Let the children obeyed in the independent parents

Ailun 5 years of age, originally of clever clever, he is now a family \"small hate.\" He faults does not, is there a converse mood, little love listening to people. Grandparents MOM and dad go around him, especially at meal time, active and lively ailun object that has become a headache the whole family. \"Culture, good, eat this, eat! \"\" Text, sit! \"\" Today we must eat this! \"\" Text, sth! ”

Kids why not listen to adults do? How to make children listen to adults do? These can be

MOM and dad issues of most concern.

Famous psychologist Jean Piaget\'s intellectual development of children is divided into four stages: sensorimotor stage, the former movement phase, specific campaigns and forms of movement phases. 2-7 movement stages a child before this stage. This stage, the child is the greatest characteristic of thinking: thinking Ego-centrism--convinced themselves that others think of the children, they think his ideas are always right. Therefore, we can understand the wenzhongwenwen of some small moves.

Therefore, parents should pay attention to a principle, that stimulate and support the children\'s interests and needs. Child on a transaction or an event caused the interests and needs, to show initiative and enthusiasm in the activities.

1, use \"? \"Abandoned\"! ”

In real life, MOM and dad likes to say \"you should!\" \" You shouldn\'t! \"So with a strong command of an exclamation mark before the statement is precisely movement stage of child psychological conflict. Children like MOM and dad will respect him, so MOM and dad when speaking to children, as far as possible not to use the exclamatory sentences with a command, command, for example: you are not allowed to go out and play today! Do not put your hand in the mouth! Parents should try to use questions, children as small adults, to discuss and ask and he equal dialogue.

2, with \"multiple choice\" abandoned \"alternative questions\"

Have a strong \"thinking Ego-centrism\" children, parents should let go of adults to become the master of the shelf, the way to democracy, equality, dialogue and exchange of children. Let your child to do such things as, try not to let the child do \"alternative question\", that \"this matter, do you do or not do? \"Alternative questions make kids feel like this was within the limiting framework of the father and mother, lost room for self play. Children prefer their parents out of \"multiple choice\", such as \"text, what do you eat your vegetables, cabbage, cauliflower is also Ah? \"Was not interested in vegetable children easy performance from my choice of enthusiasm, he will feel he had the initiative, but in reality, or let the children listened to the parents in the independent.