Currently our social environment caused a widespread: parents generally require or want the child\'s life than their own success, talent than their full. They feel in the heart of the parents is often the ideal side, in particular in daily life and rearing was reproduced in this negative side. Ideal is the parents tend to one heart and one mind, redouble our hard work pay, to farm out the child a better future. The negative side is that many parents one-sided set restrictions and standards on child development, its requirement for children generally beyond the child\'s mental age, thus causing various obstacles to children\'s development.
Many parents know this, but there are many people who feel unable to change yourself. Some people hear education merit has awakened, but in life and unwittingly began to hope that their children over other people\'s children, continues to make a habit of that set, forget the truth about education.
In fact, one essence is the parent of the child to become a model for children. United Kingdom psychologists in the book of xierweiya·kelaier potential in the control, said: \"If you are not going to achieve anything, you can\'t expect your children to do. \"If you are not going to achieve anything, you can\'t expect your children to do. \"\" The success of this first meaning is to become children, love, parents of imitation, the second is the other aspects of the career and life success.
These two achievements in social or adult point of view is the first one is more important, but for the children to the lasting importance of education, the first important achievements. Some people Excel at work, but rather poor communication with the children, when it finds a child\'s personality, mental development when things go wrong, he can do. On the work of some people in the flat, even failed to become a, but establish good parent-child relationship with their children, become a support force for the growth of their children. So when children encounter difficulties and setbacks, often with the more correct approach and attitude in the face. Because parents for his support to his psychological practical, confidence, thus withstood the failed. Under such a mentality, children can better use of all aspects of mind and ability to face difficulty in problem solving, pass through it.
In other words, had succeeded in establishing parent-child relationship between the parents, at least can make children with relatively smooth, happy life. From the perspective of all aspects of observation, so that children grow up and performance comparison of outstanding, have access to a particular aspect or a wide range of achievements.
But if parents \' Party on the basis of good parent-child relationship, career achievements, give children a complete example, after the children grew up in the high expectations of the itself, living and working in line for parents of the parties, is more strict with themselves, easier access to career and life success.
If the parents did not succeed success establishing parent-child relationship, the child may not only not successfully draw strength from the parents, but felt neglected and complain of health on the one hand, on the other hand feel pressure and reverse. Therefore, from the standpoint of the education of their children, establishing parent-child relationship is the achievement of the first importance.
To successfully establish parent-child relationship of parents, their first in terms of interpersonal skills for children and make an example: this is shown in the child love, rather than showing requirements, and bundles. Of course, said love was true love here, instead of spoiling. True love is in the child\'s care for the child as an independent, growing to respect life and training, respect is to encourage development of their freedom of individual life, health, training is in accordance with the objective law of life and growth of children to the space for them in developing their own capacities and conditions. True love is selfless, was paid to the children of flying. Spoiling is a requirement for children to meet too to boot them out to destroy their various desires, and thus they missed the life opportunities of access to life, with the result that grew up to be a destructive force. Spoiling is selfish, pay was subconsciously to children on their parents to be attached.
So good parent-child relationship to education a child know true love. But also here to emphasize that this love of high-quality and low, as the parents \' values may be. Parents \' values in the pursuit of virtue and stick is regarded as the first, is stuck as a pursuit of interests and also first, determined the child become a great development potential talent. We believe that the values of more importance to the pursuit of virtue, the more will bring long-term success and happiness of children.
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