MOM, I want to talk to you

MOM, I want to talk to you

\"Mother what you eat and eat as much the son shall not be mandatory; cannot jump on; not sth to knock the table\"

\"Son must be honest; must go home before dark; you cannot fight sth and the children\"

This is a high profile in Nanjing recently of an agreement, signed the agreement are a mother and son, mother is 31 years old, son of the Tiger 5.

At first glance a see this section News, also thought is which home adults coax children of small game, no thought this really of is a copies mother and son signed and strictly implementation of agreement, also no thought check agreement of small hero has only 5 aged, but more no thought of is, I then mind in emerged out of first a idea actually is--Hey, this pour quite fresh, be a management child care of good approach. This idea in brain in a Flash after, own will think some ashamed has, \"to as possible to down parents, and teacher of shelf, and children real do friends, and they equal to Exchange get along sth sth\" as preschool in China, by has this many of education, is also will out \"this pour fresh\" of idea to, seems, to do and children equal to Exchange get along, we also need full understanding and effectively purposes Ah.

Equality of experience

Believed that not only was I feel such agreement quite fresh, will certainly have a lot of people think like me, at this stage of our country can truly equal exchange to get along with adults and children are rare, and even some parents may be directly opposed to this agreement: \"and so understand nothing of the young child need? He is the son I was Laozi, my duty to discipline him, listen to adults is his part, and the children of agreements, this is not to let him climb into my head yet?! How to discipline him later? ”

Addition, for check agreement this about equal of attempts to, should also has more of people hold with contradictions of psychological to view, does, this is agreement has may just surface Shang of officialese; make, son pursuit of is a form, a was attention was certainly of psychological Shang of meet, mother does, is will this form as has new of management mode, in such looks like equal of treaty Xia, children had to comply with those parents to he will of code, and parents does, just in during plus some irrelevant of terms Yu itself will fine has.

In reason Shang told, from children growth development of angle to consider, we is hope own and children Zhijian equal get along of, several years after, he grew up has, back reminds childhood of experience, during does not has parents teachers for no reason of scolded, more does not has beaten punished of memory, he can happiness proud to told others: \"I and father mother on like friends as exchanges, they has never are is with I pendulum facts told reason, and not to own of identity and violence to main products: I. \"At the same time, we want children to adulthood, but also get along like friends and elders, rather than by a grateful heart to do our best to tolerate, to treat one \' s parents with filial piety road.

However, the ideal of equality in practical operation and have too much difficulty, because the child did not obey the days of learning, and parents almost have a command of inertia. Dang children from a ignorance no general, and with people playing with of baby, gradually growth for a has advocated, and has views of adults Shi, parents of does not adaptation on will gradually more up, then, to we face children change has became habits of commanding of speech way, to we down shelf and face, in inside deep real recognized own and children is equal of, I\'m afraid is does not too may has.

Sometimes can\'t help but to think about: do you really can achieve equality between children and parents? The question is too hard, that we cannot answer, difficult we would like to ask: \"do really need equality between children and parents? \"Despite the absence of such a need, the mother of Nanjing has been out of this step, is seemingly equal or substantially, that the courage to try to experience itself, is very commendable!

Credit education

In the signed agreement of mother\'s report, there is such a period of interview dialog:

Reporter: If the breach has to do with you? I heard a number of punitive measures.

Tiger: I can do most, only one, provided I can only watch TV for two hours a day, I have not yet fully achieved.

Reporter: so if you see more half an hour today, mother will do with it?

Tiger: If more than half an hour today, MOM will lose tomorrow for half an hour.

Reporter: sign agreement until now, what do you think the mother to your attitude change?

Tigers: change, well, seems not very great, now I drink milk in the morning, no matter what, she will force me to drink.

Reporter: If the mother has default do?

Tigers: she\'s going to take me to a KFC. However, my mother about it to there is no sin.

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See here, suddenly feels such an agreement actually have more content, it\'s not just a management approach, is also a kind of honesty education, try to get the mother must attach great importance to children cultivation of moral qualities.

Now as early taught concept of increasingly mature and hearts, intelligence zhiwai of education, like love commercial of development, and integrity of training,, also increasingly was attention up, with one mother words,: \"I wanted to wanted to English or, music, and art or, these are is important, but does not for each a a children, also not everyone are must to learn, and a people of moral quality training will is life benefit of things. ”

Why, then, said signing such an agreement is also a very good faith education? This is determined by the nature of the agreement. Since it is a protocol signed by both parties, then the mothers are also binding on, we all have to be careful, don\'t touch

Make it, since it does not want kids Protocol, then the first condition is also not to breach it; child if you do not comply with the terms will be subject to penal, has committed itself will be fined!

Our children are not living in a vacuum, they grew up, there will always be exposed to bad faith behavior, should I do? Tiger\'s mother has provided a very good solution, when the boy is still young, as he set the idea-bad faith will be punished! Both children and adults, whether tiger is mum, as long as the breach of the agreement, he must receive appropriate punishment. Therefore, we would like once again to this special mother-child agreement applause, which uses different format gives us a method of credit education.

People are advised to

While the benefits of parent-subsidiary agreements have as many, but not every child is suitable in this way, after all, also depends on the child\'s age, parents thrust of the agreements and the child\'s character.