Total children in the age of 5, 6 and companions, also hoped that he could win a chip, from grow permanent teeth to play, at home to toys, no matter what, they are eager to they can prevail. So, should these endless competition to the children of parents stop it?
\"I changed 7 teeth, you only change the 5! \"\" I yesterday kicked off with kick 10 metres, can you do? \"Life, 5, 6-year-olds This spate of competition issues, parents often are in a dilemma, don\'t know how to deal with. This is indeed a thorny problem.
Competition, not simply of \' good \' or \' bad \' to define, but it can result in both positive and negative results.
Parents as children to feel awkward things exaggerated speech, also worried that their children are considered to be an arrogant or ignorant people who are feeling good about yourself. However, on the other hand, parents are contradictions that, today\'s society is a society full of competition, in this environment, children have to a good school because you want to access, participate in the activities of a team or a number of schools and other companions of intense competition. Parents think that if the intervention children\'s competition consciousness, would lead to their children competition of desalination, making him at a disadvantage, then the child is unable to survive in this competitive society in the future. However, parents often resulted in an adverse outcome, from the harmful effects may even affect a child\'s life.
It is because parents exist inside this contradiction, resulting in their child\'s information is not clear, is ambiguous. Parents want their children to feel both relaxed, appreciate the joy of living, not because they are not the best of worry about, want to make their children through the efforts and ultimately succeed. Because of this ambivalence in the haunted, the parents will not be able to clearly determine, their children compared to competitive levels and his age is not appropriate. Even if the child\'s competitive behavior is just overkill, competition was too strong, I\'m afraid the parents are unable to make the right judgement. In fact, competition, not simply of \' good \' or \' bad \' to define, but it can result in both positive and negative results. Therefore, the pendulum is the greatest task in front of parents to guide children in a proper way to competition.
5, 6-year-old prefers action to prove that he is the best.
When children grow up to 5, 6, the body\'s ability to have a great progress, which compete with their courage and increasing competition have a direct relationship, they start to like and other peer comparison. Took 5, 6-year-old rapid capacity for example, one day he suddenly learns she had lace up, can also ride small wheel unloading two wheel bikes, these capabilities will make him feel very proud, so he always tired to show off to others. Also, no matter what new skills he mastered, no matter how deep is the degree of master, he will be very proud, and other people to do more of these capabilities as capital.
Children aged 3 to have a good imagination, they live in a fantasy world of the living, however, 5 years old children are immersed in real life. Children aged 3 to become the fastest runner in the world of flying trapeze, they just put yourself into that kind of person, and 5 year old children who do not simply daydreaming, because he is proved to the people around him who is the fastest runner. That is, 5, 6-year-old ways of thinking have changed, they prefer action to prove that he is the best.
It is best not to the children, aged 5, 6, create competitive opportunities and occasions.
Many experts believe that, in order to avoid stimulating the 5, 6-year-old strong competitive desire, it is best not to create competitive opportunities and occasions. Although willing to abide by the rules when they play the game, but they are still very small, cannot endure the reality of being eliminated. For example, when children are playing a game of musical chairs when they will be very happy. Although they had to be talked to understand the rules of the game, but what does it mean they do not understand the elimination system, never thought he would also be eliminated. Once he did not get a seat, he would be very sad, not embraced the game results as adults. However, when children in the age of 5, 6, coach when organizations participate in some sports, such as football matches, kids don\'t care about the game result is win or lose, after game food hospitality cause them interest is only coaches will be watching his team can win the game.
Of course, compared with other peers, some children of the combative heart more prominent and strong. Terms of temperament, it is innate; from a gender perspective, more boys than girls love to compete. However, if your child only if he wins in the game he loves to play, or do not participate in any activity because they afraid to lose, is due to family problems in a. 闹闹 loves competitive-the age of 5, complaining that his mother: \"make him win no matter what you play it. On one occasion, he turned out Chinese checkers, badgering me to teach him, and play with him. I would have agreed to see if he was interested in. I know his old trouble, first gave him against not only speak to him and clear rules of the game, also demonstrates again and warned him not to act shamelessly, he promised. But several minutes of his attitude changed. Although he lost, but seeing his pawn behind, he can\'t stand up, no matter what I say, he is not convinced, eventually even the chessboard upside down. I would like to reflect, think we are too let him before, often take appeasement attitude, considers to be let him make a tearful scene, might as well let him win. Result, he cannot suffer any setback. Children usually can\'t afford to lose, lets parents indeed very headache. ”
The best way is to tell your children each have their own Changhang,
Have different abilities, whether he won or lost, you are still very much in love with him.Combative for a child, he was the shortest in the class, or you do not loop, will he worry that they are being left behind all the children. When the child is confided to you his inner fears, you\'d better not use in recognition of his various talents to comfort him, cannot simply say \"you are smart,\" \"you can run very fast\", or \"you are a great little painter\" and so on these words to deal with. When kids think when he\'s not very good at doing something, often because the subtext of his parents made him realise not. Moreover, parents cannot by children of their own and other people to do more to comfort him, cannot be said to him: \"Le Le runs faster than you, but you swim well than he. \"In fact, the best way is to tell your children each have their own Changhang, have different capabilities, and let your children know whether he won or lost, you are still very much in love with him, it would have been enough.
Life, child inadvertently doing himself and his friends a comparison is a normal phenomenon, so you don\'t need to punish him because of the children despise other people\'s comments, but you should definitely not encourage him. You should let your children understand themselves to show off and compliment would harm to other children. In addition, parents to take the lead in life, giving children A Good Example is a very important point. Parents should rethink their behaviour: when talking about the achievements of the time, is not some complacent, exaggerating his remarks? He is always contrast it with others? Did not even appropriate for comparison? In short, parents \' ultimate goal is to get their children to focus on the achievements obtained by him, and did not really care about her more than others.
Competitive performance of children there are basically three ways:
The first is they can\'t stand being defeated, if they fall behind, they will vent their frustration on other body;
Second: koth children also often home to dominant share in other occasions, stand by% 3C% 3E Word;
Third: to win the love and attention of parents, children think he must be outstanding, stronger than others.
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