they consider themselves good, not parents for help. In this period parents never suppressed, to change a child\'s sense of independence, and to make the training and fostering children\'s independent operation and independent thinking skills, conscious exercise children\'s guts and the courage and ability to adapt to the outside world, to continue to strengthen the training in motor coordination ability;
About 6 years old: obvious change is the role of social change of 6-year-olds. They entered the campus from kindergarten every day need to complete the job, with the pressure. At the beginning of school, dealing with children some of the special attention, such as writing job pulling, careless, attention is not focused, often doing things anticlimactic, crying or timid personality, be afraid of getting into trouble, love, love lost his temper. These problems if you do not timely corrected, training, at the age of eight or nine would become more prominent, allowing significant performance degradation. Therefore, just 6 years old children to school, teachers and parents \' education should focus on children\'s learning habits and behaviors.
Puberty (around 12 year old girls, boy about 14 years old): adolescent psychologists call \"secondary weaning period\". Puberty of boys and girls, began to psychologically escape from dependence on the parents, even if the proposal to parents correctly, sometimes reverse psychology. They thought, emotion, behavior, self awareness, ways of significantly different in the childhood, but compared with adults is still very immature. Students of this period is the most annoying and most unwilling to accept commanding of education (the so-called \"parent education\"). Parents must learn to get along with children equality, efforts to make friends with them, even if busy, then one\'s work, should also be regularly take time with them to chat, talk, go outdoors for a walk, do not have no interest in what they said showed, even boring. Only in this way, a long time before they are willing to speak with parents mind.
Finally, parents cannot be a perfectionist attitude towards children. Fierce competition in the modern society, the vast majority of parents soft metal into steel, ambitious for one\'s children, require near-perfect for the kids. Despite the significant progress of children, various aspects of performance are very good, but I still do not have access to any recognition of parents, long easy to make children lose confidence. In fact, the timely recognition of children is parents should be able to use the means of education. Parents \' words and deeds can neither ignore nor comprehensive restrictions, to create a relaxed learning environment for children, let them free passage of time. Love nature are parents of a child, but transition must not neglect of the child\'s mental growth, cause great importance to the whole of society.
Parent-child relationship is not just a simple \"keep\" character, even more important is that \"culture\". That not only make it grow up, but also make it useful. In the education of their children, children of \"Psychology\" is a very big obstacle.
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