Vs Linkin Park: fathers are permanent care

\"San Mao once said that she did not dare to have a child, because she can\'t afford the care that mood. I have a child so I can understand, really, daughter not my eyes for a moment, I am very worried. The worry about feeling, I deeply understand the parents on the upbringing of his grace, that is not a physico-chemical actions, it is a never-ending worry about. ”

On a sunny afternoon, I met vs Linkin Park-see very heavy-the daughter of sports \"mouth\". Usually used to listen to his passionate interpretation, now he says his daughter Vivian speaking and say that they did a father, his gentle tone to get me confused for a moment. Chatting chatting, I gradually learned, Daddy kin Cheung is so sincere and introverted, so relaxed and modest, although not on the football, but he does say is just as accurate and in place of the father, as one deeply.

Father, means a never-ending care

Did dad, for kin CHEUNG,, not just harvested a lovely daughter, after having a baby, he felt that he had also followed her start a second life. Completely different, the entire people\'s inner world, work status, State of mind, understanding and view of life on the world is not the same. Also, \"only when the father, to appreciate the meaning of man, only they have a deeper understanding of parents only child only sense of deeper understanding of blood family. Life bit by bit since childhood care, education to grow, it is a mood, that all the care of felt, and some fear the kind of mood, this was no alternative to anyone. ”

Speaking of which, Jian Xiang mutter for a moment, then said I moved to deep: \"when we go to school like watching near the source of the book, after San Mao had said things to children. She said she did not dare to have a child, because she can\'t afford the care that the mood, I have a child to understand, really, she has a moment out of my eyes, I worried, afraid of what accidents, lost her. And every moment are wondering she is eating well put on sleep, I if it is not her only when her mother together with her, I will rest assured. The worry about feeling, I can understand parents for their upbringing of TU, is not only a embodied a move, not just for you to give you shit you put to your washing urine, it really is a never-ending worry about. ”

With children, to uphold the kindness of an Angel

Did his father, Kin CHEUNG that he had matured, became a more virtuous men. \"I feel after having a baby, the heart becomes very soft, especially not aggrieved children suffer. Sometimes I can not understand, some parents of people doing some immoral things in public, they are the children of others, as well as other people\'s parents, how can they do we do things in life? I sometimes even with a sympathetic eye to see their children, they too, unfortunately, live in an environment like that. ”

Kin Cheung education concept is simple, daughter\'s coming like an Angel, he increasingly felt that a man should be more good and noble: \"I believe in a good environment to grow up children, should the capacity are not poor, she will at least have a sound personality, more developed mind, she should be able to face all kinds of situations. I mean, you can teach your child the world beauty and ugliness, but you can\'t because the world is ugly and ugly way to teach your children to deal with ugly. ”

Daughter father only lover

Kin cheung, any woman in the world have no daughters on his importance. \"Her mum often asked me if I\'m with baby ranks, who first, I dare not say, for fear she called me, I would say your first baby ranked second. And then she said, I first your second baby, and then my heart just steal music, in fact, I was thinking of. Because the child weak, she needed parental care, you can\'t deny her daughter to what, you can\'t say no, so be sure to control ourselves, to her healthy growth, sometimes due to say. ”

Sometimes, my daughter really was moved to tears by his. Kin Cheung have acute appendicitis, pain in head one night one night, more badly hurt the next day. Go to the hospital before surgery, from Nanjing\'s father gave him a massage to relieve pain. \"When the daughter ran, Grandpa said, your father\'s pain, you come to make him a squeeze. She was only 1 year 5 months, came and stood next to me, with a small hand swish swish swish swish pinch me, Grandpa says you give dad blew it doesn\'t hurt, she blow blowing-bashing-bashing. Since there was pain in one night, very hard, may people are weak, the pain I can carry live, a pinch her little hands, my tears, Hua down. Just think of your children give, is this flesh and blood affection, she will be paid. ”

Dad is the daughter of the most firm support

To hear him say, I gradually he is infected with: \"do you think that if no child will be shortcoming? \"My voice is not falling, Jian Xiang can\'t wait answer:\" of course, of course, I now regret. I would also like to second the third child, it is not allowed to second. Boys and girls to tell the truth I really does not matter, very much, I wanted to, both boys and girls, to how the two might be better. ”

\"Ever, to play football if son can follow you? \"\" Is. My daughter has now followed me to play football, run she play in the next to hold the ball playing, with another aunt and uncle brought the children to play, also very happy. ”

\"I regret not say daughter can\'t play football. I feel that, as a man, recalling their own growth, summary to reflect on themselves, always feel some regret, if you try again may do better. If you have a son, a father has the

-Like a dream, or is a paranoid, is to copy its own, delete many defects, is an updated version of their, own an upgrade version, people always want to do their upgrade. But the daughter, yet, because the world requirements and demands of men to women is not the same. Nothing on her request, as long as her health, happiness, peace and happiness on it, but you have no such upgraded version of their opportunities. Even if she got you a lot, absorption of you a lot of things, but demonstrated to daughter, and the boy is not the same. ”

Kin Cheung last proudly announced their ambitions: \"say not should be modest, I feel that they are a very good very noble man, I hope that for the next generation of little girls a good young men, but now only left them a strong competitor, is my daughter. I will always be her strongest supporters. ”-

Wife of Jian Xiang \"reviews\":

Vs Linkin Park is a good father. He special patient, at home, and daughters mad play, high, see Swan Lake, with the antenna of the baby, jump with their daughter in the bedroom. May be due to their traditions, their father and daughter relationship very well. He also never daughter badly and never speak loudly on her, always reasonable. Special buy Dad\'s daughter also accounts, says dad is angry, she would not have to do.

Saving dinner time for parents and opposition

Saving dinner time for parents and opposition

Some children ate only vegetables do not eat meat, some children only eat meat do not eat vegetables, worry about partial Lunar Eclipse is the parent of a child.

Everyone eating preferences, this is a normal thing. If a child is a bit partial eclipse, hate to eat green peppers, hates carrots, please don\'t mind too much, so often lead to children even further, adding emotion becomes even more complicated.

When certain food preferences or children do not like certain types of food, if the condition can affect the health and growth is necessary to adjust.

Not to eat vegetables or meat boy

Children do not eat vegetables or meat, partly because of innate temperament low degree of acceptance, but mostly because of \"poor chewing ability\" or caused by bad eating habits.

For example eating rare soft food too long during the child, such as the child has reached the age of 1 in eat porridge or eat liquid food period is too long, will have poor chewing ability of children and do not eat meat or vegetables (coarser food fiber or fiber).

So, to improve the situation of children don\'t like to chew, you must start in a progressive manner.

Solution 3TIPS

Starting from a good chew food, Chinese cabbage, cabbage vegetables cooked soft like halogen; not fit for a long time to cook vegetables such as spinach, water spinach, chopped and then fried, cut up or keep the fried spinach.

Meat can start with fish, such as Braised conditioning fish smell disappears, or filamentous scented chicken into, acceptance of children would increase.

Prevent child eating rice restaurant taste too much: too much salt, sugar, soy sauce and Minced pork mixed with rice, it is easy to cause a taste neutral, also a lack of fiber, easily lead to a partial eclipse in the future.

For dinner not interested in children

Children like to eat \"non-dinner food\", generally have the following reasons:

Check1: has a habit of snacking: snacks before lunch or in the home often has snacks, supply of snack a lot.

Check2: likes to drink with bubbles or sugary drinks: soft drinks, juice, and other sugary drinks supply ample.

Check3: develop a taste preference: for example, eat too much junk food, but are too sweet, too salty and spicy food.

Check4: activity is insufficient: there is not enough space and opportunities, appetite is not open.

Check5: climate of lack of good eating: if often let the children eat alone in the corner, or parents like eating in time to correct the child\'s behavior, such as \"sit! Not to move to! \"\" Do you think you, her hair fell into the Bowl! \"\" Chopsticks with good! Fingers do not point at others! \"Makes children think dinner is in the\" speech \", as the dinner as a dangerous road.

Parents should be the child\'s role model

Currently our social environment caused a widespread: parents generally require or want the child\'s life than their own success, talent than their full. They feel in the heart of the parents is often the ideal side, in particular in daily life and rearing was reproduced in this negative side. Ideal is the parents tend to one heart and one mind, redouble our hard work pay, to farm out the child a better future. The negative side is that many parents one-sided set restrictions and standards on child development, its requirement for children generally beyond the child\'s mental age, thus causing various obstacles to children\'s development.

Many parents know this, but there are many people who feel unable to change yourself. Some people hear education merit has awakened, but in life and unwittingly began to hope that their children over other people\'s children, continues to make a habit of that set, forget the truth about education.

In fact, one essence is the parent of the child to become a model for children. United Kingdom psychologists in the book of xierweiya·kelaier potential in the control, said: \"If you are not going to achieve anything, you can\'t expect your children to do. \"If you are not going to achieve anything, you can\'t expect your children to do. \"\" The success of this first meaning is to become children, love, parents of imitation, the second is the other aspects of the career and life success.

These two achievements in social or adult point of view is the first one is more important, but for the children to the lasting importance of education, the first important achievements. Some people Excel at work, but rather poor communication with the children, when it finds a child\'s personality, mental development when things go wrong, he can do. On the work of some people in the flat, even failed to become a, but establish good parent-child relationship with their children, become a support force for the growth of their children. So when children encounter difficulties and setbacks, often with the more correct approach and attitude in the face. Because parents for his support to his psychological practical, confidence, thus withstood the failed. Under such a mentality, children can better use of all aspects of mind and ability to face difficulty in problem solving, pass through it.

In other words, had succeeded in establishing parent-child relationship between the parents, at least can make children with relatively smooth, happy life. From the perspective of all aspects of observation, so that children grow up and performance comparison of outstanding, have access to a particular aspect or a wide range of achievements.

But if parents \' Party on the basis of good parent-child relationship, career achievements, give children a complete example, after the children grew up in the high expectations of the itself, living and working in line for parents of the parties, is more strict with themselves, easier access to career and life success.

If the parents did not succeed success establishing parent-child relationship, the child may not only not successfully draw strength from the parents, but felt neglected and complain of health on the one hand, on the other hand feel pressure and reverse. Therefore, from the standpoint of the education of their children, establishing parent-child relationship is the achievement of the first importance.

To successfully establish parent-child relationship of parents, their first in terms of interpersonal skills for children and make an example: this is shown in the child love, rather than showing requirements, and bundles. Of course, said love was true love here, instead of spoiling. True love is in the child\'s care for the child as an independent, growing to respect life and training, respect is to encourage development of their freedom of individual life, health, training is in accordance with the objective law of life and growth of children to the space for them in developing their own capacities and conditions. True love is selfless, was paid to the children of flying. Spoiling is a requirement for children to meet too to boot them out to destroy their various desires, and thus they missed the life opportunities of access to life, with the result that grew up to be a destructive force. Spoiling is selfish, pay was subconsciously to children on their parents to be attached.

So good parent-child relationship to education a child know true love. But also here to emphasize that this love of high-quality and low, as the parents \' values may be. Parents \' values in the pursuit of virtue and stick is regarded as the first, is stuck as a pursuit of interests and also first, determined the child become a great development potential talent. We believe that the values of more importance to the pursuit of virtue, the more will bring long-term success and happiness of children.

Magic means to correctly answer the baby

Magic baby file: name: Wei Yitian age: 30 months magic level: intermediate

Magic case:

He is very obsessed with imaginary child, often in order to create their own ideal Kingdom. On one occasion, mother entered the room every day, seeing that he is quietly sitting on the floor, mother gently walked over, to understand what he was doing. Who knows, when looking up every day suddenly screams out loud: \"don\'t you come over, carefully stepped on my Palace. \"Mother confused, still go, not yet out of a step away, crying loudly every day:\" you\'re stepping on broken my Palace! \"In fact, anything not on the ground. MOM was almost scared him.

Mistake:

Scolding him, and said to him: \"don\'t talk nonsense, the next time you hear you say such a stupid thing, you see. ”

Expert recommends:

Should not be mechanically pulling the children back to real life. Doing so will only frighten the children, or make him even more dazed and keep away from real life. We should try to enter the world in the face of children referred to above, mothers can gently and said to him: \"Oh, I\'m sorry that broke your palaces, I help you build the fixed. \"And then make the repair action,\" \"for a while and then said to him:\" now repaired, I gave you a lock, locked the door for you, not you who also couldn\'t get your Palace. \"And children together to imagine, let him understand that you have an imaginary world. Invited him to have access to your world, he will allow you to enter the world. If the above a calm, natural attitude or not get him to open the door to your heart, not imprisoned him from the set, only the education expert.

Magic baby file: name: Charlie age: 36 months magic level: intermediate

Magic case:

Charlie is often said to himself, saying there are friends and talk to him, even more incomprehensible is that he also said that the friends have their own names, their personality and their own stories. Encounter anything Mike to his \"friends\" to discuss, listen to his views, seeking his help.

Mistake:

Charlie\'s parents are worried. Inviting an acquaintance of parents with children at home, and to introduce the child to him, \"Please understand, this is your new friends and new, she\'s much better than your friends. ”

Expert recommends:

Children like themselves decide, as long as the adults a chance, he will find friends according to your standards. If you have a friend after he different imaginary \"friend\" break up, the parents have to pay some time and effort to understanding the thought of his \"friends\", look at the \"friends\" in which people around than good, and equip themselves with the children gradually replaced their own imaginary friends. In short, if you can respect the child\'s feeling, and careful treatment, regardless of the Child Act appears to be what a strange, you can understand in the end, and could find ways to solve the problem.

Magic baby file: name: Shen Junjie age: 25 months magic levels: Super

Magic case:

Shunsuke always liked watching cartoons, also likes to play the role. Over the past few days he is too, should consider themselves to be dogs, kneeling like a dog sitting on the floor every day, is one of the most difficult, he refused to eat, insisted that bones and still keep \"barking\" instead of talking.

Mistake:

Angrily cursed children \"crazy\", and brutally suppress the child, said he was \"crazy\"!

Expert recommends:

If the children what happened, then there must be a reason. Parents have to do is find out, make the solution to the problem. For example, disguised as a dog\'s child bones, of course, not every day, you can play the other big dogs, then as similar proposals it try new food: vegetable and rice. \"Small dogs\" will certainly enjoy. Game is a game after all, children will soon be tired, we need only wait.

Good parents will say in my mouth

First, a few common things in our lives.

Zhang Ling\'s daughter home from kindergarten, Mama said, this class has a children joke she wears glasses, her nickname, she felt very uncomfortable. Zhang Ling, it\'s very small, said: \"what do you think of mother all know. Okay, go play. ”

Li Yuan\'s son told Li Yuan said: \"I will not play with little June says, he was too selfish, not just grab my toy, also pushed me. \"Li Yuan replied:\" don\'t speak, little June says is a good boy, is surely you did wrong, he will push you. ”

Son of Wang Xia came back to tell mother, for kindergarten \"Liuyi\" Festival, the teachers are selected dance team, he is on the hope that I can be selected by the teacher. Wang Xia confidently told his son: \"you will be able to be selected--because your dance is the best in your kindergarten, others are not as good as you. ”

Xin Zhao\'s daughter cry to Mama some students made fun of her long pair in the class \"prominent ears.\" Xin Zhao comforted her daughter said: \"your ears are not prominent ears; Furthermore, whatever you like, MOM love you. ”

Similar dialogue will appear in the day in our lives do not know how many times, and most of them are from the parents of their concern and care for their children. Many parents know, MOM and dad say to their children will have a positive or negative impact on children, with subtle function. Successful family education to avoid criticism, irony or intimidate children, while enthusiasm to actively guide and encourage. However, know what should I do, and does not guarantee that the parents for the child, it\'s very small spoken words are constructive. Several examples are good in front of parents may say the wrong thing for the kids.

Take what Zhang Ling example. In fact, concerned about their child\'s parents, nor is it possible anytime, anywhere, accurately know how children feel and impact of her emotional changes cause, the reason is simple: is not a child of parents, and no first-hand experience children\'s experiences. Zhang Ling\'s intent is to resolve children sadness, but instead of telling what her children, mother and have no interest to understand, or did not care about her feelings. Zhang Ling\'s answers may also have a negative consequences, it\'s daughters might want to say to Mama to resolve her own feelings, get some comfort from the mother, but her mother said all she wanted to go back. Such a situation occurred much later, Zhang Ling\'s daughter may never want to tell my mother my mind. In fact, encountered such a situation, parents should put down things on hand, give children a few minutes of time, say to kids: \"what happened in kindergarten, with my MOM to talk. \"And then depending on the understanding to provide some guidance for their children. Sometimes doing the children a good audience, is more useful than preaching!

We\'ll analyze Wang Xia said: Wang Xia told his son he was dancing in one of the best in kindergarten, it may be for purpose of sons are encouraged or is telling the truth. But if Wang Xia are not careful and often use the \"\" character, it might be heavy on the heart of a child component, become the child\'s psychological burden--if not selected, would that shows they are not the best one? High expectations--both father and mother to child was a child on their own – plus occasional mistakes, accumulating much will make the children have a tendency to self-doubt, becoming their own lack of confidence. In fact, in a similar situation, Wang Xia may wish to say: \"you can dance well, if this can be selected by the teacher of course good, selected not does not matter, the next time you will also have the opportunity. \"In this way, children from the mother can still be encouraging, but it would not be as\" one of the best \"to withstand the pressure.

Smaller children, the more will see the words father and mother as \"absolute\" truth to understand. But in fact we know that changing daily life, not a fixed pattern. Most happy children tend to be those most able to adapt to environmental changes around confidence, calm face of setbacks, on their own children. Therefore, parents and children in everyday conversation, to note to guide him in this direction.

Baby, a cool dry place

Baby, a cool dry place

Baby mother not father to do?

Dang children appears like wrapped around with mother, not father of case Shi, must don\'t anxious with blamed he, has may is do father of usual negligence on children of concern and care, and performance out of a protest reaction; to improve parent-child between of parent-child relationship, best every day spent some time accompany children together playing, and with he chat, and told story to children listen to sth sth, understanding children psychological idea, also let children understanding father of love.

Many fathers complained: \"children just like pestering my mother not father, he is my child? \"I always say:\" he was your child, but you are certainly not a warm father. ”

Causes of alienation and father

If you have such a problem, let us do a little testing, should be not difficult to figure out why. Don\'t find a reason when answering the question, yes or no? With or without? Only select one answer ....

1. do you go home every day in front of the kids didn\'t sleep?

2. you will help your child change diapers, foam milk, please?

3. have attentively accompanied children playing time 1 hour a day?

4. you say good night story, for he did accompany him for a walk or play ball?

5. do you often speak to him and holding him?

6. the children crying, you have the patience to coax him?

If more than a few simple questions, your answer is \' no \', then the child not to father is normal. Said of reality and presence of father for children, there is no difference, because in his world, you\'re just a familiar face, perhaps as father you feel uneven, is busy working every day to see who?

Baby from was born to entered youth period Qian, may is parents only can to time accompany he, and established close parent-child relationship of when, if missed, dang children slowly grew up, has has own of world, parents wanted to accompany he may even opportunities are no has, but in children most need of this stage, father is often for cause, and for make money, with off has all of spirit and time, no time accompany children is a facts, is also into has killed parent-child relationship of culprit, dang father found own in children of heart, seems to does not was attention, and and children does not parents of status appears, wants to cover often need spent is long of a time, and tried to to boot, this on father, and on children are will will is a terrible of suffering.

Interaction time is the key

Children a few ago already have parades, often appears in front of him, always hold out, those who accompany him, if not the mother, will become the object of his dependence. But at this stage if the father time enough, children stuck mother not father, emerged naturally very easily.

Actually, 3 or 4 aged Shi baby has knows expression own of preferences emotional, and does not lie, full vocational of mother on where where care has plus, regardless of where where do what will accompany in he side, relative of, father although will took with family travel, but personality does not lively of father, and help qqll job Zhijian of interactive is does not more, in where where of world in and no habits father accompany Ah! Only when the car where the where the only feel the existence of the father because MOM can\'t drive, help qqll job you just learn to talk, even called the taxi driver \"Dad\", perhaps in his cognitive, driving is Daddy here!

Personality affect parent-child relationship

In addition to father is too busy, Dad\'s personality sometimes leads to children do not want to or can\'t close, particularly naturally shy baby more vulnerable, with a few small problems to test, if the unpopular father?

Let the child bathed in love

People often praise the great mother, not simply because the mother on the growth of their children well, while the infant period, particularly before the age of 5, mother to child feeding, training and personal effects, often on children\'s mental development, personality development and mental Outlook of the formation and development, play an extremely important role. Many great men in concluding his success experience, always traced back to early culture and influence of mother, is this truth. A large number of experimental studies have shown that mother love is the mental development of the basic points, if the lack of love before age 5, the development of intelligence will be subject to different constraints. Therefore, the factors influencing the intelligence as a lack of motherly love.

Animal test confirmed, mouse, and cat, and goat, and sheep, animal, in just out Shi on immediately will young Tsai and mother separate, makes mother cannot lick ask and care its young Tsai, had several hours then will young Tsai took back, mother on will refused and children intimacy; but if young Tsai was born Hou let mother lick ask, and contact 5-10 minutes, separate a time then took back, mother is performance out is intimacy of feelings. To leave after the birth mother\'s Cubs, behavioural changes when they grow up; and grew up in his mother\'s Cubs this is rarely the case. New-born lambs, if no mother within an hour of licking, also no touch, calm, the little sheep will soon be dead. Animals are so, so it is with people. Dependence on the mother\'s is very obvious in infants. When a baby crying, if mothers hold and caress, even if the baby has not milk, often immediately stopped crying, demonstrated quiet and meet, this is the role of the mother.

Boy of 1-2, although you can play one, however, if the mother is not around, they will immediately feel uneasy, interest will rapidly reduce the playing, showing a look of fear. Can any spoiled child in front of the child in the mother, but in front of others without that kind of casual and natural, also, when a mother\'s arms the baby gently stroked the baby\'s body with their hands, baby will immediately reveal emotions of joy, micro-closed eyes, respiratory natural or smile, watching the mother\'s face. From the look of these, you can see that motherly love for babies is a beautiful, natural, filmed, enjoy, this beauty is in itself conducive to intellectual development.

3-4 aged of child care, has society has walk and own hands-on work, but, in mother side Shi they will performance was more lively, more assured some, if once left mother, he on will while view once own of mother is also in in situ, if in in situ is not dynamic, children on will still assured to play; as suddenly found mother is not original of local has, will has may immediately crying or shouted up, performance out panic and does not sense. And the emotions of fear and panic, is detrimental to the mental development of unhealthy psychological factors.

These phenomena, illustrates the dependency of children to their mother, and child in the mother free of ideological emotion and scruples of behavior. Children from such acts, access to the immense happiness and enjoyment, an important role in the early intellectual development. On child care, early material supply of nutrients, important, however, spirit nutrition is essential, if only the substance of nutrition supply, and lack of good psychological emotions, good understanding of things around, feeling and free motor stimulation, is not, is not conducive to the development of intelligence.

At present, young couples working ratio increases, superior to domestic economic conditions, many others bringing up children shortly after birth. From the working angle, so conducive to work, of course, but if from childcare, development of intelligence, is not desirable. Because this can cause children lack of love, child\'s level of development of intelligence cannot be expected. Want to know the health and education is the responsibility of the father, mother, others can replace you to care for their children\'s lives, but no substitute for love, this is where the great mother. Therefore, for the intellectual development of children, that you work busy, economic conditions and then superior, should also not be completely handed over to nannies shortly after the birth of a child or other person under the care and training. If the mother and child separation, a child from childhood experience feelings of motherly love was not, it will not affect the behavior of child intelligence development and cultivation of character.

Fun games: in the name of the baby to find kid stuff

In the name of the baby to find kid stuff

Although there is no provision specifically provided, Dad what, MOM and this is what, but people always subconsciously think parents should be very mature way. Playing with toys, games, snacks sth All belong to the child\'s behavior is to prohibit parents into minefields. People can often be seen in your life such a scene, adults by children calm and confident in the name of immersion in the game; mother of the young in the name of her daughter, purchase large packages of snacks sth Take the child\'s name, grown up once again, we enjoyed a happy childhood; take the child\'s name, saddled with mature adults burden once again experience the wanton happiness. We covered the years marks the corner edges and a simple bright smile.

Review of game fun

Outsiders find the watermelon one a bit special, Dad doesn\'t like dad, MOM does not like my mother, Grandpa and Grandma says, this is two big boy with a little child, family together with crazy.

Small watermelon most like to do is to please the children to play with MOM, MOM will be happy to take a group of kids running around on the playground. Cat catch the mouse, the Eagle to catch the chicken sth All watermelon mother as a child, playing games, now all a review again. Meet some strange eyes to see their, innocent mother of watermelon full face, reason: \"no way, small watermelon I play with him! \"But you just look at the mothers face exciting expression of watermelon, you know watermelon mother enjoy!

Watermelon style completely different father and mother of watermelon, watermelon Dad\'s favorite things are small watermelon dad took with him all men are brothers-card. Always half an hour before dinner, father-son duo face down on the play, Dad\'s hand, but card needed skills, and small compared to the watermelon, he did not prevail. Still as a child, father at that time was a watermelon kleintje, boys favorite game of the year is making cigarettes shell, almost the same as the rules of the game and today\'s card. Lie on the floor and when small watermelon with cards, watermelon Daddy that he had returned to the past, when the kleintje. Occasionally have guests, watermelon dad don\'t feel embarrassed, because you want to accompany their son to play with.

Snacking fun

Every Sunday, Zhou Zhou is fixed to the supermarket to buy snacks, crispy potato chips, chocolate, also has the kind of shape lollipops sth Have a friend called is Zhou Zhou snack pot, such a method is not an exaggeration. When married, Zhou Zhou likes doing things while reading a novel while snacking, love when Zhou Zhou\'s husband is now use snacks to buy off a week of heart. But after marriage, watched week keep snacks in the mouth, she said: \"not at all a big baby. \"Week later seldom eat snacks.

Week now has a son, she also has a snack of legitimate reasons, each time you buy snacks, Zhou Zhou is said to be bought for my son, but bought back into the belly of the week most of the snacks.

Cartoon fun

There father will be back in a day! Xiaoxin outstretched fingers, carefully considered, travel\'s father will be back tomorrow, small new dad, little new dad most want to know what bought this nice animation.

New\'s father is a small animation fans, all animation writer dad knows, father knew what the cartoon look, which comparison of dubbing of cartoon features.

The beginning of time, Dad saw little new Ultraman Max, learn to Ultraman Max flew, in the eyes of Dad Ultraman Max is both boring and uninteresting, and began to help new small to buy film, bought and small with new watch. And small with new animation, dad is getting into the mystery, humor, funny animations, father and son were both laugh together, beautiful animation, everyone likes.

New cartoon dad I will gift is back, see dad for small new selected films, all colleagues praised his father was a good father carefully, but no one knows, and serious father actually for your own selected animation.

Have fun of doll

Has a variety of beautiful doll was Anting desire since childhood, she likes to wear lace skirt blond doll, as they switched to help their layout room, was Anting dream is trying to do things, but because as a child, living conditions, Anting dream remained in a dream. Grew up, has the ability to purchase, but Anting think like her, face a wrinkled pile of people still go to something like the little girl, seems very artificial.

Corrections only did mother?

What kind of person, to qualify for \"modern father certificate\"? \"Role-identification\" is the first step.

Don\'t be surprised at the restaurant, holding children feed the father rather than the mother, to the husband rather than the wife of the supermarket to buy food, because whether in the traditional role played, difficult and the beauty of modern parents.

Past kindergarten \"family contact book\" often only the mother\'s handwriting, seems to father the family economy, educational responsibility shall be borne by the mother. In fact, based on the experience of early childhood education experts confirmed that father is often more suitable for communication with the children than mothers.

Because the father\'s \"childlike innocence\" not to lose a child, he can be easier to play with the children into a into \"the same\" person, but you want to share with the father, the child family relationships, the mother is the indispensable impetus.

Father time, energy, contribution to the work, most of them no time to enjoy the warmth of the family, a family without to encourage women to establish a career man, is often difficult to enhance the status of the mother in front of children, husbands.

Practical parenting prescription

In today\'s society, shuangxin families more and more, with the women go out to work, male weight in an increasing number of family work, especially after his wife pregnant produces, many fathers are active bear family and child rearing responsibilities.

In fact, in children growth of process in the, father of love and close, on children personality of training and the intelligent of fired, are has is important of effect component, known father of, must cannot underestimate own in parenting Shang by played of role, however problem is, although many modern father wants, is does not know the how started, we recommendations modern father may wish to first by close children began, following, we provides some close children of specific method or steps.

One, and first wife to communicate each other how to tie

1 understanding wife needs your help are those that work? On the ability and your own time, and what can help busy, full communication, do good again, and you can save time and effort with each other.

2 communication on the concept of parenting, and reach a consensus, in order to avoid practices inconsistent with each other.

3 understand the characteristics of children, make a career for their children, step by step, careful management, your love is easy to implement.

Second, the use of space, accompanying children.

Most of the children, I hope, most like is \"father accompanied him\" whether playing games, playing chess, watching TV, eating, sleeping, playing with toys, reading sth As long as the father in children accompanied him around, will make the children happy. So if you have a little space, may wish to accompany their children:

1 pick SOAP, have a wash.

2 in a lattice of Bang skipping jumped on the ground.

3 lost the ball, picking up balls.

4 accompanied children run run, walk, take a look at the clouds in the wild, go home tired bath.

5 to pick up fallen leaves, collecting, rubbing, accompany children watch it like what?

Listed above are preschool children like to do things, there are many items you can design yourself, just here for example. Accompany children best when down gestures, back child, children themselves as friends, to accompany him to play, with his thinking, solving his problems, you\'ll find unexpected pleasures.

Third, take a bath for the child (if he is five years of age).

It\'s not the bathing process, but to grasp the easy feeling after washing, continuing this feeling went on to chat, talk. You may wish to accompany him:

1 take the initiative to talk about what happened when you were young.

2 led him to express their feeling, such as happiness, anguish.

3 something had occurred, but you do not understand, for example: why has been crying yesterday, why fight with children sth Said after cold reason that it would be more easily.

Four, and his friends talk, play,

A birthday party, walked into his circle of life, than the far more important observation.

There is not only mother well

There is not only mother well

During the gathering with friends, have enough wine and food began after some talk at the University of the people and things. Chat chatting conversation turned to the used to be one of them played a trick on classmate s body, it s what is said to make people afraid to compliment. His most obvious characteristic is to take advantage of, at that time surnamed Liu s on the class of students take it lying down, because Liu students often \"teach to teach\" S,S never dared to resist, on the contrary, some relatively \"be honest\" students, are the object of s bully. Sometimes, when we fool of s too far, none of the girls have not seen in the past, think about what s can only be \"mourning their misfortune, anger its indisputable. \"The students said, s\" treatment \"derived from the s own way of doing things. S from a background of the family, but his father die at an early age, mother of a man who put him up. Some students in the class, was probably this family environment caused the s character defects.

Possible, happened during the s childhood imperceptible things of ordinary people. Absence of a father, his little friends to bully him, dared not show his courage to fight, only to find some small children \"vent\"; also likely mother of education more tend to obedient children, not naughty, from suppressing his masculine spirit of sth

However, modern love prevails in family\'s blind spot. Even if the couple feeling very good family, also has a joke-style competition for children feeling. Especially mothers, generally more like children than their husbands attachment and wound, more like children from early knowledge of the world\'s languages spoken on the mother\'s emotional bias. Children surrounded by his mother\'s neck, with people most fresh milk at the beginning of the sound, mother is put down to cater to all in the hands of him. Often hear young mothers face proudly complained: my son I small viscosity, with his father down a wide berth. Child\'s Oedipus complex mother conscious after boot, or even exacerbate widespread in big cities of \"small family mentality tilt toward motherhood group\" trend. This potential crisis for children\'s education.

Children\'s estranged father of \"residual card\" will be revealed in the growth of children. This effect on the character of the children, is often horrifying. A feelings of fiber sensing woman writer, writing articles, mostly romantic class, her sentimental and remote good upwind shed tears, also transmitted to the shadow with the son. Son at the age of 6, dare not walk at night, turned the light off dare not to sleep, like building blocks and \"cat fish\" girls often played, such as toys, like like a girl \' s recognition of mother\'s friend, a woman whose position is roughly equivalent to a foster mother and godmother without religious or legal complications, like wearing embroidered clothes, for clothes clean, he doesn\'t like the \"wild boy\" game: climbing trees, sand, play mud sth Women writers found her son never in trouble, never playing \"well behaved like a girl\". A few years later, women writers finally grieved, she said: \"he is like a look lovely and naughty little boys do? his physical development, and his temperament is not proportionate. \"Women writers finally realized, themselves meant to be from her husband pulled his son, son to single one Thanksgiving close to himself, had imported children\'s development of the child. Winter vacation, she went active creation leave the field, to leave her son her husband, gave them a parent-child play \"men and horses thrown off their feet\"!

Significance and role of father love kids

Said so much, I do not know whether fathers were really aware of the significance and effect of children on their own. Parent love \' influence far beyond the intelligence, but also the physical, emotional, personality, and so on. Extensive research data shows that less contact with the father of the child, weight, height, growth rate should lag behind some of the areas of action, strong and widespread anxiety, low self-esteem, self-control weak affective disorders, performance anxiety, hyperactivity, dependency, what experts call \"missing parent syndrome\".

In General, babies in front of mother very quiet, and the father is very exciting. Research indicates that, in most of culture and social class in the, father often with different of way to hold baby, and mother usually each are with same of posture; father of Action General comparison rugged, like by body contact of way and baby together play, and mother is is soft peace, tendencies Yu with toys makes baby playing; father to baby more of free to expedition, does not too protection, mother is tendencies Yu doting and too protection, on baby of each action are is tension. In the United States in June 1998 parents magazine, his father is considered to be the baby\'s life has the following effects:

Is different from 1, father and mother;

2 more love, father and baby play;

3, father to the baby\'s role in promoting greater;

4, father of using language more complex;

5, father to the baby\'s constraints more;

6, father make the baby more social, he went into preparing the real world;

7, describes the role of men in real life and behavior;

8, father supports his wife;

9, helping babies to develop their potential.

From these descriptions, we can see, the father in baby\'s personality formation and behavior do play a very important role in shaping.

Let the children obeyed in the independent parents

Ailun 5 years of age, originally of clever clever, he is now a family \"small hate.\" He faults does not, is there a converse mood, little love listening to people. Grandparents MOM and dad go around him, especially at meal time, active and lively ailun object that has become a headache the whole family. \"Culture, good, eat this, eat! \"\" Text, sit! \"\" Today we must eat this! \"\" Text, sth! ”

Kids why not listen to adults do? How to make children listen to adults do? These can be

MOM and dad issues of most concern.

Famous psychologist Jean Piaget\'s intellectual development of children is divided into four stages: sensorimotor stage, the former movement phase, specific campaigns and forms of movement phases. 2-7 movement stages a child before this stage. This stage, the child is the greatest characteristic of thinking: thinking Ego-centrism--convinced themselves that others think of the children, they think his ideas are always right. Therefore, we can understand the wenzhongwenwen of some small moves.

Therefore, parents should pay attention to a principle, that stimulate and support the children\'s interests and needs. Child on a transaction or an event caused the interests and needs, to show initiative and enthusiasm in the activities.

1, use \"? \"Abandoned\"! ”

In real life, MOM and dad likes to say \"you should!\" \" You shouldn\'t! \"So with a strong command of an exclamation mark before the statement is precisely movement stage of child psychological conflict. Children like MOM and dad will respect him, so MOM and dad when speaking to children, as far as possible not to use the exclamatory sentences with a command, command, for example: you are not allowed to go out and play today! Do not put your hand in the mouth! Parents should try to use questions, children as small adults, to discuss and ask and he equal dialogue.

2, with \"multiple choice\" abandoned \"alternative questions\"

Have a strong \"thinking Ego-centrism\" children, parents should let go of adults to become the master of the shelf, the way to democracy, equality, dialogue and exchange of children. Let your child to do such things as, try not to let the child do \"alternative question\", that \"this matter, do you do or not do? \"Alternative questions make kids feel like this was within the limiting framework of the father and mother, lost room for self play. Children prefer their parents out of \"multiple choice\", such as \"text, what do you eat your vegetables, cabbage, cauliflower is also Ah? \"Was not interested in vegetable children easy performance from my choice of enthusiasm, he will feel he had the initiative, but in reality, or let the children listened to the parents in the independent.

By a letter from the parents

Some say: \"when you have children, you have a problem. \"This sentence does not refer to the children so that we become parents or children will certainly pose problems, but means that as the child grows, parents will face various forms of children\'s issues. As far as daily routine of daily life, from the child bed, dressed in the morning, wash your face and brush your teeth, eating breakfast, go to school, to school this afternoon, watching television, eating dinner, bathing, going to bed, often parents run around in circles. If a bad homework, no sense, lying, theft, acts of treason, but will also enable parents caused a lot of.

Some parents still use reward, punishment to their children, admonish, bribery, threats and other disciplines, but don\'t know these methods emphasize equality today are being invalidated. Although some parents also understand the way to the past is no longer valid, but does not know what is the best, don\'t even know what\'s wrong with children, not discipline up pine suddenly tight, self-contradictory and inconsistent is the disciplined attitude of parents and children at a loss, even couples eg: spiteful.

Among the plight of parents in child issues, is understandable. Because this generation of parents under the environment of growing in traditional authority, as the previous generation of education learning and inherited by the discipline of the model, but the face of growing up in the next generation of modern democracy, lack of educational concepts and methods, but also no one teaches us how to parent or school, naturally at the turn of the old and new values are dazed and anxiety. In today\'s society, it has professional knowledge and ability required, only the parents are the exception, appears to have been expected to born to play this role. However is not the case, as pointed out by many studies at home and abroad, parent role is a very important role in adult development, but is also one of the most difficult to deal with the role.

Some parents like to listen to speeches, and you want to get ideas and practices of the education of children, especially on the spot, or privately to speech experts a question, want to get some specific and feasible answer immediately. However, a short period of time, for most people, just opened a new ideas and methods from the \"unity\" of the situation there is still a large distance, the result is heard method is not used out of, is, with no effect. This is not to say that the lecture is not used, but every family has a different status, even if the problem appears to be common, there are individual differences in real treatment.

Therefore, parents in addition to that they are outside the front-line educators, also need to learn a set of concepts and methods of effective education of their children. This book combined with the current prevalence of parenting education in the West \"parent effectiveness training\" concept, write content appropriate for Chinese social culture and lifestyle, and experimental research into parent training group, get great results over the years. For example, in 1989, Taiwan, Singapore, and Malaysia and other areas, parents benefit from this course has tens of thousands of people, and that meaningful education work is still ongoing. In mainland China, since 2004 also launched a series of parent training groups, proved by the warm response and effective. Because this set of concepts and methods of education of their children, not only provide parents with a great deal of interest and motivation, and more comfortable in practical application.

General description of the book How to be effective parents, chapters also detail on purpose how to understand the child\'s behavior, how to deal with parents \' emotional responses, listen actively, and to encourage discipline and practical way. Thus, whether parents, teachers, home educators, community workers, or parent group leaders, as long as parents or interested in becoming efficient is committed to developing responsible children who can take this book as a reference on the upbringing. Parents need not rote, simply reference and flexibility will be able to achieve gradual and orderly progress \"unity\" effect. On this occasion of the book is about my dissertation printed, solemnly recommend and King praying for sharing it.

Concerned parent-child relationship and children\'s education

Concerned parent-child relationship and children\'s education

After the baby was born without parents \' care, care. Especially mothers--children early in life, all behavior is guided by the mother, maternal feelings will form the basis of the parent-child relationship between. This survival instinct to breed out emotional Foundation, the children grow up in the future social feelings in the process of formation had a great impact. Education, both sides had begun when the unconscious or unaware.

Psychologists study found that children from birth to adolescence through 5 key turning point. Parents should target these 5 characteristics of the respective appropriate education for children in the period:

Newborn (0-1 months): newborn\'s brain function and development of this period is normal, will have a significant impact on future mental health. On the main problem is to Physiology, suddenly on the psychological adaptation to the great changes in the external environment.

Around 1: this should not wait for the child during the feature development, and should take the initiative of training children for attention, words and actions, coordination of training, particularly creep, slides, bounce the ball, rope skipping, etc. This process shall continue until the age of 3;

About 3 years old: 3 children of the most obvious change was to demonstrate a strong sense of independence aspirations, hope everything myself. Although everywhere may make when they eat the dinner is a grain of rice, when playing with toys made full bed, Montreal lousy, but they consider themselves good, not parents for help. In this period parents never suppressed, to change a child\'s sense of independence, and to make the training and fostering children\'s independent operation and independent thinking skills, conscious exercise children\'s guts and the courage and ability to adapt to the outside world, to continue to strengthen the training in motor coordination ability;

About 6 years old: obvious change is the role of social change of 6-year-olds. They entered the campus from kindergarten every day need to complete the job, with the pressure. At the beginning of school, dealing with children some of the special attention, such as writing job pulling, careless, attention is not focused, often doing things anticlimactic, crying or timid personality, be afraid of getting into trouble, love, love lost his temper. These problems if you do not timely corrected, training, at the age of eight or nine would become more prominent, allowing significant performance degradation. Therefore, just 6 years old children to school, teachers and parents \' education should focus on children\'s learning habits and behaviors.

Puberty (around 12 year old girls, boy about 14 years old): adolescent psychologists call \"secondary weaning period\". Puberty of boys and girls, began to psychologically escape from dependence on the parents, even if the proposal to parents correctly, sometimes reverse psychology. They thought, emotion, behavior, self awareness, ways of significantly different in the childhood, but compared with adults is still very immature. Students of this period is the most annoying and most unwilling to accept commanding of education (the so-called \"parent education\"). Parents must learn to get along with children equality, efforts to make friends with them, even if busy, then one\'s work, should also be regularly take time with them to chat, talk, go outdoors for a walk, do not have no interest in what they said showed, even boring. Only in this way, a long time before they are willing to speak with parents mind.

Finally, parents cannot be a perfectionist attitude towards children. Fierce competition in the modern society, the vast majority of parents soft metal into steel, ambitious for one\'s children, require near-perfect for the kids. Despite the significant progress of children, various aspects of performance are very good, but I still do not have access to any recognition of parents, long easy to make children lose confidence. In fact, the timely recognition of children is parents should be able to use the means of education. Parents \' words and deeds can neither ignore nor comprehensive restrictions, to create a relaxed learning environment for children, let them free passage of time. Love nature are parents of a child, but transition must not neglect of the child\'s mental growth, cause great importance to the whole of society.

Parent-child relationship is not just a simple \"keep\" character, even more important is that \"culture\". That not only make it grow up, but also make it useful. In the education of their children, children of \"Psychology\" is a very big obstacle.

Parents how to use the reflect listen

Parents how to use the reflect listen

Using reflect when listening to parents not only played a recorder, repeat the description of the child, but to organize children\'s story, and find the children hide feelings and really help children renders everything that they want to express feelings and needs.

Parents should pay attention to is:

1. \"stop, look, listen\"

Often emotional feelings are invisible, not touch things, parents are relevant to understand the child\'s feelings, and properly reflected, it depends on the parents of effective listening. To be an effective listener will need \"concentrate\" of Kung Fu, including: to make eye contact and attention and hearing: ears to receive and pass the \"I\'m listening to\" reflect information, give children some responses in a timely manner.

In fact, communication and not only is the language of conversation, sometimes non-verbal behavior: facial expression, eye contact, gestures, posture and tone will also pass the communication of information, some people believe that these non-verbal information may be passed by the behavior of communication more important than words, more authenticity, reliability and representativeness. If parents want to know the child feel inside, just by relying on their communication is not easy to achieve the objective of understanding of the language to talk, parents need to strengthen the non-observation of language and listening skills: stop, look, listen.

\"Stop\": temporarily stop work in progress, look at each other, providing children express their feelings of time and space.

\"Look\": look closely child communication non-verbal behaviour.

\"Listen\": listen to what children say.

2. for information on how non-verbal

Parents if you want to be a valid listener, you must communicate to their children understand the meaning of non-language behavior represents. Children will usually pass through the following behavior with different feelings:

(1) facial

Child\'s facial expressions will vary as different emotions and feelings, common:

Crying: may mean that the mental or physical injury, shy child, disappointed, upset and frustration, anger and other emotions.

Smile: could mean happiness, happy, nervous anxiety in disguise, contempt for others.

Throwing things: an emotion of anger, frustration, dissatisfaction, frustration vented.

Stiff fixed: could indicate a fear, fear, doubt, or stood aghast.

Shake: denied, do not agree.

Nod: consent, recognize, recognition.

Yawning: means boring, no interest, feeling sleepy or mentally incompetent.

Eyes focused: focused, have expressed interest.

Eyes to avoid contact: indicates that the feeling of anxiety, the lack of interest, shy.

(2) tone and speed

Talking stumble: perhaps it was nervousness, fear, sad emotional performance.

Talk: may mean is thinking or sad, frustrated, depressed, and unhappy.

Speak soon: may mean pride, joy or intense emotion.

Emphasize some Word: stressed that might talk is focused on content.

Parents experience: principles of respect for children

We constantly since childhood education son must be polite. Over time, the 4 years he because of emotional reasons, there\'s one or two closed in silence, but basically, \"thank you\", \"I\'m sorry\" can still often hangs in the mouth, and this consciousness is getting buried deep in his heart, form a principle.

One day I brought my son to his grandfather\'s House to play. After dinner, I was busy in the room, suddenly hear the cry of the living room son choppy, sprinkled with his grandfather in the middle of rebuke: \"why not burn you, crying and crying. \"Cry of the son not only without stopping, but has increased several times. And complained that his grandfather impatience also increased volume: \"you\'re the child sounds so effeminate:. You so howl again, I can\'t hit you. \"I want my son to hear such words should know how to behave in a delicate situation with a threat to stop crying, so really beaten up. He has to wail. I did not intervene, but afraid to go on like this, I\'m afraid \"trivial matters\", it goes out.

See my son, flapping unbelievers say: \"Grandpa bully me, calling me, also beat me. \"His grandfather heard urgent:\" I bully you, huh? \"Think I will give him the backing of the son, they recklessly with his grandfather for split mouth:\" you just rude. You burned my arm, I\'m sorry to say. I have told you, also waiting for a laobantian, but you didn\'t say anything, also shijiner called me, huh! \"It turned out that he was to defend their\" interests \", and to cry as a weapon and his grandfather from confrontation.

I\'ll remember, usually whenever I do something wrong on my son, in full and in good faith say \"sorry\", he is a fair brow, with a face to understand answer \"never mind\". So I said to the son: \"grandfather wanted to apologize, you always crying, unhappy, he does not say. Mother telling you I\'m sorry for him now, will you? \"Son look at negative face of Grandpa, reluctant nod. I lost no time in saying: \"you have Grandpa shouting is not polite, you know? \"Son bowed his head, is clearly aware of their offensive. So even though he is still bitter with a face, but dear immediately apologized, only sound than usual.

His grandfather was not a good time, privately said to me: \"the child give you really do not like a look, particularly stubborn, get a good discipline to see it. \"I objected:\" children do something wrong, of course, cannot be tolerated, but until we do something wrong should admit error. Like this, although unintentionally, but after all, had burns to children, so an apology is necessary. You know children are small, are human beings, also need to be respected by others, also has its own principles. What\'s more, they thought a simple, stand by% 3C% 3E Word, as adults do not know the turning, who work around, which we should be understanding. If you have to put down the face, from the standpoint of equality with the children to deal with, \' I\'m sorry \' can be solved. Child is unreasonable and arbitrary temper, was also seriously adhere to principles, we have to distinguish. If children to adhere to the principle is correct, that we should encourage him, rather than adults in authority to suppress him, thought of killing he is growing up. Because the child\'s heart is pure, are also vulnerable. This requires that we adults can take the initiative to do for their Wizard, just like a mirror, what we do, what they learn. If we teach children to be on a mouth, do their own is another, then the children will long doubt: do adults says is false? This healthy growth but is quite unfavorable to them. \"

Son after his grandfather, although it is not language, but also is the point of the head. After some time, I see my son and grandfather played happily are together again, grandchild a begin-end into the bedroom. I inadvertently walked past, hear old people are solemnly apologize to son, I walked in, son is pleased to Sin came: \"MOM, Grandpa had officially apologized to me, I forgive him! \"Son of his grandfather\'s face red, is also a straight face, seriously go out.

Family environment and children\'s psychological quality

Family environmental impact is a multi-level, multiple side, including the physical environment, languages, environmental, psychological and interpersonal environment. Physical environment refers to the physical arrangement of the family. Locale refers to the person in the family and the language of human civilization, democracy and equality, discussed the understanding. Interpersonal environment refers to the cherishing, do its responsibility, character, mental environment refers to attitudes and emotional exchange between parents and children, have a direct impact on the mental health of children of a family environment. Therefore, setting up a good family environment is the physical and psychological development of children, formation of the importance of good mental quality assurance.

Is a prerequisite for good psychological quality formation of family virtues, harmony, harmony among family members. Although views sometimes occur, but are United on the principle issues. Under the atmosphere of cooperation, understanding and, not only that children learn to human solidarity, love, and, understanding, will, the child\'s thinking ability by the harmonious development, and get a sense, consciousness of formation open to education. Instead, between members of the family as both man and part selfish, bickering, children of such families is often inadequate, even deformities, their apathy, paranoia, not cooperation. So strongly advocated family virtues, correctly handle the mutual relationship between family members, form a good specification. Get along to harmony to build harmonious atmosphere of the family, parents speak-do not oppress people by force, an emotional person to convince people, to teach people, fully reflects the family is a harbour of life, this will help children of good psychological quality formation.

Good parenting attitude of parents is the key to good psychological quality, parents are the child model for learning, parents \' rearing attitudes and methods of education are directly affect children\'s behavior and psychology, children\'s good behavior is the result of parental education. Arbitrary feudal and old rules of family education stressed the absolute obedience to her parents \' will, therefore slight punishment should not listen to. In this type of parents under the excessively harsh parenting attitudes, children\'s own lack of autonomy, lack of self-confidence and independence, or on the other hand will form a violent, insolent, lying, strong antagonistic psychology and often playing tricks on others, looking for revenge in the psychological compensation and balance. Parenting attitude of excessive Jiao Pang, responsive, parents want to provide children with not only without the help and protection. Parents too to monopolize, children develop greatly dependent, it will form a selfish, willful, wanton and easy temper, a good boast to his character. Freewheeling rearing attitudes, children because of lack of access to care were deprived of paternal and maternal love and have a sense of loneliness, gradually formed wealth to the attack, cold, there are often emotional disturbance, erratic, easily angered, mentality of indifference to things around.

Parents good parenting attitude manifested in a democracy, the usual attitude towards the education of children. Mutual care, care in the family, easy understanding, encouraging and inducing parents to give their children, shortcomings and errors is appropriate for their children to criticism, children\'s awareness-raising, correct the shortcomings. This gradually develop the child self-esteem, self-reliance, warm and friendly to others. Able to accept criticism, subjected to pressure, has independent capability.

Effect changes in family structure are good psychological quality an important cause of serious obstacles. In recent years with the rapid development of socio-economic, cultural, dramatic changes in people\'s values, family structure along with the change. Some stability was shaken in family structures, family disintegration and reconstruction, single parent families emerge. Brunt of child psychological harm, rupture of children inside the family\'s sense of security and sense of fate suddenly disappear, child survival of family park was destroyed overnight, allowing children easy formation of abnormal psychology and character quirks, and very easy on the road to crime, which seriously affected the development of psychological health of children.

Therefore, we must strive to improve parents \' quality, enhancing the responsibility of parents, understand the importance of psychological health of children, and efforts to overcome the obstacles of family structure changes, growth and the creation of a good family environment for their children.