Nursery rhymes enlighten the minds of children

Inspiring education comes in many forms, with children\'s education the children effect is very good.

I have a 5 year old boy, originally often do not wash your hands before meals, eat leftovers, my wife and I often criticize him, but he is not modified. Then I tried to made up an old children\'s songs, get rid of his bad habits. This is the first children\'s song is \": food spray aerosol dispenser, the family come to taste, eat and wash, do not panic or busy, pharyngeal slower to Peck, not leftovers and soup. ”

Sometimes I was writing in the evening, he was jumping and jumping in the House, called chaos called chaos, disrupting not only my way of thinking, does not prevent the rest of the downstairs neighbors. Well, he does not hear it, and could not bear. So I wondering made up such a rhymes: \"I don\'t shout or not, not skipping in the room. Placed blocks, see illustrated, dad to write I do not seek \". Children understand this truth, to be honest. When writing the next time I again, he quietly see pictorial.

There is a child caught a cold, stayed at home for more than 10 days. When he caught a cold ready, send him to kindergarten, he make a tearful scene than go, I was using the old way, he made up an old kindergarten children\'s songs: \"good boy, to be obedient, kindergarten, also. Meet you at the mother early in the evening, like obedient children and dad. \"Just encouraged, using children\'s guidance he really received better results.

Children through the children\'s song mastered the standards of conduct, at the same time nursery rhymes to children and parents have established intimate feelings. Parents to be a good first teacher, proceeding from the point of interest of the child to guide him.

Why parents are children\'s first teachers

First, the parents on their children\'s education in early. Fetus in the body by mother \"intimate environment\" the direct impact of close relationships or health of the fetus and mother. Pleasant emotions such as pregnant women, calm state of mind, you can reduce fetal restlessness, its health and development, and this has laid a certain Foundation for later children receive education.

After children come into the world with a cry, he first familiar man was his father, he received life training for the first time, as well as parents. Children learned from parents first thing, taken a first step, learned the first \"why\".
Second, the longest-standing parents educate children. Mothers in 56 days of maternity leave, all contact with the children, some mothers can directly raise the child for several years. After that, although part of the child nursery, for admission into, but at least 70% of the national education of the child is in the family. Even nursery, admission, and in primary schools, secondary schools, most children still living at home, parents \' education.

Again, parents \' education is in the young age of the child to imitate the most, not only its \"preoccupation\" convenience, and parent of image model, and deeds to influence children to life. Parents \' political attitude, cultivation of ideological style, personality, Hobby, all of the children see, to the benefit of their lifetime or the injured.

Three years old, men and women to teach

Recently, by the glimmer of kindergarten teachers and education experts prepared a set of children\'s comprehensive ability training of books--the growth market of do-MI, foreign \"teaching concept for men and women\" into China, prompting parents and early childhood education expert on \"men and women and education\" of interest.

Boys and girls, men and women are not a new term, 3 years ago, Shanghai, Beijing appeared co-educational class pilot, Kwong was questioned in the process of implementing. Meanwhile, in a foreign country, \"men and women and education\" as the latest research results, is used by more and more countries in practical education.

\"Men and women and education\" and the last two years to discuss \' what class of men and women different? Reporters interviewed the editor of this book, jiesheng, he says, they advocated \"teach men and women\" mean in family, characteristics for boys, each with a focus on educational content and use differentiated teaching methods. Aim was to make boys weaknesses strengths, strengths better at. \"In teaching form does not emphasize the split class teaching for men and women, but attention to gender differences in abilities and interests. ”

Subsequently by reporters in early childhood education expert Madam Wu, in her view, in fact, teach men and women already exists among the people of family education in China: girls, parents usually ask her obedient, quiet; for boys, parents will be given to his naughty tolerance. However, years of people\'s lack of accessibility of the scientific help, educational effect is not significant.

Wu also said, \"men and women and education\" also has a scientific basis. Medical research has found differences in men and women on the morphology of the Corpus Callosum of the brain, they not only have an impact on the physiology and psychology, behavior, ways of thinking, preferences play a role, and many other. The resulting differences between men and women is widespread in each other\'s characteristics. For example, girls are good at thinking, some relative fuzzy about the concept of space, the boys in terms of logical thought obvious advantages, physics and learning ability. In this sense, the growth at do-MI did fill the empty space on the current early childhood education in the teaching of men and women.

It is understood that this set of books under the 3-6 children\'s learning characteristics and interests of men and women, into the paint, identify, a painting, sorting, viewing the training content of an illustration to the story, and so on operation is strong. For example, is also fostering children\'s hand-eye coordination skills, the boys version of the library and asking a child to talk about the pictures what car is stopped at the auto repair shop on, let the children along the dotted line draw out a tire and color. While the female version of the book you let your child draw a tropical fish along the dotted line. \"It is sensitive to shape than boys because girls, so in this section let girls draw complex curves of tropical fish, play to their strengths. But for the boys, their color, size, and sensitive. And on different gender of children award, also taking into account the child\'s preference and distinction. \"Editor jiesheng says.

Let the children maintain their clean view

Germany was younger daughter of the famous writer bide·handeke was confused, he confused. However, he later chose a compromise, in a book he wrote: \"as long as adults took out a little bit of time to observe the child carefully, will know how to address the issue of child clean soon. \"How to deal with them? that\'s abandoned adults for clean standard, make your House into a children\'s paradise. Handke compromise because he saw \"a in disorder\" is hidden on the back of the most harmonious atmosphere. Later, he joked of his kids to get angry is \"invalid management\".

Despite the effects of children\'s understanding of neat, tidy capacity sizes, or subject to an adult level of command is different from, but the differences between children will not be too big. In their eyes, clean up is to throw things step by step out of order, so that the adults will be wreathed in smiles. Many children in the family, children can see the different personalities of the people to clean holds a different view and only children face only parents, so late to see, such a clean view of the world is varied.

Advice on this book a lot can be full of shelves, the listed topics are varied. Such as: how to pay attention to clean and do not pay attention to clean different expectations while achieving? which things should be placed where? or simply raised doubts whether there is such a need? How do adults and children to compromise or to discuss the issue? Described in the book are two generations of different lifestyles and different expectations, and how understanding and mutual understanding.

How adults and children should share housing space---sharing space and private space, this is the status of children in the family and society have not been in the fields. In the past few centuries, has always been to live in a room with adult children. Since the 20th century, at least in Germany, the children began to enjoy a room of its own. Today, children are exclusive tendency to space once again shared with family members. Foreseeable that lax habits of the children and adults about neat attitude would be a great deal of friction. If adults always insist on neat clean, friendly relationship with the children will be subject to suppression. This occurs every day in the family quarrel, should cause adult reflection on own neat concept.

Children \"heart disease\" 90% complain parents

After Xiao Li fail in an entrance examination of college entrance examination of the age of 18 always suspected of suffering from infectious diseases, to the counseling center, Qingdao, check, is suffering from a severe obsessive-compulsive disorder, and predisposing was the father of the doctor\'s assertion that brutal form of education. Reporter today learned from psychological counseling center in Qingdao, monthly reception at the Centre of the baiyuming students who suffer from mental illness, 90% is caused by improper education of parents, father of which gross and mother nagging as major pathogenic sources.

This morning, reporters encountered in the counseling center, Qingdao, who came to visit Xiao Li. Xiao Li college entrance examination into fear of cats fear dogs fail in an entrance examination after this year, always suspected infectious diseases suspected didn\'t about tight doors and Windows, and the condition is getting worse, and finally had to accompanied by their parents to see a psychiatrist. According to Xiao Li introduction, father often developed for her target, if not to is a play called, resulting in learning their usual good, every big test result in plummeting. After failed in the college entrance examination this year, Xiao Li, the above symptoms occur. Doctor, Xiao Li suffered from severe obsessive-compulsive disorder, in addition to associated with failed in the college entrance examination, father long-term crude form of education, is an important incentive for her suffering from obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Similarly, small Tao a boy reading the second day of this year also in mother accompanied by Counseling Center to see a doctor. It is understood that small Tao special nagging mother, because the bear mother\'s nagging from morning till night, starting from this summer, little Tao addicted to Internet cafes all day long, not willing to go home, for more than a month of school also regularly play truant, and love and people fight. All but the mother had to take him to consult a psychiatrist. Doctors, small waves of suffering from an anxiety disorder, and pathogenesis of mother\'s nagging is the son of reason.

Li Yuhuan of clinical psychological counseling center in Qingdao branch officer told reporters that their parents like Xiao Li He Xiaotao students psychological problems arising from the improper education now more and more. Monthly reception at the Centre of suffering from a mental disease 90% of psychological disorders in students of \"curse\" are parents. Among them, father gross and maternal nagging and pathogenesis of nearly 60%. Director Lee also said that in addition to father gross and mother nagging, overly doting parents children, parents and children long separation, and so will also have an adverse effect on children\'s psychological, causes child self-enclosed, psychological vulnerabilities.

Family education of unhealthy

Family education of unhealthy

The ancients: \"child not taught, of the father. \"I very much agree with this statement. Is the fault of the parents produce children without education, taught well, of course, first of all, is the responsibility of parents. 　　I deeply feel that family education in China has become a very serious issue.?? China one-child policy has been more than 20 years, and now most of the family structure is \"4-2-1\" type, namely Grandpa and Grandma, Grandpa, Grandma, my father, mother and a child. Previously children and more time, is the pet of children to parents, now the other way round, several elders struggle to spoil a person was \"thousands of pet in a\" Ah! seniors compete spoiled children, it is easy to form children to self-centered psychological state. In many people\'s awareness, love child is tantamount to giving, and often material given. Children to give whatever, have to pay for it, to toys to the toy, to eat KFC Kentucky Fried chicken, as long as your own presentable, it will not hesitate to give their children even sometimes to come up with, but also an impudent attempt to represent the defeat as a victory, borrow money bought for children. 　　Some children now a pair of famous brand sports shoes will be five hundred or six hundred dollars and a birthday party to spend thousands of dollars, child\'s vanity was met, the vanity of parents have been met, because the child a brand, that reflects the success of parents!?? 　This case the parent-child relationship showed two features:?? First, the children with their parents completely into the relationship between the request and grant without peer exchange. In the minds of children, parents are endless and his endless copies is a natural thing. There is one little thing, I have been impressed. Time I saw a lamb kebab in street father, sweat moment keeps roast is busy, she did not smoke smoked one, regardless of sweat, just looking to sell a few more grilled lamb, earning a few dollars. At this time he was 10 years old daughter ran to him: \"my father gave me 20 bucks! \"Father without hesitation, right hand side of rolling furnace continuous rapid lamb kebab, touch money immediately on the left hand and pass the past:\" quick, don\'t let smoke with you! \"Money going to do? Without even asking asked. He would earn 20 dollars need to roast lamb kebab! I in Huazhong Normal University College students quality education lessons, first of all, it tells of the family, tells of the parent-child communication and care. Once a girl said to me: \"pottery teacher, my mother said I progress this term. \"I said that you didn\'t come home again this term, my mother has never been, how did your MOM know you changed? She said her mother through her cell phone knows she has changed. I find it very strange, one asked knows things are like this: her mother often come with telephone, asking her enough money, asked her very delicious meal, live good, enough clothes to wear, she never received her mother\'s phone are very impatient, too her MOM?? NFDA1?` road, Orange are subject to change w a kind of net used for fishing or for dredging up river sludge, etc.?, mother to phone, recently asked her how she easily questions and answers: \"I have very good. MOM, how are you recently? \" Telephone the head suddenly had no voice, she\'s busy and asked: \"MOM, what\'s wrong with you?\" Mother stood brought to a halt, and then choked on her daughter said: \"daughter Ah, 20 years, your first \' mother what has happened to you. Child you wiser! ”??

Second, parents of children and parent-child relationship of materialistic, money, money became a sign of measuring feelings and love. In one case, a couple with their 19-year-old came to me, want me to help children and estrangement between them. I asked the boy, why hate parents, his hands, confidently exclaimed: \"they don\'t give me the money! \"I asked:\" what they want to give you money! To know their parents \' money is not your money, is their bleeding by the sweat of one\'s brow, for a 19-year old child, there is no law requiring parents to give you money. \"But a lot of children not even understand this simple truth. Our University, many students learning fuck up, mixed day is day, why is this happening? One very important reason is that they spend parents \' money, and parents fail to make the child aware of their money to come by, but sometimes pretended to be easy: \"my child, rest assured that as long as the learning needs, there is no problem, your peace of mind. \"Make the children feel like money is easier, so they are tough to deplore the parents money. Measured with money and material feelings are always wrong, and can cause bad results, especially in family relations. United States there is a Chinese American parents, education danchuan son gave me three generations of his family. The boy called Eric, looks very cute, but learning is a mess. I have learned over time, conduct, learning has improved significantly. One day his mother and he said to me: \"pottery teacher Ah, thank you very much on the cultivation of Eric, but I have to bother you about it. \"I asked what happened, she said:\" his English exam has 100 last month, her grandparents fainted, get the whole family driving to the largest store, what he refers to what to buy, and then went to restaurants meimei celebration has doubled. Mathematics is 100 in a few days, and go shopping, and to celebrate one. Later 100 points almost every day, if you don\'t, he burst into tears cried out: \' I don\'t have 100 points in the examination! \' Do what you see, pottery teacher? \" My criticisms: \"who wants you to celebrate your child\'s 100?\" She said: \"the pottery teacher, he is always zero, a few minutes, 100 points in the examination can we not happy about it?\" \" Be happy also cannot! \"\" Well, what? \"she asked. I said, \"study of the child by 100 points, for you to see, you seriously take a look at and say: Oh, really 100 which, Gee, MOM really happy!, I have work, bye! you with affection to stimulate and commended children\'s self-motivated, instead of material of this parent-child relationship. \"She said after hearing deep understanding. At the same time, I immediately called the child, and first on his progress for sure, and then let him to study hard is mainly for his own future, and not just for parents. After that, he not only did he make trouble at home and study harder, self-motivated and more.

?? Many parents laborious efforts for children, children who do not appreciate the results. A parent calling painfully asked me: \"I give the child everything, why is he so hates me? \"In addition, some of the less well-off parents grant is carrying faggots, paid not the fire never dies, you subsequently cannot meet when his growing desire, his resentment of course came.??

Family-the cradle of children\'s growth

Some European and American countries have done in the last century to explore children\'s growth factor: an experimental, trying to lose parents due to war (or other various reasons, are unable to raise) the child care institutions, Government to Government-run or private child adoption centre, nursery or personal adoption form. Study results show that does not have any agency (including religious in nature, professional care) parents have the ability to substitute in person personally raising the importance of, no matter how good these institutions had training, staff how caring, know what a wealth of expertise, how taken care of those children without parents.

Only in the family in this particular environment, child of body, mind, emotions and spirit to be fully expanded, and maximise potential.

In the infantile period, if the most active day awake most of the time not in with his parents, but spent in kindergartens or delegate the care of others. Such as nannies, grandparents, and even be hosted at my friend\'s neighbors. The children grow up and face is almost incurable emotional crisis, since their childhood experience fear, low self-esteem, blame in varying degrees, there is no sense of home, feel abandoned, no one loves, as a result of not being valued and accepted no worth and self-doubt, and so on. Some negative emotions affect their deep-rooted factors of the normal adult life.

These children of childhood lacks one-to-one bi-directional communication with parents or other adults. Because with parents of attachment no formation, and makes they gradually steering dependent Yu age people Zhijian of gang activities, because from no are full of love, and suspected parents of love, while, also lost has given others love of ability; they does not believe authority and rules, even has crime of tendencies; they to early on parents of hostility, and anger and does not trust angry and steering social, thus social also faced solution \"problem children\" and \"problem youth\" of heavy burden. Therefore, each \"problem child\" behind, there is often a problem families.

Families have been (forever) is the next generation of children to grow up, learning, development and forms the values, building life purpose, forming the good qualities and habits of most security background and origin of the most important point. Children are main functions of the family structure, child life parents are the most important and irreplaceable educator, especially mother ought to take on infant feeding in which a child an unshirkable responsibility, is truly the first educator. Children\'s first two years of life, is the key to strong emotional bond with their parents, is the psychological development of children and others established a relationship of trust and love Foundation. If you missed this period, that is, it is difficult to make up for.

Parents give their children the most important thing is love and the protection of, respect for discipline and example of positive effects. When these basic needs are satisfied, children have a sense of security, to learn, grow and develop. When they grow up, ability, personality, sound, at the same time as has the ability to raise the next generation of parents, so that the human prosperity, the world is more and more beautiful. Families should be the children\'s shelter and fortresses. In a warm and harmonious mutual respect grew up in families, home is just like a greenhouse, children just like seedlings are protected, because after the seedlings just grow up and strong, transplanted to the ability to adapt to a harsh growing conditions outside. Just imagine when winter is not over, you sow in the field, rather than protection in greenhouse, seed can sprout, please? Do tests of seedlings can withstand Frost? This especially as tender and bird wings are not pushed to the blustery sea flight.

Those from the cold, there is violence and full of criticism, discerning walked out of the children in the family, usually have \"learning disabilities\". This \"learning disabilities\" the root cause is not intelligence factors but \"affective disorder\" as a result of the consequences.

How many children worldwide live in health care for the environment? Part even fortunate children have responsible parents at a relatively comfortable conditions, but still not up to the level of education, and physical, mental, emotional and spiritual balance of comprehensive quality education.

Let\'s take a reflection on the situation of children in today\'s society, the crisis faced by young children:

1, mother and baby was prematurely cut nursing and mothers in baby several months due to various reasons to return to work when, as a result of maternal and child emotional bond is not secure.

2, most of the time spent in kindergartens of preschool children, out of touch with the family.

3, doting and neglect is the greatest harm to their children the two extremes.

4, some kindergartens \"full-time nursery\" cause kindergartens had completely replaced the family and the educational role of parents.

Those nobles who charges the highest reputation the kindergarten, often full-time nursery boarding, and many of such kindergartens are parents welcome. Their reason is training children\'s independence, but the real reason is that people busy with economic interests, the pursuit of personal achievement, and emotional needs of children. When the human suffering of the war, extreme disparities between rich and poor; desire for cross, daodelun death, when values dominated by money and beauty, innocent child that became the biggest victim, and this sacrifice and injury will last for many centuries.

According to the survey, history and the current power state leaders, such as Churchill, have experienced a childhood experience away from the parents. These historical figures to peak power complex childhood relationships is with the dark of the war? Their parents hate and anger was transferred to the retaliation and threat to humanity as a whole.

In 1963, the criminals who killed President Kennedy Li·aozihua (Lee Oswald) that is a good example. His mother was a despotic woman, his father was the third husband of mother, his father died a few months of birth. Childhood, mother never gave his love, she never disciplines or guiding him. Same age children excluded him, he\'s ugly, even the teacher too he. Although his IQ higher, academic achievement is a tread on

Confused. After being dropped out, not friends, are unskilled. After marriage, extreme look down on his wife, material life is also very difficult. She abused him, laugh at him, called him worthless, finally catch him out. Aozihua when there is no dignity, no love of the loved ones, so that a broken heart made him choose the shot that time set succeed, smart, wealth and family pet in one of the top level people.

We call upon:

School can\'t replace parents forever love! Children need and parents spend time every day! Encourage families (mainly parents) to bear the child-rearing responsibilities in person! Community for mothers increased parental benefits, providing convenient! Adjustment of kindergarten education system, to meet children\'s basic needs!

Use of environments to promote early childhood development

From the \"children\'s development\", creating positive environment. Both the starting point to creating environments and this is kindergarten.

I work in the preschool years, through the survey, observation I found many kindergarten environment layout appears much neater and more elegant, and some even whistle in the flower, very ornamental, but practical value is not high. Because this environment layout just from the teachers \' vision and desire, rarely taking into account the child\'s interests, needs and existing levels of development and environment layout lost influence and promote the educational value of early childhood development.

Fundamental ways of correcting these deviations, handsome environment creating fundamental purpose is to promote early childhood development, not for the creation and the creation, for artistic and beautiful. The platform stated: \"kindergarten spaces, facilities, activities, materials, and General requirements should facilitate exchanges between the active exploration of child care and early childhood\". We should focus on the requirements, focusing on the following aspects of work.

① from the perspective of children, to children\'s vision to create the environment. We can observe asked, provide context or materials, and other means to understand the interests and needs of young children. Reflect children\'s cognitive characteristics in wall decoration, dominated by bright solid color on color; shape unadorned and childish, concise as the main representation; contents should mainly to children familiar objects. Age differences in layout should also focus on children\'s environment. Small classes on children\'s activity room wall layout of many different modal personified animals more than the layout of landscape painting to arouse children\'s interest and level of love; class walls to \"when I grow up\" and \"go up\" as its theme layout, distribution to dress himself, lace and other pictures, you can inspire them \"own thing done\" wishes.

② involving children in the environment created. Environmental cooperation creation is a teacher and child care, child care to the young master personally involved in the capacity of the education process. But merely by the teacher after the unilateral plan, busy, good layout, children say \"come\" approach will only stifle the spirit of subjectivity and the participation of young children. Teachers in the process of creating borders, if the adopted child care recommendations and absorption, and creating children\'s participation in environmental, not only can provide children with opportunities to participate in activities, meet the children\'s desire for self-expression, and can develop their hands-on ability. As in \"How do animals winter\" activities, can let children participate in the arrangement of the classroom. Layout of winter scene on one wall, digging many holes that can be switched on the big tree make children themselves selected, trim some old pictures of various young in pictures, by way of the winter, put various animal pictures respectively in different places. This environment layout distances are much closer together and child care.

③ support, inspire, instruct the children interact with the environment. Environment creating the ultimate goal is to be effective in stimulating the desire of the children found, explore interests, realization of active development of young children, so in the environment in the process of creating, we should focus on the effect of interaction between children and environments. Both teachers and students jointly prepared and creation of environment material, material is also provided by the teacher according to the aims of education environment, should be actively supported, encouraging children to explore and operational activities. In guiding children to research and operational activities, we have to check role change in the past, his energies from the check that the toy is lost, something is messed up, whether conflict between child care issues go into line with the focus on child care research, operational activities, focused on their interests and needs, properly judge their current level of development, encouraging them to a higher level of development. To do so, to really bring value of environmental education, reflects the current direction of curriculum reform.

From \"Lions rearing method\" of current China family education

From the magazine a few days ago to see such an article, is a Chinese-speaking to his Korea friend House, Korea friend of children from the age of 3 rolls down the stairs, the Chinese people instinctively want to steady friend of the child, but Korea friends couples to prevent the family nanny to occur all too blind, still doing his own thing. Friends tell him this is Korea domestic is the popular \"Lion childcare law.\"

If the same thing happened in Chinese families, grandparents should be complaining parents care for the children, MOM and dad mutual blame, blame the whole family confused kid kids, accompany children to the hospital. As educators, we not only have to learn to teach, reflection and comparison to learn more, why are we after the child has suffered a little bit of frustration, it is easy to make a negative reflection of even extreme; why college students take home for his parents to wash the clothes is not uncommon of sth I think that, in addition to contradictions in China\'s education system itself, more important reason parents for children on the implementation of family education. Think about these, we have to review our family education from Korea who strongly advocated \"the lion child law\", it seems that we can find in recent years, Korea\'s burgeoning sports level causes.

Look at our family will find existing in China\'s traditional family education easier \"two sides\". A is \"doting bias\", many parents often has a compensation psychological, think own by has many of bitter, never can then let own of children was is grievances and ordeal, in see has children of problems Hou reluctant to tube, on fear children by grievances, just of accommodation palliative, unchecked, when this all are to children, all are dedication to children, even sacrifice own of practices, is parents to children most terrible of gift. But as pampered doting children, to detour children lessons in all ages abound. The other is \"simple and crude bias\", let the parents want their children into a dragon, a Phoenix, but when the children are doing and when their expectations have a long way, performance is often impatient, wanted at once bring up her child as \"gifted youth\", in the treatment of children on the problem of simple and crude, the gun.

Family is a relatively closed social organization, and China\'s traditional family education environment itself is relatively closed and create a harmonious, effective, good psychological environment and, therefore, limited effects family and parents scold, also cannot bring up qualified children. Now most of the parents receive a better education, have a higher cultural accomplishments, but the corresponding knowledge of pedagogy, psychology, family studies, and so also relatively lacking. In the face of rapid development of new educational ideas, thoughts and ideas of parents generally lag behind the needs of social development. At the same time, at this stage family education and the contents of the current and future needs of society there is a big gap, which cause a certain degree of restriction on the development of family education.

With the continuous deepening of education reform, family education are given appropriate attention and research, vast numbers of educators and parents should take an active exploration of family education, reform of the new concepts and methods, further promote the development of family education, to train more outstanding personnel services.

Parents should establish the correct view of children, education, advanced education philosophy, update evaluation of the child standard. Each child is an independent entity, neither of her parents \' \"subsidiary\" nor a \"little adults\", so any education should comply with the children\'s psychological development characteristics, so nothing more than family. Family education advocate independent consciousness of children now, he is of independent thinking and problem-solving skills. Therefore children of parents in the right, under the guidance of the child as a social man, give them a good education, do not simply learn well, listen to disobedient as criteria for evaluation of the child and as a measure criterion of the child has no promise, if so it would have been unfair.

Sanshiying is a good tradition

--Qian Xuantong, Qian sanqiang teaches the child in mind

Good family has a good tradition. So-called tradition that refers to the moral Outlook of the officers of the family the family tradition and become a custom through long usage. Modern Qian Xuantong, the famous languages in our country a has a good tradition, from his father Qian Xuantong, to his son Qian sanqiang to money\'s third generation of Qian Si, a direct line of succession, forming a good tradition of self-reliance to learn, for the people.

Carrying the child to participate in \"u\" procession

The pathbreaker of Qian Xuantong are u the new culture movement. From 1915 onwards, he has held a professor at Peking University, Beijing Normal University. Soon, participate in the work of the editor of the new youth, for the flag of advocating literary revolution, pseudonym \"Wang Jingxuan\" letter to the new youth, deliberately against the vernacular, and by another editor named reply Liu bannong, pass plus it entertains, which triggered a debate about old and new literature, Qian Xuantong and therefore become the u in the new cultural movement of the man of the hour.

Qian Xuan-not only in the community, to the old culture shock relentlessly, in the family, but also to educate his son Qian sanqiang new ideas of democracy and Science: \"passion for social reform, is to move forward in the era, you learn the knowledge and skills to transform society. \"From childhood, for the children to experience\" transforming social \"hard, with Qian sanqiang of Qian Xuan-with 6 years of age took part in the procession in the movement. Father\'s deeds in Qian sanqiang young soul, early sowing seeds of thought against imperialism and feudalism.

Qian Xuantong proficient in classical Chinese, author of the phonology, tone handouts such as the evolution of the book, but he was opposed to cling to the \"national essence\" and not be a bookworm. He have wrote in the journal new youth speak out: \"I want the letter to young students: ladies and gentlemen is a 20th century man himself, not the ancients \' starts talking \', so we have to make, not because the prose is not enough, added several articles for him, but because we\'re being mean to write him out. So it should be in our own words, written in our own article, how do we say, our article on what to do. \"Qian sanqiang was when his father under the influence of this spirit, on the road to dare dare for life and constantly.

The ox to have a great strength

Qian sanqiang secondary school graduate, which direction after graduation from high school to development? Someone said to Qian Xuantong; \"you are the language experts, famous big, should be called three-meet you at the top of the class. ”

Qian Xuantong smiled and said: \"that depends on the child\'s attitude and interests! \"One day, Qian Xuantong three receivers said:\" what you learn in the future, I do not to monopolize your idea, by your own choice. But a person should have a scientific mind, for all things, should use their own analysis of the reason to develop, seek the truth, judge right from wrong, and reform measures. ”

Father remarks, deeply printed in son\'s mind. Soon, three strong to the point on the father said, \"Dad, I want to learn! \"Qian Xuantong agreeing.

Yihou, Qian sanqiang into the North preparatory course. In class, students \' questions and answers are in English, which have only learned French for three, difficulties for themselves. Father son back down, they encouraged, saying: \"target now that determine the, it should be hard work to realize their ideals. You are a cow, overcome difficulties to have a great strength! ”

Encouraged by the father of three education a great, three strong, said: \"Dad, you may rest assured that I will make out of great strength. ”

Three great strength was strong and sure enough, got to qualify as Tsinghua University, majoring in physics. In 1937, he graduated from Qinghua University magna cum laude. At this point news, Government-sponsored student study abroad examinations in which a quota of radium, Qian Xuantong encouraged three to present himself for examination, three parent looking a strong no, results kaozhong. But to go abroad before, father unfortunately contracted a serious illness, three strong shilly-shally. Father shows his feelings, and said to him: \"you learn science, useful to countries in the future, you are going abroad to learn it! Don\'t forget that you are a cow, to show off a great strength to! ”
Thus, Qian Sanqiang shed tears set sail to the University of Paris Institute of Radium Curie laboratory of nuclear physics research. Instructor was discovered Radium by Marie Curie\'s daughter and son-in-law. Three powerful father was pleased to write to say: \"do you have a very good teacher, we must strive to climb the heights of science, invigorate! ”

Qian sanqiang did not live up to the expectations of the father, he returned and became a famous expert on atomic energy.

Learn to walk

Qian sanqiang did after his father became a celebrity, equally strict with children, lower requirements of life, learning to high standards. Premier Zhou for his \"live to be old, to learn, renovation to the old\" saying the education of their children, said, \"this idea of Premier Zhou, both for objective knowledge, is also on the subjective individual, are extremely profound.\" In his lead, Qian sanqiang family learn wind up and down. People normally set foot in the door sill, could not help but walk lightly, low voice, because members of this family are not reading, is in writing, or listening to foreign language broadcasts, no one is doing nothing.

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nbsp; Qian Sanqiang couple monthly wage income is high, is very strict with their children in their lives. In 1968, the youngest son Qian Si to Shanxi\'s jiangxian jump, difficulties of life, wrote to parents complained. Qian sanqiang reply education son: \"you\'re old enough, and we can\'t rely on parents, to live independently, learn to walk. ”

Qian Si into making a determined effort to learn, no matter how tired day labor in the countryside, uphold the self-study late into the night in a small oil lamps. In 1972, he was finally recommended to the Department of chemical engineering, Tsinghua University. Qian Si into request dad came forward to speak for him, help him transfer physics. Qian sanqiang does not agree with his \"brand\" to meet the requirements of the son. Qian Si follow the teachings of father, lose no time in spare time learning physics, 1978, finally passed the exam, admitted as a graduate of the Institute of theoretical physics Chinese Academy of Sciences.

On Qian Si University, still dressed in white-washing of Aleppo avens clothes, feet wearing shoes, and an old canvas schoolbag. Someone advised Qian sanqiang not kids too \"digging out\", but Qian sanqiang said: \"I have money, there is no good for the kids, but will become their burden. Judging from my own personal experience, parents are not, you want to learn to walk. ”