The ancients: \"child not taught, of the father. \"I very much agree with this statement. Is the fault of the parents produce children without education, taught well, of course, first of all, is the responsibility of parents. I deeply feel that family education in China has become a very serious issue.?? China one-child policy has been more than 20 years, and now most of the family structure is \"4-2-1\" type, namely Grandpa and Grandma, Grandpa, Grandma, my father, mother and a child. Previously children and more time, is the pet of children to parents, now the other way round, several elders struggle to spoil a person was \"thousands of pet in a\" Ah! seniors compete spoiled children, it is easy to form children to self-centered psychological state. In many people\'s awareness, love child is tantamount to giving, and often material given. Children to give whatever, have to pay for it, to toys to the toy, to eat KFC Kentucky Fried chicken, as long as your own presentable, it will not hesitate to give their children even sometimes to come up with, but also an impudent attempt to represent the defeat as a victory, borrow money bought for children. Some children now a pair of famous brand sports shoes will be five hundred or six hundred dollars and a birthday party to spend thousands of dollars, child\'s vanity was met, the vanity of parents have been met, because the child a brand, that reflects the success of parents!?? This case the parent-child relationship showed two features:?? First, the children with their parents completely into the relationship between the request and grant without peer exchange. In the minds of children, parents are endless and his endless copies is a natural thing. There is one little thing, I have been impressed. Time I saw a lamb kebab in street father, sweat moment keeps roast is busy, she did not smoke smoked one, regardless of sweat, just looking to sell a few more grilled lamb, earning a few dollars. At this time he was 10 years old daughter ran to him: \"my father gave me 20 bucks! \"Father without hesitation, right hand side of rolling furnace continuous rapid lamb kebab, touch money immediately on the left hand and pass the past:\" quick, don\'t let smoke with you! \"Money going to do? Without even asking asked. He would earn 20 dollars need to roast lamb kebab! I in Huazhong Normal University College students quality education lessons, first of all, it tells of the family, tells of the parent-child communication and care. Once a girl said to me: \"pottery teacher, my mother said I progress this term. \"I said that you didn\'t come home again this term, my mother has never been, how did your MOM know you changed? She said her mother through her cell phone knows she has changed. I find it very strange, one asked knows things are like this: her mother often come with telephone, asking her enough money, asked her very delicious meal, live good, enough clothes to wear, she never received her mother\'s phone are very impatient, too her MOM?? NFDA1?` road, Orange are subject to change w a kind of net used for fishing or for dredging up river sludge, etc.?, mother to phone, recently asked her how she easily questions and answers: \"I have very good. MOM, how are you recently? \" Telephone the head suddenly had no voice, she\'s busy and asked: \"MOM, what\'s wrong with you?\" Mother stood brought to a halt, and then choked on her daughter said: \"daughter Ah, 20 years, your first \' mother what has happened to you. Child you wiser! ”??
Second, parents of children and parent-child relationship of materialistic, money, money became a sign of measuring feelings and love. In one case, a couple with their 19-year-old came to me, want me to help children and estrangement between them. I asked the boy, why hate parents, his hands, confidently exclaimed: \"they don\'t give me the money! \"I asked:\" what they want to give you money! To know their parents \' money is not your money, is their bleeding by the sweat of one\'s brow, for a 19-year old child, there is no law requiring parents to give you money. \"But a lot of children not even understand this simple truth. Our University, many students learning fuck up, mixed day is day, why is this happening? One very important reason is that they spend parents \' money, and parents fail to make the child aware of their money to come by, but sometimes pretended to be easy: \"my child, rest assured that as long as the learning needs, there is no problem, your peace of mind. \"Make the children feel like money is easier, so they are tough to deplore the parents money. Measured with money and material feelings are always wrong, and can cause bad results, especially in family relations. United States there is a Chinese American parents, education danchuan son gave me three generations of his family. The boy called Eric, looks very cute, but learning is a mess. I have learned over time, conduct, learning has improved significantly. One day his mother and he said to me: \"pottery teacher Ah, thank you very much on the cultivation of Eric, but I have to bother you about it. \"I asked what happened, she said:\" his English exam has 100 last month, her grandparents fainted, get the whole family driving to the largest store, what he refers to what to buy, and then went to restaurants meimei celebration has doubled. Mathematics is 100 in a few days, and go shopping, and to celebrate one. Later 100 points almost every day, if you don\'t, he burst into tears cried out: \' I don\'t have 100 points in the examination! \' Do what you see, pottery teacher? \" My criticisms: \"who wants you to celebrate your child\'s 100?\" She said: \"the pottery teacher, he is always zero, a few minutes, 100 points in the examination can we not happy about it?\" \" Be happy also cannot! \"\" Well, what? \"she asked. I said, \"study of the child by 100 points, for you to see, you seriously take a look at and say: Oh, really 100 which, Gee, MOM really happy!, I have work, bye! you with affection to stimulate and commended children\'s self-motivated, instead of material of this parent-child relationship. \"She said after hearing deep understanding. At the same time, I immediately called the child, and first on his progress for sure, and then let him to study hard is mainly for his own future, and not just for parents. After that, he not only did he make trouble at home and study harder, self-motivated and more.
?? Many parents laborious efforts for children, children who do not appreciate the results. A parent calling painfully asked me: \"I give the child everything, why is he so hates me? \"In addition, some of the less well-off parents grant is carrying faggots, paid not the fire never dies, you subsequently cannot meet when his growing desire, his resentment of course came.??
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