Vs Linkin Park: fathers are permanent care

\"San Mao once said that she did not dare to have a child, because she can\'t afford the care that mood. I have a child so I can understand, really, daughter not my eyes for a moment, I am very worried. The worry about feeling, I deeply understand the parents on the upbringing of his grace, that is not a physico-chemical actions, it is a never-ending worry about. ”

On a sunny afternoon, I met vs Linkin Park-see very heavy-the daughter of sports \"mouth\". Usually used to listen to his passionate interpretation, now he says his daughter Vivian speaking and say that they did a father, his gentle tone to get me confused for a moment. Chatting chatting, I gradually learned, Daddy kin Cheung is so sincere and introverted, so relaxed and modest, although not on the football, but he does say is just as accurate and in place of the father, as one deeply.

Father, means a never-ending care

Did dad, for kin CHEUNG,, not just harvested a lovely daughter, after having a baby, he felt that he had also followed her start a second life. Completely different, the entire people\'s inner world, work status, State of mind, understanding and view of life on the world is not the same. Also, \"only when the father, to appreciate the meaning of man, only they have a deeper understanding of parents only child only sense of deeper understanding of blood family. Life bit by bit since childhood care, education to grow, it is a mood, that all the care of felt, and some fear the kind of mood, this was no alternative to anyone. ”

Speaking of which, Jian Xiang mutter for a moment, then said I moved to deep: \"when we go to school like watching near the source of the book, after San Mao had said things to children. She said she did not dare to have a child, because she can\'t afford the care that the mood, I have a child to understand, really, she has a moment out of my eyes, I worried, afraid of what accidents, lost her. And every moment are wondering she is eating well put on sleep, I if it is not her only when her mother together with her, I will rest assured. The worry about feeling, I can understand parents for their upbringing of TU, is not only a embodied a move, not just for you to give you shit you put to your washing urine, it really is a never-ending worry about. ”

With children, to uphold the kindness of an Angel

Did his father, Kin CHEUNG that he had matured, became a more virtuous men. \"I feel after having a baby, the heart becomes very soft, especially not aggrieved children suffer. Sometimes I can not understand, some parents of people doing some immoral things in public, they are the children of others, as well as other people\'s parents, how can they do we do things in life? I sometimes even with a sympathetic eye to see their children, they too, unfortunately, live in an environment like that. ”

Kin Cheung education concept is simple, daughter\'s coming like an Angel, he increasingly felt that a man should be more good and noble: \"I believe in a good environment to grow up children, should the capacity are not poor, she will at least have a sound personality, more developed mind, she should be able to face all kinds of situations. I mean, you can teach your child the world beauty and ugliness, but you can\'t because the world is ugly and ugly way to teach your children to deal with ugly. ”

Daughter father only lover

Kin cheung, any woman in the world have no daughters on his importance. \"Her mum often asked me if I\'m with baby ranks, who first, I dare not say, for fear she called me, I would say your first baby ranked second. And then she said, I first your second baby, and then my heart just steal music, in fact, I was thinking of. Because the child weak, she needed parental care, you can\'t deny her daughter to what, you can\'t say no, so be sure to control ourselves, to her healthy growth, sometimes due to say. ”

Sometimes, my daughter really was moved to tears by his. Kin Cheung have acute appendicitis, pain in head one night one night, more badly hurt the next day. Go to the hospital before surgery, from Nanjing\'s father gave him a massage to relieve pain. \"When the daughter ran, Grandpa said, your father\'s pain, you come to make him a squeeze. She was only 1 year 5 months, came and stood next to me, with a small hand swish swish swish swish pinch me, Grandpa says you give dad blew it doesn\'t hurt, she blow blowing-bashing-bashing. Since there was pain in one night, very hard, may people are weak, the pain I can carry live, a pinch her little hands, my tears, Hua down. Just think of your children give, is this flesh and blood affection, she will be paid. ”

Dad is the daughter of the most firm support

To hear him say, I gradually he is infected with: \"do you think that if no child will be shortcoming? \"My voice is not falling, Jian Xiang can\'t wait answer:\" of course, of course, I now regret. I would also like to second the third child, it is not allowed to second. Boys and girls to tell the truth I really does not matter, very much, I wanted to, both boys and girls, to how the two might be better. ”

\"Ever, to play football if son can follow you? \"\" Is. My daughter has now followed me to play football, run she play in the next to hold the ball playing, with another aunt and uncle brought the children to play, also very happy. ”

\"I regret not say daughter can\'t play football. I feel that, as a man, recalling their own growth, summary to reflect on themselves, always feel some regret, if you try again may do better. If you have a son, a father has the

-Like a dream, or is a paranoid, is to copy its own, delete many defects, is an updated version of their, own an upgrade version, people always want to do their upgrade. But the daughter, yet, because the world requirements and demands of men to women is not the same. Nothing on her request, as long as her health, happiness, peace and happiness on it, but you have no such upgraded version of their opportunities. Even if she got you a lot, absorption of you a lot of things, but demonstrated to daughter, and the boy is not the same. ”

Kin Cheung last proudly announced their ambitions: \"say not should be modest, I feel that they are a very good very noble man, I hope that for the next generation of little girls a good young men, but now only left them a strong competitor, is my daughter. I will always be her strongest supporters. ”-

Wife of Jian Xiang \"reviews\":

Vs Linkin Park is a good father. He special patient, at home, and daughters mad play, high, see Swan Lake, with the antenna of the baby, jump with their daughter in the bedroom. May be due to their traditions, their father and daughter relationship very well. He also never daughter badly and never speak loudly on her, always reasonable. Special buy Dad\'s daughter also accounts, says dad is angry, she would not have to do.

Baby, a cool dry place

Baby, a cool dry place

Baby mother not father to do?

Dang children appears like wrapped around with mother, not father of case Shi, must don\'t anxious with blamed he, has may is do father of usual negligence on children of concern and care, and performance out of a protest reaction; to improve parent-child between of parent-child relationship, best every day spent some time accompany children together playing, and with he chat, and told story to children listen to sth sth, understanding children psychological idea, also let children understanding father of love.

Many fathers complained: \"children just like pestering my mother not father, he is my child? \"I always say:\" he was your child, but you are certainly not a warm father. ”

Causes of alienation and father

If you have such a problem, let us do a little testing, should be not difficult to figure out why. Don\'t find a reason when answering the question, yes or no? With or without? Only select one answer ....

1. do you go home every day in front of the kids didn\'t sleep?

2. you will help your child change diapers, foam milk, please?

3. have attentively accompanied children playing time 1 hour a day?

4. you say good night story, for he did accompany him for a walk or play ball?

5. do you often speak to him and holding him?

6. the children crying, you have the patience to coax him?

If more than a few simple questions, your answer is \' no \', then the child not to father is normal. Said of reality and presence of father for children, there is no difference, because in his world, you\'re just a familiar face, perhaps as father you feel uneven, is busy working every day to see who?

Baby from was born to entered youth period Qian, may is parents only can to time accompany he, and established close parent-child relationship of when, if missed, dang children slowly grew up, has has own of world, parents wanted to accompany he may even opportunities are no has, but in children most need of this stage, father is often for cause, and for make money, with off has all of spirit and time, no time accompany children is a facts, is also into has killed parent-child relationship of culprit, dang father found own in children of heart, seems to does not was attention, and and children does not parents of status appears, wants to cover often need spent is long of a time, and tried to to boot, this on father, and on children are will will is a terrible of suffering.

Interaction time is the key

Children a few ago already have parades, often appears in front of him, always hold out, those who accompany him, if not the mother, will become the object of his dependence. But at this stage if the father time enough, children stuck mother not father, emerged naturally very easily.

Actually, 3 or 4 aged Shi baby has knows expression own of preferences emotional, and does not lie, full vocational of mother on where where care has plus, regardless of where where do what will accompany in he side, relative of, father although will took with family travel, but personality does not lively of father, and help qqll job Zhijian of interactive is does not more, in where where of world in and no habits father accompany Ah! Only when the car where the where the only feel the existence of the father because MOM can\'t drive, help qqll job you just learn to talk, even called the taxi driver \"Dad\", perhaps in his cognitive, driving is Daddy here!

Personality affect parent-child relationship

In addition to father is too busy, Dad\'s personality sometimes leads to children do not want to or can\'t close, particularly naturally shy baby more vulnerable, with a few small problems to test, if the unpopular father?

Good father to the baby happy home

Tolstoy said, \"happy families are like, unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. \"We are here to borrow that phrase, I would like to say that for those of us immersed in breeding the next generation of families, the\" happy families are like, because there is a good father \".

I only work a total of 15 people, mostly young people of similar age, several female colleagues are in two or three years in succession in marriage, pregnancy, birth, so our conversation naturally shift from fashion, movie stars, fashion a child, her husband, family.

Hard work, material foundation for the baby\'s growth

Small, lush is a large company\'s Manager, has been living out of a week to go back home, so when we complained about her husband late when she will be on the sidelines shouted: \"well, do not not contented, my husband but 6:30 morning a week to go out, go home until 10 o\'clock on Friday night! \"Strange, say these words when her face does not look of resentment, but full of happiness and sweet. Small lush of daughter two aged does not to, to care children convenient, she and daughter long-term live in maiden, will own of house rental, monthly will has has a copies considerable of income, husband expensive of income and phase poly Shi double of considerate natural to will separation between of regrets cover was seamless, daughter also is not due to father of alienation and has diaphragm, every day hold with phone called \"father\" Shi, that copies dainty and close should order small lush jealous was.

As a father, while you struggle may not be able to provide the baby to grow everything you need, but you every drop of sweat, your every effort can make the child go on the road of life in the future more real collapse.

Soul care, let the baby feel warmth of love

Star is engaged in software development, is stylish SOHO owners, while working at home saves horse suffering from Lawton, but work was not easy. However, work at home always have convenient, you can have a lot of time with his son. A long time, knows \' habits of stars, compared to her mother\'s victory over a raised, such as when to drink water, when to eat, when to add clothing, when to sleep, and so on. Stars came home at night, young couple accompany children with mad play, although there is no help for the elderly, but also enjoyable. Husband often work in front of a computer late into the night of stars, so midnight 12 points of the feed are also by him take everything on oneself, stars sleep to burning daylight, effort and worry, of course, satisfaction.

Come mothers take parental age, now people are increasingly aware of, the father of the role and function are irreplaceable, whether thick lines of love, also were showers of love, for fostering a healthy personality and mental health of the baby, is essential.

Good-natured, conservation high, to be a good dad

Talk about me, my husband is a secondary school language teachers, surprisingly good temper, and I was an impetuous, also very emotional, good mood, even children can laugh away his house, bad mood when he tore the paper all can be beaten. In view of this, husband and I agreed, \"educated\" the two words separately, I to raise, he came to teach, make suggestions to each other, but generally don\'t interfere with each other. Due to her husband\'s good nature, is teamwork, both of us, home air never nervous, every day is filled with laughter and, now, child 10 months, looking dignified and strong, sweet one.

It seems that old brain: you want to change a modified, Daddy don\'t need straight face all day long, a hard father IE one who treats his children severely has kindly side, put down your shelves, smiled, and baby become one, you will have a lot of harvest.

Both ways, doing a clever dad

Since the small alignment after birth to a son, her mother come to their House to watch the children, she said, her mother very carefully, and very well looked after grandchildren, is a bit too trivial, and stubborn temper very, did not listen to others advice. While we gesanchawu to small align complained, but have never heard her say conflict and mother thing, which is strange, little Miss alignment is a Jiao, who she can\'t stand. Ask know, thanks to her \"man\" of the husband, when she and her mother is going to conflict when her husband was always at the right time, appears in the right place, make a joke, putting both comfortable, just touches, inadvertently eliminate war in intangible.

Happy home should be full of quiet and peace, it seems, how to do a lubricant of the family, this is also the father to be painstaking cultivation by about a subject.

Building a happy family, raising a healthy child, this is a time-consuming project, in the process, we do not require the husband to provide what a solid material Foundation, also not asking them to a man of great talent, be wealthy in knowledge, it is important, he wants to love our children, to love the House. We are a group of ordinary and have contented women, in fact, the baby and we are the same, as long as they can always feel parental love, he will feel happy. Thank the good fathers of babies, for they give a baby happy home.

You are \"good father\"

In the rich and complex human feelings in the world, as parent love with love, is a very important factor, is also a great and noble emotions. Parent love love is a deep, serious, in the eyes of love give more consideration to the future.

Raising children is often seen as the important duty of the mother. Starting from the babies come into the world with a cry, mother began and dedicated to their every whim, even endure pains silently to give away what one loves his job and become a full-time mother, so that he could better care for their children. However, some people tend to ignore the father also has significant value in the education of children, even compared to mothers to perhaps gone beyond. A long time, people affected by the traditional Chinese \"men outside the home, at home,\" the influence of, in infants and young children in the process of upbringing and parent-child communication, more attention to mother-infant relationship, often neglect the important role of the father in the course of infant education. And father themselves often believe that mothers of infant education is the main force, their powerful educative role until after the children go to school and then play. In fact, when the father\'s absence, alienate or busy with their families, children lose more than just one \"Assistant mother\". Father even put the child into his shoulders \"riding horses\", or children holding high in the air \"by air\", young minds will have an enormous impact on children. Many psychologists believe that father this kind of \"wild\" style of play, can provide the child with a learning mood of important ways. For a child, he loved his mother, but more need to father.

Father and socialization

The socialization of men and women in our society, is not difficult to see, apart from differences in temperament, a father and mother in there are a lot of different abilities and interests. For example, the father may be more inclined to arbitrariness and independence, while the mother is tending to a high level of interpersonal sensitivity and ability to convey emotion.

For children,, father has many education and socialization of function, he on external world of experience and knowledge put to for children provides key of protection and support, can given children a beyond family range broad of competitive of social consciousness, while, in help children solution authority, and moral quality development, and self-control and achievements sense, aspects of problem Shi, father is a special of important example. A high achievement expectations of father involvement is very important. In the persistence and success motivation problem analysis and problem solving skills in the areas of education, father is big.

Father and gender roles

Gender roles in children\'s development and gender development in adaptive behavior, his father had a particularly important impact. Generally, there is a passive, no influence of fathers of boys than there is a willingness to make decisions in the family\'s father less masculinity of boy. Father provided a living for his son, has a model of masculinity. Effect of father to his daughter is also very important, paternity not only offer girls a and a model of interactions between different sexes, also for girls a positive self-concept of the feminization of development.

Father of missing children from friends, relatives and other men there to find the right father substitute, and a child without intervention of father growing up, found only a stereotyped image of adult males. Such an unsuitable father causes children to adult male biased, because of his positive example of masculinity to find is carried out in a narrow range.

When it is not appropriate with heterosexual, the father of individual, children will be a lot of problems in future. Problems tend to occur frequently in the parent loves lost children, because the relationship between mother and child are close, but lack of observation of the right of exchange opportunities between men and women. When they reach adulthood, uncoordinated behavior also often appears in love and marriage, and the father is total and inappropriate. Exchanges between the father and child than father just take the time to stay home far more important to. Father in his friends or work may be in power and vitality, but if this is your home to create a he \"does not exist\" atmosphere, such as newspaper, television or on its own NAP on the couch, and so on, without development and interaction with the children, this parent love loss is likely to cause the child to produce various psychological disorders in the development of gender roles.

Father and family interaction

Want to emphasize is that father behavior occurs not in a vacuum. Such as a form of family and culture, age, gender and child development are important factors. Relationship between the parents is to a large extent determined the role of fathers in the child\'s personality development. Their parents give their children provided an important model of the relationship between men and women. In between the parents is a well-behaved, loving family of mutually acceptable, they would go to face the different needs of everyone, and reasonable sharing of child-rearing responsibilities. Discord of their parents tend to the negative impact on children, such as a strong desire for control father would seriously hinder the development of the child\'s autonomy and independence. Psychological functioning of children needs to be developed under the warm acceptance of both parents.

Standard good father

In the access to several mothers do, I deliberately asked a question of numerous proceedings: \"what do you think is the standard of the good father? \"Don\'t laugh at my corny, in fact, this problem can really reflect the expectations of the wives of her husband. If you really can do this, I am afraid that is not only popular baby good father, was welcomed by the wife of a good husband.

Have patience

This is the most basic conditions of good father and baby needs most, patience actually implies love, from which the father\'s love for her baby apparent.

Have a good knowledge of parental

Good Daddy rich and correct knowledge, not only in the baby growing up playing an important role, but also for the prestige of establishing himself in the minds of babies is also very important.

Carefully doing things seriously

Even as an ordinary people, this is also the advantage. Careful and serious father, will keep baby comfortable and relaxing, but also allows the baby to the subtle learned these virtues.

Honest sincere

This is all good is the quality of babies to know how to behave, father of the lead more than endless preaching.

Have a healthy body

And baby playing, with baby travel, hold fast asleep or ill baby sth These rely on father strong physique and heavy arms, so good father should cherish the body, regular exercise, always ready to fulfil duties of the father.

Strong responsibility and relationship with his wife and harmony

Childhood is a good father bounden responsibility, affectionate with his wife harmony is the cornerstone of baby\'s healthy growth.

As for taking the time to accompany the children

Good dad and baby rapport is established in the prolonged exposure, has never accompany baby play playing father, should be \"bad\" Dad\'s typical.

With an open mind

The sea accepts hundred River, greatness. Good father opened broad minds, not only broaden your baby\'s vision, and let the baby more acts to ease, creativity, not timid.