Let the child \"liked\" their sex

Boy\'s mother doubts: son to be a girl?

Maybe when I\'m pregnant special wanted a girl, so often say girls to him, section Children\'s Day, he saw the girl beautiful hairpin-envy, often said to me: MOM, I have long hair, I have to wear a skirt!

Remember this summer, my mother gave me to do a small silk vest, result not very appropriate for me to Garbo when pajamas, I told him was skirt, what he was pleased with sth

Added that these days, he said want to be a wife again, alas, your baby will have such an idea?

Son like when girls do?

This time, son is very unusual: dress to wear PL, color bright! Socks to wear powder, also only play with brother, do not play with brother brother! Not dad, as long as the mother and grandmother, also wants to wear a skirt!

Ask him why?

A: I don\'t want to be a boy, I\'m a girl!

The baby on \"who I am\" began after an initial concept, baby gender awareness began to be an important part of self-consciousness. Baby physiological gender awareness on General easy to grasp, can clearly knew that he was a boy or a girl. But with the growth of the baby, baby also needs psychological understanding of gender concepts, understand their own appropriate gender roles to play in social behavior, this is what we call gender identity and gender role.

It is worth mentioning is that gender on the physiological and psychological gender identity is sometimes not consistent, some phenomena of gender identity disorder can occur, which makes them very painful, often feels himself in an error body. Therefore, the baby well know sex education and understanding of gender roles is MOM and Dad can not be ignored.

Baby gender identity development in 3 steps

From the moment of baby born, baby gender of marks, from names, clothes, toys, to conduct requirements, lifestyle, parents expect their baby from MOM and dad treats them gradually in the attitudes and behavior requires understanding of gender.

First step-before the age of 3 for understanding gender is only external features

3 years ago say their sex of the baby can be very loud, but their understanding of the gender characteristics of external level. At the beginning, baby is curious asked her mother, he is a boy or a girl; as is and the mother, is also the same as father. Gradually, they learn to come from the hairstyles, clothes tell male or female, but they also is unlikely to be able to really understand the different men and women, at the same time they do not understand that sex is constant change.

Second step 4 on gender consciousness started rich

To 4 years old baby gender consciousness began to enrich many. Their gender differences are more curious than at the age of 3. For example, when baby discovered toilet for men and women differently, often curiously asked, \"why do guys have to pee standing, sitting and girls want to pee? \"Similarly, their own genitals or have had a curious, wanted to see their own and others do not, on the basis of experience to the difference in male and female genital mutilation. In some cases, hear someone bring \"chicken chicken\" term would find mysterious and all chortled with laughing. Even baby because it is too curious, games such as play off his trousers. When the baby\'s gender stereotype is also strengthened. They firmly believed that boys playing with a doll is incorrect, the girls can\'t play those war games.

Third step-after the age of 5 really start understanding of gender differences

Baby really start understanding of gender differences, they know that in addition to appearances of the different, also includes a different genital. If you ask them, what boys and girls are different, most commonly heard answer is probably: \"boys are not allowed to wear skirts\", \"girl with long hair\". But if you ask, they will hesitate to tell you: \"the boy has chicken chicken, women did not. \"Due to the understanding of gender, baby gender also on the sensitive, beginning to understand that embarrassed and disqualification. They really understand sex does not vary over time, the external characteristics, desire to change.

In the understanding of gender role, preschool baby will be a lot of toys, clothes, tools, games, career, and even color and a sex linked, and another gender strict quarantine, form impressions very stereotyped gender roles, this phenomenon until the child will only be mitigated.

5 recommendations guiding baby gender awareness

Parents should be cautious about the potential impact of the awareness of gender roles.

Acceptance of sex by MOM and dad will affect the baby\'s own gender recognition. For example, if the mother because of their work and family is too busy, sometimes complain about \"do women really tired\", which may give rise to daughter is pessimistic about their gender. Gender differences, advantages and disadvantages but no good or bad, MOM and dad should have a positive attitude in life, baby should be understood: everyone is unique, worthy of respect, value, regardless of sex, everyone can play to their potentials, to display their talent. Best, can become the best of themselves.

Pay attention to the influence of rearing on baby gender awareness.

Parents raising a baby from birth will continue to affect them. MOM and dad to themselves, they dream – boys birth to a girl, girl gave birth to the boy, their baby, dressed up as the opposite gender, young baby think anyway, not realizing the differences. In fact, these ambiguous attitude very easily on baby gender identity confusion, impeding the normal development of gender awareness.

Baby set a good example of gender roles.

Parent is baby perfect example of gender roles in daily life in the physical and Visual contact with baby from the mother who understand women\'s role, from Dad who know male roles, from the parents on the trust of the opposite sex, so MOM and dad to pay attention to your body\'s gender identity, or even a character, which impact on the baby is for life. MOM and Dad can take advantage of natural scenes in the life for baby to understand different gender roles, such as when Dad\'s hard work, comfort with the mother and daughter father, reflected women\'s gentle and understanding father and son to do heavy work, felt his son as a man of strong and strength.

Respecting the temperament type of baby birth, don\'t send baby sets sex on chains.

Although produced in the process of social development of many gender stereotypes, but with the development of society, the role of men and women in their certain neutral is already rendered on. Strictly defined gender roles of standards was harmful, masculine and feminine are relative to the same extent of Poles, people inherently bi-sexuality. So in the normal development of sexual identity, subject to restrictions should not be too many baby hobby, so as not to impede the development of their personality.

Attention to the unique role of father in baby gender awareness in development.

Psychologists found that father treated his son and daughter\'s attitude and behavior there are large differences, differences and mother\'s attitude and behavior of their children than fathers as obvious. For example, in the game, the father will strictly in accordance with the standard to require children under the social gender roles (in particular, it requested the son) play those games for their gender, while the mother is always afraid of children knock, touch, and treat children in a gentle manner without distinction.

In game activities in the, father is in a unique of location up effect baby of activities and on activities of select of, they always than mother more to encourages children of independence spirit, engaged in exploration activities, help baby master skills, and get experience, in these game activities in the gradually training has men children of masculine of gas, also makes girls gradually out has only for quiet game of traditional bound, makes they in meek of character in the added has cheerful, and bold, and confidence, fine quality.

Children pointing the penis asked parents what is

Fly fly Mama said: most children like to bathe, my son, too. In the bath when I will play some games with him, or teach him some things the way. For example, baby bath time, I will wash says: \"wash the neck. \"\" Wash back. \"\" Wash ass, wash legs. \"Let the children correctly perceived in all parts of the body, I think to do is teach children knowledge and exchanges between parents bring happiness. But this time the bath, he pointed to the penis asked me: \"what is this? \"How do I answer it???

We have learned: boy at the age of 1 may have erectile, girls also have the phenomenon of lubrication of the vagina, 3~4sui children to pregnancy, childbirth, breast, and other interested know that gender differences, and there are some activities, such as touching the sexual organs, speak to change, concerns and questions. Parents should be frank answer children\'s questions, said \"this is the penis\", \"this is the vulva\" and so on, must not be reprimanded, and accuse them of, dirty, dirty feeling caused to the child sex organs.??

If the 1 year old children, bath likes to play with their genitals, parents of intuition may be: \"bad playing the organ, should be promptly stopped. \"May also be worried: little interest have occurred on older, grow up and where will it all end in the future. In fact, this is completely redundant to the sensitive and worrying. From the perspective of children\'s mental development, 1 to 1 and a half children handle organ, does not mean that on the occurrence of sexual interest, they also do not know what is sexual desire. Child body naked have a particular interest in the bath, only their bodies to attract their attention. In a world where children, exploring new things is what they are trying to understand and experience the most direct way of all things, first of all, experience itself is natural and normal.??

In the psychological phenomenon, \"notes\" have a special status, it is not a separate mental processes, do not belong to individual characteristics, but an important aspect of mental activity, is also a prerequisite of access to knowledge. \"Takes note\" is the object of consciousness on a certain set, to ensure that access to particularly clear response. Therefore, the child\'s curiosity is the individual\'s normal performance.??

When the child is playing with their own ears, Mama will smile on dad said: \"you see, he played his own ears had a more serious, more fun. \"When a child pulled his feet, easily put toes into his mouth when mother also said with a laugh:\" you see, his Deputy, more interesting. \"But when the children touched while playing their sex organs, parents will not have the above reaction of interest, many parents may also be pulling faces, pulling the scolded child hand said:\" no! \"This fuss over the opposite attitude of parents, will lead to greater interest of the child. Different reaction of parents on child behavior, reflects their prejudices on sexual and sexual organs, or you will not to children playing with their ears, toes and playing with sex organs to take the opposite attitude. Because of the traditional view is that is \"dirty\" and \"shame\" thing. Don\'t look down on this kind of thing, parents of this bias will be left in children in young minds the impression that: \"the ears and toes are good, you can play. Sex organ is not good, can not play, play is the bad boy. \"Parents scolded and punished may prevent children from an early age develop sexual organs of sense of shame and guilt, resulting in oppression of, on child development of the consciousness of extremely unfavorable. Information indicates that many sexual problems of adults, are in childhood masturbation or other sexual activity is being scolded by parents of history, resulting in a frigid sexual dysfunction, impotence, premature ejaculation, etc.??

Therefore, the correct attitude towards family sex education should be: let it be for sex education.??

Regardless of the parents themselves on what attitude to take, should not prevent a child\'s curiosity, and should take its course for education. For child care, whether touch ears and playing with the toes and genitals, motivation is a, is itself an exploration. If parents to make children aware of their name for the various parts of the body: this is the ears, this is the toe, it is the navel, which is penis sth Can make the child feel every part of the body is OK, is itself an essential part of the. Handle one\'s own sex organs for the kids, can play with toys, storytelling and other transfers of children attention, also warned the children, because the hands dirty, with bacteria, like not sucking fingers, rubbing eyes, can\'t handle sex organs. This will enable the child to the parts of your body, including the sex organs have a healthy and correct understanding, which is laying the Foundation for children for the future confidence.