Famous educationist of suchomlinski\'s pointed out that: parents is to create the future \"sculptor\" children\'s \"cornerstone\" is made up of parents laid hands, educate their own children is a fundamental obligation of citizens. Current, how to own of children training success, and let children win in starting line Shang has became each parents urgent concern of problem, but most parents often lack science of taught child method, they only with personal of intuition and some traditional experience to taught, this makes family education appears has many problem, produced has many errors, era development to today, we should for a new of thought, accept new of education thought, update own of education concept, out family education of errors.
A caress and move out of excessive family education misunderstandings.
Parents were docile and obedient to their children, to what to what, trying their best to meet the needs of children, depending on the child for the eye, not to let children \"grievance\". Such as weekend, a young mother from her children in the kindergarten, minor injuries found on the child\'s face, he asked: \"does kindergarten children scratch? \"The child nods, mother of fire:\" why don\'t you catch him? \"To find a teacher after sth Really sad Ah! Parents as \"love\" children can develop good character do? Can you meet the needs of society? Parents love to Chin Pei, of course, but parents should have a good think about this \"love\" my child, what will be the consequences? As a parent must be a clear understanding to: do not only harm the child\'s mind, also interferes with healthy growth of children! Educator makalianke said: \"all children, sacrificed everything, even sacrifice their own happiness, this is the worst gift parents give their children. \"Proletarian revolutionary comrade Liu Shaoqi\'s thought on children in the elementary school, coincided with the period of three years with hard, poor school meals, child body is getting thin, nurse recommended Liu Shaoqi home living children, but was rejected by Liu Shaoqi. He said: \"the child to remain in a hard place, be exercises and trials. \"This shows that the revolutionaries \' love, love is a reason, a true love, want parents on the basis of the reference, on children\'s love is appropriate, reasonable in love, love to teach, teaching love, so as to enable children to grow up healthy.
Second, out of the intelligence of the first family education misunderstandings.
Training to become children, is the common wish of all parents, but also the General spiritual of the hard work of parents. However, many parents focus on intelligence factors on the education of young children, focused only on the knowledge of them, restricting the growth of other factors is rarely involved. Think the baby only to College have great promise, to succeed, so that 3 or 4 children all day long back, back of Tang poetry and song words, recognize Chinese characters, is addition and subtraction, strangling the children love to play with nature, impeded the full development of young children. Intelligence is the ability of the heart and soul, developing intelligence in young children, cultivate the ability of young children is important. However, if family education focused only on the intellectual factors, results can be well imagined. Instead, if can from comprehensive development start, training they of self-confidence, and initiative, and adhere to sexual, and self-made force and brave spirit,, as: in daily life in the let child care adhere to own of things own do, makes child care believe own of forces, and be praised and encourages; Dang child care in do a pieces things, and due to other causes halfway Shi, on should timely to given urged, and encourages, makes they adhere to to things finished do; in game in the let child care served as some they does not like of role, to makes they of behavior obey collective requirements and so on, such on can makes they of normal intelligence to full to play.
Children are most afraid of loneliness was boring, boring is okay, they have a strong desire to always want to put in to a favorite activity to. When the children were absorbed into the activities of certain preferences when their hearts are full of \"sense of achievement\" pleasure of love ready. Parents should understand and respect the wishes of the child, providing freedom to explore the world and places for children, and enthusiastic encouragement. Because the interest, confidence is the driving force of progress. Even if the child does not have exceptional intelligence, as long as it has good psychological quality, or success in the future, on the contrary, might not like the achievements in the future, even a \"waste\". As parents, to make their children get on, it must be on the basis of intelligence factor in children, focusing on comprehensive development of young children. Children in early childhood is a scientific family education, they will benefit from the whole life.
Three, out of the atmosphere of bad family education misunderstandings.
With the rapid development of the society, another annoying issue of family education is, parents want children to become on the one hand, and on the other hand family atmosphere is not conducive to the children to grow up. Example: some parents often engage in fighting between brothers can creat, had a home, divorce, caused trauma to the children\'s souls; some parents are busy working all day, undertaking or business to make money, whether don\'t ask, swing for the kids, even in front of the children do not guard our own behavior of sth The saying goes: \"example is better than precept\" and \"examples are infinite\". Image of parents on children\'s influence was enormous, often beyond the understanding of people. Many of the child\'s personality, style, behavior is much like parents, genetic is not decisive, but mainly from the parents behave, in tact, evolved by subtle influence. Child care is usually very good at imitation, they tell of things are bad, as long as the parents and teachers say or do, think is good and right, the United States. They are used every day in the finest view of attention of all the issues and watching every move by adults, and deeds, all want to imitate everything wants to learn. Thus, parents will become the learning model of teacher. Parent\'s every move, a smile in thought, is the same as a vivid image of the map display in front of children, child care to parents \' interpersonal skills, gradually formed their own standard of right and wrong, good and bad values and behaviors. Therefore, it was also during this period of education called \"Atlas of education\". If the parents in the performance is good and appropriate, children see, learn, ear
Immerse dyeing, subtle, over time, children would have been good family education, and healthy development. Otherwise, as Lu Xun pointed out: \"parents \' disadvantage, is son perish in fuxian, life crises. ”Four, out of the material rewards of family education misunderstandings.
Bonus material reward and spiritual rewards can be divided into two. Rewarding children in nature and is not necessarily a bad thing, but you must be wise to choose when and where to use which rewards. If a child does anything expect material rewards, so without material reward when children become completely frustrated, they will see no material things are not even worth the effort. For example, when children in the bath is very obedient, tell him a story in the evening is more appropriate incentives. If you promise to buy a new toy for kids another day, it will go into the material rewards of family education misunderstandings. Incentive can really have a huge impact on the behavior of young children, so that children have a high degree of enthusiasm, but the effect is temporary. Parents think of incentive to only bring short-term effects of child care, and did not consider the harm caused to children. In the long run, this means destined to produce an adverse effect. When the child is after many incentive, it will become increasingly dependent on incentive, or even do a bit of ordinary thing as well. In addition, the stimulus actually means on child care capacity of materials suspected of, so often accept the incentive of child care, in addition to rely on incentive, also have an inferiority complex. Therefore, parents incentive should be used with caution, and with the spirit of encouraging method, to children with the spirit of the incentive to promote children\'s progress, reach the success of the other side.
Five out of the urgent \"ambitious for one\'s children\" family education misunderstandings.
Parents have high hopes for the kids, \"ambitious for one\'s children\", expect their children more than their higher learning, better treatment, better reputation. Thus regardless of the actual situation of the child, with a high standard to require children, early \"intelligence\" let the children reading English, back of Tang poetry, denying children a happy childhood. The saying goes: strong twisted melon is not sweet. Age characteristics of young children decided they love to play, love, poor self-binding nature, parents must consider these factors, and blindly let the child they wish to do. Parents of children not only failed to achieve \"ambitious for one\'s children\" good wish, but cannot play to their strengths, do nothing. At this time, instead of according to the child\'s interests, properly boot into advantages, has some positive effect on their future development.
Family is the cradle of education, family education as important part of education as a whole, I hope every parent can face up to teach in the mistakes and effectively change their backward teach concepts, science teaching methods, truly master tutor of art, and comprehensively improve their own quality of level of tutors and tutoring that will ultimately prevent tutor mistakes. May our families out of the success of the flower, bear the fruit of success!
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