Using reflect when listening to parents not only played a recorder, repeat the description of the child, but to organize children\'s story, and find the children hide feelings and really help children renders everything that they want to express feelings and needs.
Parents should pay attention to is:
1. \"stop, look, listen\"
Often emotional feelings are invisible, not touch things, parents are relevant to understand the child\'s feelings, and properly reflected, it depends on the parents of effective listening. To be an effective listener will need \"concentrate\" of Kung Fu, including: to make eye contact and attention and hearing: ears to receive and pass the \"I\'m listening to\" reflect information, give children some responses in a timely manner.
In fact, communication and not only is the language of conversation, sometimes non-verbal behavior: facial expression, eye contact, gestures, posture and tone will also pass the communication of information, some people believe that these non-verbal information may be passed by the behavior of communication more important than words, more authenticity, reliability and representativeness. If parents want to know the child feel inside, just by relying on their communication is not easy to achieve the objective of understanding of the language to talk, parents need to strengthen the non-observation of language and listening skills: stop, look, listen.
\"Stop\": temporarily stop work in progress, look at each other, providing children express their feelings of time and space.
\"Look\": look closely child communication non-verbal behaviour.
\"Listen\": listen to what children say.
2. for information on how non-verbal
Parents if you want to be a valid listener, you must communicate to their children understand the meaning of non-language behavior represents. Children will usually pass through the following behavior with different feelings:
(1) facial
Child\'s facial expressions will vary as different emotions and feelings, common:
Crying: may mean that the mental or physical injury, shy child, disappointed, upset and frustration, anger and other emotions.
Smile: could mean happiness, happy, nervous anxiety in disguise, contempt for others.
Throwing things: an emotion of anger, frustration, dissatisfaction, frustration vented.
Stiff fixed: could indicate a fear, fear, doubt, or stood aghast.
Shake: denied, do not agree.
Nod: consent, recognize, recognition.
Yawning: means boring, no interest, feeling sleepy or mentally incompetent.
Eyes focused: focused, have expressed interest.
Eyes to avoid contact: indicates that the feeling of anxiety, the lack of interest, shy.
(2) tone and speed
Talking stumble: perhaps it was nervousness, fear, sad emotional performance.
Talk: may mean is thinking or sad, frustrated, depressed, and unhappy.
Speak soon: may mean pride, joy or intense emotion.
Emphasize some Word: stressed that might talk is focused on content.
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