Some European and American countries have done in the last century to explore children\'s growth factor: an experimental, trying to lose parents due to war (or other various reasons, are unable to raise) the child care institutions, Government to Government-run or private child adoption centre, nursery or personal adoption form. Study results show that does not have any agency (including religious in nature, professional care) parents have the ability to substitute in person personally raising the importance of, no matter how good these institutions had training, staff how caring, know what a wealth of expertise, how taken care of those children without parents.
Only in the family in this particular environment, child of body, mind, emotions and spirit to be fully expanded, and maximise potential.
In the infantile period, if the most active day awake most of the time not in with his parents, but spent in kindergartens or delegate the care of others. Such as nannies, grandparents, and even be hosted at my friend\'s neighbors. The children grow up and face is almost incurable emotional crisis, since their childhood experience fear, low self-esteem, blame in varying degrees, there is no sense of home, feel abandoned, no one loves, as a result of not being valued and accepted no worth and self-doubt, and so on. Some negative emotions affect their deep-rooted factors of the normal adult life.
These children of childhood lacks one-to-one bi-directional communication with parents or other adults. Because with parents of attachment no formation, and makes they gradually steering dependent Yu age people Zhijian of gang activities, because from no are full of love, and suspected parents of love, while, also lost has given others love of ability; they does not believe authority and rules, even has crime of tendencies; they to early on parents of hostility, and anger and does not trust angry and steering social, thus social also faced solution \"problem children\" and \"problem youth\" of heavy burden. Therefore, each \"problem child\" behind, there is often a problem families.
Families have been (forever) is the next generation of children to grow up, learning, development and forms the values, building life purpose, forming the good qualities and habits of most security background and origin of the most important point. Children are main functions of the family structure, child life parents are the most important and irreplaceable educator, especially mother ought to take on infant feeding in which a child an unshirkable responsibility, is truly the first educator. Children\'s first two years of life, is the key to strong emotional bond with their parents, is the psychological development of children and others established a relationship of trust and love Foundation. If you missed this period, that is, it is difficult to make up for.
Parents give their children the most important thing is love and the protection of, respect for discipline and example of positive effects. When these basic needs are satisfied, children have a sense of security, to learn, grow and develop. When they grow up, ability, personality, sound, at the same time as has the ability to raise the next generation of parents, so that the human prosperity, the world is more and more beautiful. Families should be the children\'s shelter and fortresses. In a warm and harmonious mutual respect grew up in families, home is just like a greenhouse, children just like seedlings are protected, because after the seedlings just grow up and strong, transplanted to the ability to adapt to a harsh growing conditions outside. Just imagine when winter is not over, you sow in the field, rather than protection in greenhouse, seed can sprout, please? Do tests of seedlings can withstand Frost? This especially as tender and bird wings are not pushed to the blustery sea flight.
Those from the cold, there is violence and full of criticism, discerning walked out of the children in the family, usually have \"learning disabilities\". This \"learning disabilities\" the root cause is not intelligence factors but \"affective disorder\" as a result of the consequences.
How many children worldwide live in health care for the environment? Part even fortunate children have responsible parents at a relatively comfortable conditions, but still not up to the level of education, and physical, mental, emotional and spiritual balance of comprehensive quality education.
Let\'s take a reflection on the situation of children in today\'s society, the crisis faced by young children:
1, mother and baby was prematurely cut nursing and mothers in baby several months due to various reasons to return to work when, as a result of maternal and child emotional bond is not secure.
2, most of the time spent in kindergartens of preschool children, out of touch with the family.
3, doting and neglect is the greatest harm to their children the two extremes.
4, some kindergartens \"full-time nursery\" cause kindergartens had completely replaced the family and the educational role of parents.
Those nobles who charges the highest reputation the kindergarten, often full-time nursery boarding, and many of such kindergartens are parents welcome. Their reason is training children\'s independence, but the real reason is that people busy with economic interests, the pursuit of personal achievement, and emotional needs of children. When the human suffering of the war, extreme disparities between rich and poor; desire for cross, daodelun death, when values dominated by money and beauty, innocent child that became the biggest victim, and this sacrifice and injury will last for many centuries.
According to the survey, history and the current power state leaders, such as Churchill, have experienced a childhood experience away from the parents. These historical figures to peak power complex childhood relationships is with the dark of the war? Their parents hate and anger was transferred to the retaliation and threat to humanity as a whole.
In 1963, the criminals who killed President Kennedy Li·aozihua (Lee Oswald) that is a good example. His mother was a despotic woman, his father was the third husband of mother, his father died a few months of birth. Childhood, mother never gave his love, she never disciplines or guiding him. Same age children excluded him, he\'s ugly, even the teacher too he. Although his IQ higher, academic achievement is a tread on
Confused. After being dropped out, not friends, are unskilled. After marriage, extreme look down on his wife, material life is also very difficult. She abused him, laugh at him, called him worthless, finally catch him out. Aozihua when there is no dignity, no love of the loved ones, so that a broken heart made him choose the shot that time set succeed, smart, wealth and family pet in one of the top level people.We call upon:
School can\'t replace parents forever love! Children need and parents spend time every day! Encourage families (mainly parents) to bear the child-rearing responsibilities in person! Community for mothers increased parental benefits, providing convenient! Adjustment of kindergarten education system, to meet children\'s basic needs!
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