First, a few common things in our lives.
Zhang Ling\'s daughter home from kindergarten, Mama said, this class has a children joke she wears glasses, her nickname, she felt very uncomfortable. Zhang Ling, it\'s very small, said: \"what do you think of mother all know. Okay, go play. ”
Li Yuan\'s son told Li Yuan said: \"I will not play with little June says, he was too selfish, not just grab my toy, also pushed me. \"Li Yuan replied:\" don\'t speak, little June says is a good boy, is surely you did wrong, he will push you. ”
Son of Wang Xia came back to tell mother, for kindergarten \"Liuyi\" Festival, the teachers are selected dance team, he is on the hope that I can be selected by the teacher. Wang Xia confidently told his son: \"you will be able to be selected--because your dance is the best in your kindergarten, others are not as good as you. ”
Xin Zhao\'s daughter cry to Mama some students made fun of her long pair in the class \"prominent ears.\" Xin Zhao comforted her daughter said: \"your ears are not prominent ears; Furthermore, whatever you like, MOM love you. ”
Similar dialogue will appear in the day in our lives do not know how many times, and most of them are from the parents of their concern and care for their children. Many parents know, MOM and dad say to their children will have a positive or negative impact on children, with subtle function. Successful family education to avoid criticism, irony or intimidate children, while enthusiasm to actively guide and encourage. However, know what should I do, and does not guarantee that the parents for the child, it\'s very small spoken words are constructive. Several examples are good in front of parents may say the wrong thing for the kids.
Take what Zhang Ling example. In fact, concerned about their child\'s parents, nor is it possible anytime, anywhere, accurately know how children feel and impact of her emotional changes cause, the reason is simple: is not a child of parents, and no first-hand experience children\'s experiences. Zhang Ling\'s intent is to resolve children sadness, but instead of telling what her children, mother and have no interest to understand, or did not care about her feelings. Zhang Ling\'s answers may also have a negative consequences, it\'s daughters might want to say to Mama to resolve her own feelings, get some comfort from the mother, but her mother said all she wanted to go back. Such a situation occurred much later, Zhang Ling\'s daughter may never want to tell my mother my mind. In fact, encountered such a situation, parents should put down things on hand, give children a few minutes of time, say to kids: \"what happened in kindergarten, with my MOM to talk. \"And then depending on the understanding to provide some guidance for their children. Sometimes doing the children a good audience, is more useful than preaching!
We\'ll analyze Wang Xia said: Wang Xia told his son he was dancing in one of the best in kindergarten, it may be for purpose of sons are encouraged or is telling the truth. But if Wang Xia are not careful and often use the \"\" character, it might be heavy on the heart of a child component, become the child\'s psychological burden--if not selected, would that shows they are not the best one? High expectations--both father and mother to child was a child on their own – plus occasional mistakes, accumulating much will make the children have a tendency to self-doubt, becoming their own lack of confidence. In fact, in a similar situation, Wang Xia may wish to say: \"you can dance well, if this can be selected by the teacher of course good, selected not does not matter, the next time you will also have the opportunity. \"In this way, children from the mother can still be encouraging, but it would not be as\" one of the best \"to withstand the pressure.
Smaller children, the more will see the words father and mother as \"absolute\" truth to understand. But in fact we know that changing daily life, not a fixed pattern. Most happy children tend to be those most able to adapt to environmental changes around confidence, calm face of setbacks, on their own children. Therefore, parents and children in everyday conversation, to note to guide him in this direction.
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